i was told my boyfriend was cheating on me by close friends nobody has actuelly seen them 2gether but im fully sure its true.Hes still denying it. how can i tell if its true without asking..??????????????????????? ur opinions please
2006-07-05 07:08:04 · 30 answers · asked by pinkykeays 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Why not just ask? What's the harm in that? Honestly approaching this problem will be the best for you. If you do some sort of spy work investigating type thing, then he has a right to be mad at you for being invasive.
2006-07-05 07:11:54 · answer #1 · answered by answer gal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, 1. Who's close friends? Your close friends or his close friends? Because, if it his close friends, you must determine if the friend has any spec of honor, and if this friend is the type to "help" people and not "use" people or "deceive" people, than it's safe to say it's true. Ask this friend of his why he or she know this & why is he or she telling you...
If the friend says that he or she know because your bf told them, and they are telling you because you are a nice person and deserve better, you will see what the right thing to do is. Get out of it before he becomes a obsessive, controlling, abusive, or a mixture of the three.
If the friend who told you is your friend, you should know your friend better. Ask this friend the same questions. Also, keep in mind...ask yourself if the "friend" who told you actually likes or could be in a situation where the like your bf, if so, you see the motives behind the friend that told you...so...
In the end, no need to really ask your bf who will deny it, if it is true. All you need to do first is to find out why the friend told you, who the friend is, etc., and if you see that it's a really strong chance the bf is cheating on you, than set something up where you pretend you are sleeping, at work, etc., and follow him to see yourself is he is being honest with you.
2006-07-05 07:52:25 · answer #2 · answered by drifterr11 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a possibility that he isn't cheating on you, always remember that and don't act rash. However, if your gut instinct is telling you he is, either way around it, something is not right. You have many choices here.
1. You could walk away now
2. You could just wait until an opportunity comes to catch him
3. You could have a serious talk with him and explain how you feel and what is being told to you ( be prepared at first for complete denial and that your friends are 1. jealous 2. don't like him 3. are whores and bitches and want you with them
Either way it goes, do something. Don't just sit there waiting for the ball to drop and stress out minute by minute. It is better to just get to some choice or the other.
2006-07-05 07:15:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm old, i know. young men are NOT basically monogamous. women have excellent intuition. put these two things together and you have your answer. what ever your first gut feeling is, is true. always pay attention to it. it's okay if you and this guy stop. being young is all about getting lots of experience in learning guys personalities. that way when you are about 30 something you can find a male personality you know to be a good one for you. dump this guy now, it will help you. you are learning a valuable lesson, pay attention. it may hurt, but you will meet someone much better if you take this mature step now. you either step up or down in life, your choice.
2006-07-05 07:22:24 · answer #4 · answered by 53&luvnit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If no one has actually seen him cheating, and your friend has told you that he is, how is that possible when you have just said no one has seen him cheating? Either she is jealous of you, and is trying to split you two up, or she is the one he is cheating with, or they are incredibly stupid.
And why are you fully sure it is true? There is no point in you two being in a relationship if you are so ready to believe his is cheating on you.
2006-07-05 07:19:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well how do you feel? do you think he's cheating? Sometimes friends are jealous that you are happy. So be carefull and don't listen to everything you hear. Has he changed at all with you? if he has then that could be a sign but for the most part if you look for trouble you'll find it.
2006-07-05 07:22:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why bother with all that. You already know he's cheating, you've been told, do you have a reason not to trust your "close friends"? Don't ask him if he's cheating, tell him he's cheating, and "Syonara, dude!" Doesn't sound like you want to believe your friends.
2006-07-05 07:53:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would seriously just ask. The thing is, it could be the mate that told u of the cheating that is with your boyfriend. Ask them both. If you don't believe your bloke, dump him. But try and keep your mates.Boyfriends come and go but mates stay forever.
Good luck.x
2006-07-05 23:20:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do not deserve a man if you are not going to trust him. Alot of people will tell lies for their own personal gain, maybe one of your girls wants him for herself. If you ask him a question, you should believe his answer. How can you be so sure it is true if you have no proof? You are confused and he peobably needs to get away from you. If you will never trust anyone, then you should not be with anyone. Have a nice life alone.
2006-07-05 09:00:26 · answer #9 · answered by greencaddyman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm. If you're sure you would know what to do, but apparantly you're not, that's why you ask us.
I would not call people that come to me about such an issue without seeing it themselves 'close friends'. Real close friend would go to your boyfriend and convince him to stop and inform you about it, paying respect to the relation, unfortunately this seldomly happens due to inexperience, but think about it. It's sensitive stuff.
So, ask your friends to talk to your boyfriend. And let him come to you.
2006-07-05 07:29:11 · answer #10 · answered by Greek Oracle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋