I recently started dating a wonderful man and we decided to take our relationship to another level. He hasn't been with a woman in a couple of years mainly because he is going thru a divorce from his wife of 12 years. He has not had a relationship with anyone other then her for that last 12 years. However when it came time to fool around, he was fine until we actually got to the point where we would have done the actual deed. I don't know if its a nervous thing or something he should see a doctor on. He as said that he has had this issue for a while now but he thought it was because he was getting bored with self gratification. I am worried because this is a big part of a relationship and I am wondering if he has some underlying issues.
2006-07-05 07:12:54 · 11 answers · asked by Sassy Redhead 3 in Health ➔ Men's Health
It could be performance anxiety.
if you are that special to him, he feels that he may be inadequate in your eyes if he is not as accomplished as he wants to be.
Take it slow and easy and reassure him that the time is right and the person is right.
2006-07-05 07:17:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
Diabetes, high cholesterol or high blood pressure could be contributing factors. But, if his wife is the only woman he's had relations with for the last decade, I'm more than willing to bet it's nerves. Give the guy a chance.
2006-07-05 14:15:24 · answer #2 · answered by Quietman40 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might have psychological issues or it might be physical. Have him try Viagra or Cialis; if it's physical, that'll clear it right up. If it's psychological, it won't help much and you'll know that he needs to seek some counseling. Probably not a bad idea anyway, given the marital history.
Best wishes and God bless.
2006-07-05 14:16:45 · answer #3 · answered by bobhayes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time to perform with a new partner.
When a man is at age 20, youth and horniness smooths things over.
There are a number of possible reasons....nervousness, guilt because he isn't actually divorced, anxiety of making another bad marriage............or a medical problem.
Have him get his butt into a doctor.
2006-07-05 14:55:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be a number of things, it also could be that he hasnt been with another woman sence his X and he might have a little guilt. But then again he might need to see a DR
2006-07-05 14:15:54 · answer #5 · answered by shannon m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably.
Men fuss a lot about their performance.
Take it slowly, flatter him a lot.
If that doesn't work, get him to see a doctor.
I do sympathise, though, we just don't have the same pressure on us. makes up for other inequalities though!
2006-07-05 14:16:44 · answer #6 · answered by catrin l 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anything is posible but you have to work with him if you want it to work. I would think twice ,but thats me donot rush any thing and protect your self. You sound smart to me.
2006-07-05 14:17:23 · answer #7 · answered by macki4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to try NASUTRA. It works the first time, every time :)
2006-07-05 14:15:21 · answer #8 · answered by RobsVision 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure it is nothing that VIAGRA cannot fix! give him some.
2006-07-05 14:17:18 · answer #9 · answered by ND2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's on coke or speed. no guy loses there erection unless they are drunk or on drugs..
2006-07-05 14:15:59 · answer #10 · answered by dan j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋