My ex wife once told me that when we have anal sex she feels degraded and dirty ,?

Question

From that moment on i felt like an animal and never did it or spoke about it again that was some years ago.
I have now met a women whom i love very much and she has ask me for anal sex,
I think that she is trying to prove that she loves me, i did not mention anal sex and if we never did it i would still think the world of her.
Now i have a problem, if i dont do it will she think that i dont love her.
THIS IS WHERE I NEED YOUR HELP LADIES. DO YOU REALY ENJOY ANAL SEX OR DO YOU JUST DO IT TO KEEP YOUR PARTNER HAPPY.?

Answer 1

I don't do it at all because I feel that it is dirty. The rectum was made for waste to come out - not for anything to go in. I always wonder why men want to have anal sex with a woman - it's the same act that homosexuals practice, yet men claim they aren't gay.

Answer 2

I think this act is NOT for everyone. I think that ANYTHING that makes EITHER partner NOT feel good is something that should NOT be done if the idea is to maintain a healthy and secure marriage. If it does not work for one of you then do not do it because the negative affect is NOT worth it! Giving it up for the sake of the marriage is the best way to go and the "wanting" partner will be much more respected as someone who truely cares about the things that matter most, even at a loss of that thing that is not a good thing! Instead, focus that energy on finding things that BOTh partners enjoy! The pay off is well work the sacrifice!

Answer 3

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Answer 4

i beleive some women do enjoy anal sex{not that ive been there}. i take with what,s happened with ur ex why dont you sit and tell your present partner ,what was said before and how you feel towards it,then depending on her answer you can take it from there.i expect she,ll understand and you both will be ok for the futire.
p.s im not a women as u may guessed but i hope this helps you.

Answer 5

Not many years ago, here in the UK, buggery of a woman was considered one of the most serious criminal offenses of them all and if a man was convicted he could be sentenced to life imprisonment. In my opinion, things have not changed. Through porn films, the act of 'natural' intercourse has become so blase that the producers had to do something different. They have convinced ordinary people that it is the thing to do whilst in fact it is a dangerous and painful manner of penetration. Explain to your friend how you feel about the subject. There is no need to mention your ex and the escapade.

Answer 6

Anal sex is not for everyone. Sexual preference is ones choice. You should sit down and have a talk with your partner. Then the both of you will know what is acceptable and what's not. If I was uncomfortable with something I WOULD not do it just to please my partner and would expect my partner to RESPECT my feelings.

Answer 7

This is a sticky one (no pun intended). You have to look at her true desires. The thing you don't want to do is casue her psyche any harm. Remember "When women feel special they will perform special". MAking her the "Rump Ranger's " trusty side kick might casue damage.

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Answer 8

I think most women just pretend to like it to keep their man happy; but there are a few who enjoy it. I personally think it is degrading and filthy, but thats just my opinion. I think you need to sit down with her and have a chat. (Be careful- you can still get AIDS by having anal)

Answer 9

your poor sod!!

everyones different, so your ex wife didnt enjoy it, but your girlfiend wants you 2 with her....thing is, can you remember if you enjoyed it with your ex or not-cos if you did, then you may as well give it another go??

if you dont want to go thru all the **** again (excuse the expression!!ha ha) then im sure you can find another pleasurable way of showing her how much you do love her!!?

Good luck
xx

Answer 10

You need to talk to her about what happened before, you need to make sure its something she really wants to do or try before doing it, that way its a consentual act of expirementing with out u having to feel guilty about it later.. if she doesnt like it.. then dont do it anymore.. but u do need to let her know that your not going to love her any less if she doesnt do this.. and if its her first time, be extremely gentle and dont force the issue if its painful.. sex is suppose to be a enjoyable act not something that causes pain and stress..

Answer 11

i gave it a go because my partner wanted to try it and because i love him and am willing to give most things ago i did it. Hated every moment of it and yes i felt dirty and degraded. that was me. Other people like it i will never do it again.