What do you think about this?

Question

My father has many gay (men) friends that he invites to his house. (he lives with my mother and my little brother) I'm currently staying with them, as I'm having my house repainted. The thing is that, although I like gay men a lot and I certainly don't have anything against them, they seem to strongly dislike me. They are quite rude to me and I can't understand why. However, they seem to like my little brother (12) very much, even though he is not that polite and friendly. What I'm trying to figure is why this is happening. Do some gay men hate women or something? I am sure I have never said anything impolite or inappropriate to them, as I really like gay people in general. what could be the reason for this behavior?


P.S. When I say "friends", I don't mean two or three. I mean at least 15 people.

Answer 1

I'll wager that's a challenging home situation on a good day, what with your mom, your gay dad and his (15) gay friends, and you and your brother all under one roof. I sure hope it's a large house!

I don't know what to tell you in general, because I'd have to generalize. You certainly are outnumbered, if nothing else. Where do your mom and dad figure in all of this?

I will dare say that you may be up against a bunch of queens, -- some real divas and even some real b*tch queens. Honey, they can shred you like tissue without shedding a glued on eyelash and with less regard than that. Good luck, if that's the case.

Well, I hope your house is painted quickly and you get back to your own space. Hang in there, kiddo.

Answer 2

First think long and hard if you might have offended them. If you have, try and make ammends. If you have done nothing wrong, I wouldn't take any crap from them - gay or straight. Let your Dad know. Enough is enough - put your foot down! Strange though? Most gay men like interacting with women. Every gay man loves to have a *** hag or two! Women usually like gay men in return because they know that they arn't wanted for friendship because of sex, but for who they are. That these men are mean to you does not speak well of them. Here they are older than you, visiting their friend and then being mean to his daughter. Not nice.

I'd also keep an eye on your little brother. Most Gay men arn't pedophiles - but with 15? Best wishes.

Answer 3

there are some gay men who dislike women, and that's not necessarily the reason why they are gay-as been stated before by another poster. there are a number of reasons why people just don't get along, for any given reason, and it doesn't mena that the people at the end of the dislike is a bad person, it just means that the person doing the disliking has something wrong with them.
you just live your life, and don't them bother you. sometimes some gay men-especially feminine-or "queenie" gay men can be rather catty, irregardless to the sex or sexual preference of the person at the end of their animousity. the best thing to do about those queens is to totally igorne them, nothing makes them happier than a reaction from you.
good luck to you!!

Answer 4

Possibly the question you should be asking is why your father has 15 gay friends. Most people don't have that many more than 15 people who are good enough friends to come over to their houses after all. I wouldn't worry about them not liking you, your house will be repainted soon, and you'll be gone.

Answer 5

There are some gay men who don't really interact much or well with women, and there are bound to be some who dislike them -- just playing the odds on that one.

Most gay men communicate better with men in general.

Is there any possible thing you've done or a way you've behaved that you think could possibly have brought this on -- not necessarily something you've said? Or anything they might regard with suspicion?

Answer 6

Just keep a watchful eye on your little brother when they're around. And if they are rude to you ask them why, it is your home (more than theirs) they should treat you with respect as they are guests in your parents home. Don't put up with it, being gay doesn't mean they can do or say whatever they want.

I have only met a handful of gays and I got on with them really well, they treated me how any other person would and I gave them the same respect.

Answer 7

I would be a little nervous with them around your brother, keep an eye out. Not to say that all gay men are pedophiles straight men can be also, but be careful.

Also bring it to your dad's attention to how rude they are to you, there is no good reason they can't be polite to you in your own home. They need to respect you and your family.

Answer 8

Wow.. thats tough. But honestly, I kind of had the same problem.. on different levels though.

Sometimes, the not so feminine gay men tend to not like really feminine women. Becuase I once knew a guy that was homosexual, and he wa always so mean to me. When I asked someone, they said he thought I was too feminine and stuck up. Alot of people tend to think becuase somone is "girly" that they are stuck up, which isnt true.. i dont know why this botheed him but it did.

I dont know if thats your problem, becuase the guy I was dealing with was a little immature, and it seems the guys your having troubles with are a little bit older if they are friends with your father.. just thought id share my info.
:)
jenni

Answer 9

This sounds so out of character. I have never met a gay man I didn't get on with. God, we have so much to talk about, like other guys! LOL.
Seriously though, it may be that since you are being polite , you may be perceived as trying too hard to ingratiate yourself. Further more, if your being around is unusual, it may just be that it's a little cliquey and they resent your intrusion.
Don't take it to heart, don't be sensitive and either give as good as you get, or avoid the situation and finish that painting FAST!
Best of luck.

Answer 10

Some gay guys might feel intimidated by a young pretty woman they don't know that gets attention, maybe cause some gay guys can be drama queens and like to be the center of attention. But it looks like you have a issue with these guys not gay guys.