I got married to my first husband because I was pregnant, not really because I loved him. We "lost" the baby and he basically abandoned me during the whole ordeal. We've been separated almost a year and the divorce was finalized a few months ago. I feel that I've moved on and that I now know better what I want out of a life long partnership. I'm not out looking for a husband but is it too soon to be keeping myself open to the idea already?
2006-07-05 06:57:32 · 9 answers · asked by arizonagirl1981 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My ex had just gotten back from Iraq, he had almost been killed a few times. I was in a situation that I wouldn't have normally been in. I think I saw him more as the "returning war hero" than as a flawed man. I would have normally been more careful but I was "in love" with him and, even though it was only a few years ago, was much more young and stupid than I am now.
2006-07-05 07:22:00 · update #1
Less than an hour after posting this I found out that my ex-husband's girlfriend is pregnant and he proposed to her!! LOL
2006-07-05 10:23:03 · update #2
Ready or not, love always finds us in its own time, not necessarily ours. You can say right now that you're ready to remarry, but first you must find that special someone that you want to spend your life with...and that can take time. I would say to just stay open to all of love's possibilities and let fate guide you to your destiny...whenever that may be. Good luck to you.
2006-07-05 08:28:36 · answer #1 · answered by auntcookie84 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should first find yourself. Then make a "life plan", then look for a guy who can help you meet your goals in your plan. It's liek this...let's say you have a daughter...she's bright, beautiful and has a great potential future. You find her one day hanging out with some total loosers, (fast cars, fast women, drugs, booze etc). Now you know if you leave her there she'll most likely find a guy and attach herself to a looser and her shinning bright potential future will be nothing more than a dream. You know that if your daughter hangs out with guys that have good atributes that your daughter can attach herself there. The likely hood of her her being successful are greater in the good guy group than in the LLLLLoooser group. Have I lost you yet?
SO make your plan, get your education, career and THEN determine what type of guy will help you get to your rainbow.
DId that make sense????
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http://www.condomsbrasandstraightjackets.com/
Good Luck
2006-07-05 07:10:45 · answer #2 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all, it's great to keep an open mind. Some people are not cut out for marriage but rather be life partners.
2006-07-05 07:04:00 · answer #3 · answered by jade11378 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get married yet! You're free! Travel, take some classes, start a business, do somethings for YOU! Be empowered! You're a woman for crying out loud!
2006-07-05 07:05:44 · answer #4 · answered by sweet ivy lyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry about the loss of your baby. It is not too soon to keep your eyes open for the right person. Good luck to you.
2006-07-05 07:01:46 · answer #5 · answered by lavenderroseford 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that all depends on you......it doesn't sound like it was all the great.....I would give yourself some healing time and then get right back out there looking......maybe the next time you will strike gold. Good luck.
2006-07-05 07:03:40 · answer #6 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so sorry to hear about what happened
get on w/ your life, my husband dated me a year after his
divorce & we have been married 9 years now
best of luck to you
2006-07-05 07:10:56 · answer #7 · answered by start 6-22-06 summer time Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, ur fine, just this time use birth control till your married :)
2006-07-05 07:00:39 · answer #8 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remember the old saying.{out of the frying pan and into the fire}. its true.
2006-07-05 07:03:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋