I have become quite good friends with a guy online but I would never let it become more than an online relationship. Is that cheating with my hubby?
2006-07-05 06:59:57 · 20 answers · asked by BellaDee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you did not let him KNOW about it and are intentionally keeping him from finding correspondences and email,you most definitely ARE. If you find yourself eager to 'talk' with your on-line friend, and everything is starting to take a back seat, you need to reevaluate your actions( if you want your marriage to survive). You may think, "he'll never find out". If your husband pays attention to your demeanor and attitude, he will know something is not right. And he will start to resent you, as you may be showing (unintentionally)resentment yourself.
You obviously FEEL that you may be cheating or you would have not asked the question. If your gutt is telling you,"I shouldn't be doing this", then KNOW that the inner-feeling is right and IS trying to tell you to stop,before it gets out of hand.
REMEMBER, you vowed to be TRUTHFUL to your HUSBAND, anything other than that is a LIE. Good luck.
2006-07-05 07:30:52 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes it is cheating. Why becasue you are flirting with this guy...maybe even having cyber sex as well. Over a period of time this will get old and you will want to take it to the next step...maybe a web shot...maybe an actual meeting...maybe another guy?...then what? You see it's never just that! It's like the pot smoker who convinces himself that he shouldn't get high then after a moment decides to get ......"just a little high".
Once you cross that line (it doesn't even have to be with the same guy...it's event driven) you will end up cheating.
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Good Luck
2006-07-05 14:52:15 · answer #2 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you hide it from your husband and you don't tell your "friend" that you are married, then yes there is something wrong. You can have an emotional affair with someone without sleeping with them - but it can be just as detrimental to your marriage as actual cheating.
Try looking at why you feel the need to connect with another man other than your hubby. You might be lacking some intimacy with your hubby and you are reaching out to fill the void.
2006-07-05 14:03:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the type of conversation. If your conversation in any way goes towards a sexual nature you are cheating or if you are getting something from this male friend that you are not getting from you husband then yes you are cheating.
You and your husband need better communication. You could try seeking some professional help.
Good Luck!
2006-07-05 14:09:18 · answer #4 · answered by qti36 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's cheating if you feel guilty and have to hide that you have an online friend. Would you let your husband read what you are chatting about? If not, it's cheating. How would you feel if your husband had an online friend? Put your self in his shoes.
2006-07-05 14:04:55 · answer #5 · answered by johnsonjrod 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me and my hubby cheating is anything that you do that you wouldnt do with your spouse sitting right there...so if you would chat with this guy when your guy is in the room then no but if you keep it a secret then Im going to say yes
2006-07-05 14:32:39 · answer #6 · answered by Heather 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is something you feel uncomfortable speaking with your husband about and the things you and this guy online talk about I would call it cheating. First thing though, I would talk to my husband about and see how he feels, that is between the two of you and how you handle your relationship, no one else's business.
2006-07-05 14:17:11 · answer #7 · answered by mom2abigsis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my (Bf/husband online) I sponcer his/our webhosting bussiness, when he told me he had to hire a guy that turned out calling here, and a female at that it hurt, my trust.
Its like im sending you money for our bussiness.for us, not for her! He explained how she was jealouse he didnt want to hurt me by saying a female but he wasnt with her and all was forgiven. He is to come to the USA now..And im will go back to turkey with him, and we are marrying, and i never been so happy in my life. If I dare ever caught him in a lie..It will be strike 3. Or with anyone flirtting them in any such way the way we met, id leave him, and have no respect for females who know when the guy is spoken for and chases after him. YES ITS CHEATTING
2006-07-05 16:14:22 · answer #8 · answered by Weeny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of it this way... Would it bother you if your husband chatted online w/ another woman regulary, talking about the same things you and the other guy talk about?
2006-07-05 14:06:09 · answer #9 · answered by qbanita0113 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are not 'cheating' your husband of time with him. It's not cheating unless you are taking something away from your husband.
2006-07-05 14:03:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋