well. the problem is I know this guy for like a month now. the first time I sow him I felt in love with him. he wants to marry me but my parents need time to know the guy more. even do I need to know him more. so my parents ask him to wait like a month or two to get ready fo the wedding then we can get marrid. he said no.
I feld so bad becouse I love this guy but I just cant get it why he dosent wanna wait. two month or whatever time will take. he said he loves me but if he do he have to do whatever it takes . for me. my parents didint ask him from enything hard. he said we need to go to the court first to marrifd then we can do the wedding letter. I said ok. but I just dont get it why hes want evrything to be fast. and my father didint agree he said. in 15 days I need more time I cant just give u my dougther in 15 days. also he dosent have peapers for the USA. means he eligal in here. my mom said he dosent love u he wants green card. if thats right there a lot of americans.
2006-07-05 07:10:09 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
and olso. hes trying to make me hates my parents. becouse they know I love him and they dont want me to marry him right now. I told him that I help my parents with rent and other think. he said no u soudint ur parent are useing u. and they just want u to be down like them. I dont know whats wrong with is guy. I kno whes mom devorced his father. when he was 8 and he grow up in problem s all life . he hats hef father. but he love his mother.enything she said to him. he say okay. I dont know. by th eway Iam 20 and he is 33. but I love him. I dont know what to do . I know my parents love me they just want me to be happy . I am tired talking to him. he was telling me to move out of my parents house and live in my own thet we can marrid the way we want. dont know what to. AN d if he say something he change the next day. I dont know. what to do. please enybady who can tell me or advice me please. thank u to everybady.
2006-07-05 07:10:25 · update #1
READ MY WORDS VERY CAREFULLY RIGHT NOW.
HE IS USING YOU IN A BIG TIME TO GET GREEN CARD AND STAY IN USA.
YOUR PARENTS ONLY WANT BEST FOR YOU AND ABOUT WHAT HE SAID YOUR PARENTS ARE BRINGING YOU DOWN????
ARE YOU OK GIRL? HE IS MANIPULATING YOU AND USING YOU LIKE CRAZY AND YOU ARE TO YOUNG (I'M SORRY TO SAY THAT) TO C WHAT HE IS DOING TO YOU.
BTW....YOUR PARETNS RAISED YOU ,PUT ROOF OVER YOUR HEAD,GIVE YOU FOOD AND HE'S SAYNG THIS TO YOU?
GET THE HELL OUT OF THIS RELATIONSHIP ASAP.
TRUST ME.
REALLY TRUST ME GIRL..I AM RIGHT.I KNOW.
AND YOU WILL BE MISRABLE IF YOU MARRY HIM.
2006-07-05 07:18:51 · answer #1 · answered by Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With the short amount of time that you have known him and been with him you need to listen to your parents, they know what they are talking about, you haven't known this guy long enough to be getting married to him yet, and if he doesn't like your parents because they are telling you to wait, there is a big problem there. It sounds like you really care about your parents from what you said about helping them, and this guy you are talking about is being extremely selfish in not wanting you to help them. You need to get rid of this guy, he will just lead you to hurt feelings and a life you won't enjoy.
2006-07-05 14:19:21 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. No 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your an idiot! But i will help you anyway, first what you need to do is learn how to use your spell check! Then you need to realize that you havent hit puberty yet and maybe getting married right now isnt the right thing to do, what are you 10? Even so, obviously he doesnt love!
2006-07-05 14:21:08 · answer #3 · answered by vanedlett 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT sounds to me like this guy is a control freak and your parents are right to want to know him better. It does not sound like a good idea for you to marry this boy. He can't get a green card by getting married. He has to have sponsors and then he has to be sponsored for 3 years.( my cousin ended his mirage to someone trying to become an American by marring him she is no longer in the states because she lost her sponsorship.) It takes at least 1 year to get to know who someone really is. He is most likely hiding something from you. TRUST your parents on this one they are right. He wants you to hate your parents so he can have you to himself and control you. They start by alienating (taking you away or making you not want to be with)you from your family
2006-07-05 14:24:05 · answer #4 · answered by anita_reel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to what your parents suggested, wait a couple of months. If he really wants to marry you because he loves you, he will understand and accept that.
2006-07-05 14:16:03 · answer #5 · answered by musiclover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your family, he wants a green card. Marraige is just a piece of paper. If he really loves you, he would even wait 15 months. Don't do it.
2006-07-05 14:14:39 · answer #6 · answered by Diamonds_4Ever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have only known him for a month, and he is trying to rush you into marriage, and he is trying to turn you against your parents, it sounds like he is controlling. Be careful because if I am right it could turn into a abusive relationship.
2006-07-05 14:14:10 · answer #7 · answered by ~*~Jeni~*~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slow down.That why the divorce rate is so high people get married before they truly know each other.There is NO way you truly know a person in a month.
2006-07-05 14:14:03 · answer #8 · answered by Addie B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TAKE A DEEP BREATHE TELL HIM I'M SORRY I NEED TIME AND RIGHT AWAY HAVE YOUR PARENTS TAKE YOU AWAY ON A TRIP SOMEWHERE OR GO VISIT A RELATIVE SOMEWHERE AWAY FROM THEIR. ITS GONNA BE HARD FOR YOU BUT TELL YOUR PARENTS THEY ARE RIGHT AND YOU NEED THEIR HELP. NOW,DO THIS. TO SAVE YOURSELF FROM SOME HEARTACHE DOWN THE ROAD
2006-07-05 14:17:59 · answer #9 · answered by g-day mate 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your life.
2006-07-05 14:13:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋