but i really have an issue with people calling me white. i just moved to a country area in south carolina and im not the blackest black chick in the world so i have problems with being called outside of my name b/c of this stupid reason. how should i handle this?
2006-07-05 06:58:37 · 24 answers · asked by lovie_hugs 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
its not so much that i dont look black but its really just my character.im always myself but names do get to me after a while
2006-07-05 07:27:09 · update #1
ignore them. if they are friends tell them that you take offense at being called white. suggest a different nickname
2006-07-05 07:02:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remove the words black and white from your vocabulary if you are talking about human beings. We're all various shades of brown- some lighter, some darker, some pinker, some yellower. There is no such thing as a person who is the color of Indian ink or any living person who is the color of the background on this page. Think in terms of beautiful instead and let stupid people say stupid things.
2006-07-05 07:07:06 · answer #2 · answered by anyone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not be afraid of being called "white" or "black", be more afraid of "acting white or black, because that is when the stereotype comes in (as there is no acting white or black). The music we listen to or the way we may dress may cause others to "place" us in a category, resist this. In America, we tend to see only the surface of the person without seeing or attempting to understand the character of the human in front of us. Others have posted some good advice, be yourself, always.
2006-07-05 07:16:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a light complexion Black person - so I always got called names too. The best thing is to not take it seriously or let them see that it bothers you. You're new to an area and people will "try" you all the time. If you do have a nickname- share that info with them and ask that they call you by your given name or your nickname.
(Never let um see you sweat!)
2006-07-05 07:04:46 · answer #4 · answered by Topez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your always going to have issues in life, whether its a racial thing, not waering the coolest styles, or just being an outcast. So, don't let this bother you. Instead learn from it and make a difference. Help others like you feel welcomed and help educate people who make it an issue that they need to focus on soemthing else. Becuase people who focus on people being different are just bored and have low self-esteem themselves. Hang in there, this is just one more hurdle you are just going to over come through time!
2006-07-05 07:16:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry honey but there is nothing you can do about ignorance. Most people have a set image in their heads and if you don't live up to it you aren't good enough well that is bullshit. If someone starts to say something to you just walk away people are going to be mean and hurtful. It's just sad that even inside your own race you can't feel comfortable yet others are screaming prejudice while prejudicing themselves.
2006-07-05 07:09:29 · answer #6 · answered by Kookie M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend says it's because people in USA "think with their eyes" and determine what and who you are based on skin color. It's kind of like being gay; folks assume you're white and it's up to you to 'come out of the closet' and correct them. You could have some standard phrases to use (and be nice):
I know i seem to look white but i'm really black
I'm sorry, i'm not white, i just look white
Although i may appear white to you, i identify ethnically as african american.
I prefer to be viewed as black because of my family background.
Well, it could be some of my DNA is white but my soul/spirit is black.
You are in a role to educate people that from your point of view blackness is an ethnicity and inherent in who you are, not particularly related to your skin color. Good luck. The world needs to understand this lesson as well as you do.
2006-07-05 07:06:10 · answer #7 · answered by Sufi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i use to get very upset when people tried to figure out what i am because i could look like one of many races. i found out that it had built a prejudice in me I also started seeing the prejudice in them later so now i claim to be whatever they want me to be so that helps to fend off enemy thoughts ...they want to play a game so I play along with them i got over the prejudice that it had built by God placing people that i was prejudice against into my life in such ways to show me that they were people just the same as me and that they could do quite impressive things.
2006-07-05 07:10:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
looll i merely concept about it and it will be cool if like on the interior the top there changed into like hair rolled up on a pole like a vacum and once you reduce it and press the button the hair will pop out yoo thattl be so cool lol i'd seem loopy yet atleast im not insulting you + i imagine it will be a really cooll element to do
2016-11-01 06:11:11 · answer #9 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try wearing a sign. Maybe one of those sandwich boards. And make sure you threaten the people who DO call you white, and tell them to tell their friends.
Sounds like you are well on your way to making new friends!
2006-07-05 07:04:33 · answer #10 · answered by Meredith L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋