ok sooo Im 17, almost 18. and I was a virgin up till about 2 weeks ago. I always told myself I wouldn't have sex till I was in a relationship with a guy I loved that loved me back. well I ended up being at a party with a guy I really really care about and might even love, that would be my boyfriend if he wasn't so against being in a relationship right now. he's young and wants to sleep around, I get that. but anyway. we went to this party and got drunk and a lil high which I had also never done before, the high part at least. and we ended up havign sex, which was really painful for me consdiering I was a virgin. well it didn't go all that well. and after he was finished he got up told me to get some rest and went to watch a movie, I was kinda hurt but I ignored it, well the next day we were dstill at this place and we did it again and the same thing happened. now whenever we talk things are weird, what do yu think I should do? how do you think he feels? was what happened normal or bad?
2006-07-05 06:47:44 · 22 answers · asked by MeGs 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You gave in, he got what he wanted, he's tossing you aside, women obviously never take advice, and end up getting hurt.
2006-07-05 06:51:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The dynamic of your relationship changed so that's why things seem weird to you. He might be terrified to talk to you about what's next for you, be it a more committed relationship or he could just blow you off completely. This is relatively normal for a guy in your age group. They just don't know how to act and are kind of afraid you girls will pull the Fatal Attraction card on them once they've done the deed with you. It's because they're not yet mature enough to have a real relationship. You now need to decide what you want. Do you want a relationship with this guy? If so, be prepared that he won't feel the same and just wants to sleep with you every now and then. If that's not cool with you, put your foot down. You might not get the guy, but you'll have your self respect and that will help you down the line with your future relationships.
2006-07-05 06:54:07 · answer #2 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.... It all depends Ok For x-sample.... He might Feel really really good about it cuz he was u'r first.... and no matter what there is always that thoughton his head that he took away u'r virginity, He might feel wierd cuz he may now actually want to be with you cuz of it, or Know since it happened it opens up a different level of a relationship where he might think he has the "go ahead" evrytime you guys meet up...... That's all on u... But the best thing for you would be to ask him .... let him know how u feel and see what he says to u....... I mean was with this guy and the whole time we were together i felt used but then i came to find out he really LOVED me but alot happend that we could not be together so thats y he would kinda push me away .... u get it? ..... Either way Good Luck
2006-07-05 07:07:12 · answer #3 · answered by •°♥Ms. SeXy♥°• 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please, my friend, don't put yourself in these types of positions! Yeah, so what, you've messed up, and there is nothing you can do about it now, but you can learn from this mistake, and don't make it again. Don't wait until you get pregnant or something, then things will be WAY worse. Respect yourself a little more. Your virginity can not be replaced, but your self worth can. Don't let this guy use you for sex. He is not worthy of your body! Everybody makes mistakes, girl, just learn from this one and move on. Just because he wants to sleep around, does not make it okay, and it does not mean that you have to do the same to make him jealous! Guys are going to respect you so much more if you don't put out. Respect goes a long way.
2006-07-05 06:55:54 · answer #4 · answered by Littlemissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, how I wish you would have waited. The only thing he wanted is exactly what he got. He secretly doesn't want to hurt you but at the same time he doesn't want to be tied down either. Hence, the awkwardness between you to. I'm so sorry. I can only hope that this will open your eyes now and let you make the right choices in life. Please, don't give away something that means so much, because you will never get it back no matter what it is. Good luck in life!!
2006-07-05 06:57:51 · answer #5 · answered by christy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are spiraling out of control fast. You need to consider that pregnancy is serious and could cost you you're youth. And drugs and drinking? Not to judge, but I started at 17 and never quit until I was 36, after going to jail, losing a wife and messing up several times. get back to where you were and seek help while you can. By the way, he doesn't love you - he "lusts" you! Ditch the punk now!
2006-07-05 06:52:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't answer if this is normal or if its bad but what I can tell you is that this guy isn't worth it.
If he can't stick around for a few minutes after you've lost u're virginity to him then he's stupid.
Give up and move on. This guy is not worth beating u're self over for and there are plenty of other guys out there. Your 18, you've got lost of time to find the right guy so go do that instead.
Good Luck
2006-07-05 06:51:50 · answer #7 · answered by ladyktallia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he took advantage of you. Well, you could still on track and hold out for the right guy. Just because you caved in one night doesn't mean you have to again. If this guy wants only sex from you but you want more move on. Most men won't change. The first usually isn't as magical as we envisioned.
2006-07-05 07:02:58 · answer #8 · answered by bird_e80 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesnt mean that its all he wants you 4. he's just being a guy. the fact that he gives you his clothes is sweet. my bf gave me one of his hoodies 2 wear in bed one night when he dropped me home cos i was really upset. it makes me feel secure when i wear it. he is just positive bwt ur relationship and the future and is reassuring you it will be safe and he will be sensible, as some guys refuse to wear a condom simply because they dont like them, and those guys obviously dont put ther gfs well being first. mayb he's worried that u will think he's only after 1 thing and he's saying this stuff to reassure you he isn't? just play it by ear and see how his attitude progresses down the line.
2016-03-27 04:57:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ignore being hurt! express that to him and deal with it yourself..quit sleeping with him, and believe you me he's going to come back to you for more! so man up and be ready to turn him down, and follow up! You already knew this man didn't want a relationship so you shouldn't have slept with him anyway, and doing it a second time isn't going to make him stay with you and have a relationship, at this age the man isn't ready and lot of them aren't....don't give it up so easy because you end up hurting yourself and you end up not feeling good enough....take care of yourself...and coming from a woman who started at a tender young age, earlier than any parent would want to know, stop having sex and wait till you get married, till you are with someone who really cares for you...because of sexually transmitted diseases, and guys who just want you for sex..don't let this world make you! get control of your life and your social life, set you some boundaries, set you some goals, set you some rules as far as men go, what you want and don't want and stick to them..be good to yourself because you can't necessarily count on anybody else to do it....i hope i helped! with love~
2006-07-05 06:57:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you asking exactly? I mean he had sex with you then walked off, i mean it doesn't take a brain surgeon to see what is up. Sorry your first experience was like this but at least you got it out of the way.
2006-07-05 06:52:42 · answer #11 · answered by jjnsavannah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋