I think i am infertile and when i told my cousin she scolded me and said "don't say that" and said that i could be "fixed".....i have come to terms with my infertility and wouldn't mind adopting kids....but why is it such a big deal?...if i'm cool with it why does it matter so much to other people that i cannot produce kids and am not interested in being "fixed"?
I think adopting is good for everyone involved and is a noble unselfish act of love why can't my family see that instead of condemning me and my views?
Please help!!!
2006-07-05 07:13:30 · 17 answers · asked by TRU_TEXAN 3 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Adoption is an unselfish act of love. Also a win win situation..There are tons of unloved children out in the world. Children that need a home, caring,affection among other things. I have 4 adopted brothers and 1 adopted sister whom I love very much. Although all of us ( and they) know they are adopted. We love, argue , fight she like any other family because we are a family..and as long as when you adopt a child you understand that it will take time , commitment, PATIENCE and lots of love you should have a great family.
2006-07-05 07:23:36 · answer #1 · answered by ricanprincess 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Never assume you are infirtile, always use birth control. This is a very hard thing to predict medically. You may have to adopt, or you may be able to have your own child with medical help. Best thing to say to people is that you don't know. Because you really don't. That's the sort of thing that should be kept very private because people don't know what to do with the information and often misuse it with gossip, etc...
If I were you I may even go as far as to say, yeah, I was worried about it, but I'm sure it's nothing. Then people will stop talking about it.
Good luck.
2006-07-05 14:18:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps people want everybody to be miserable? LOL
This is entirely your business. Stick to your guns.
And not every case of infertility can be "fixed" If you don't want to go to a fertility clinic, to induce lots of eggs to be released, to be extracted, to be fertilised in a glass dish and several reimplanted---all at $5000 per cycle, for several cycles, adoption is definitely the way to go.
I have a medical book printed in 1948. In it, it is advised that if a married woman says she does not want children, that first a complete medical work-up should be performed before referring the patient to a psychiatrist.......that book is nearly 60 years old. It doth appear that the cultural norms from back then are still with us to some extent.
2006-07-05 14:30:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem with correcting infertility is that after all the tests and expense, you may still not be able to have kids of your own.
Let's try this experiment. Tell your cousin that you're going to get fixed, but it's going to be expensive and would she assist financially in this goal.
her reaction will tell you how she really feels about this.
If you are willing to adopt, then i say go for it and the best of luck for you in all that you do.
2006-07-05 14:16:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They shouldn't be condemning you for that. There's nothing wrong with it unless you wanted kids and are against adoption. Do you know how many children need to be adopted? A lot.
2006-07-05 14:16:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think adopting is a great thing but i also know i would want my child to cary on the blood line....but on the othe rhand it is your choice and your family should be happy with whatever it is....but do look into and consider getting fixed becausemy bf has the same problem and hes looking into it because he said he dosnt want to wonder what if!!!
2006-07-05 14:19:45 · answer #6 · answered by frankki p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adopting kids is a great Idea.... Why bring another kid in the world when there a millions who have no homes or a family of there own... I have tonz of friends who were adopted... ( love someone who needs love) :)
2006-07-05 14:18:11 · answer #7 · answered by tankdogg911 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you want children of your own, non adopted, then go to the doctor and verify your fertility. That's what you pay them for. If not, go ahead and adopt. People usually have issues with adoption because it isn't "natural".
2006-07-05 14:16:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adopt. There are many loving kids that need a home because there parents abandoned them. you will be doing them a GREAT favor taking them away and giving them love and care.
2006-07-05 15:20:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people feel like something is wrong with you that your sick.
Having a baby is a big deal in some family's and Cultures. It is what it is and if your OK with it then you are fixed...Shannon
2006-07-05 14:18:07 · answer #10 · answered by shannon m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋