do you trust marriage counselors, therapists and shrinks???

Question

hypothetical..ok..don't analyze..MY marriage is fine! :) just curious

there are people who are therapy proof-very savvy and can answer questions in a way that manipulates the shrink himself...bipolars tend to have this gift..among others...

so if they can compromise and convince a therapist that they are fine and healed and get out of mental hospitals...should we trust them with our lives and marriages??

can they manipulate you as well?

one tried to convince my wife that the woman who scratched her (on purpose)did it because the room was too hot and that people in DC overlook race relations anyway so she should disregard..the cops even overlooked it and gave a small smack on the hand of the person who did it..

Answer 1

As with all "professionals", there are good ones and bad ones. I fight depression, and have been to several different doctors before finding the right ones for me. And most of them have been or are in therapy themselves.

We all have our problems and struggles, we are human. So try several, it is important that you feel comfortable with them, and want to share thoughts and feelings. Some just want to throw medicine out, and drug you. My preference is Osteopathic Doctors (DO instead of MD) as they try a holistic approach along with medicine.

You do not trust them with your live and marriage, you see them to assist you with your live and marriage, as sometimes a neutral party with experience and education can be helpful by looking from the outside. Be well.

Answer 2

Sounds like a tough situation, but believe it or not I've seen and heard worse. First off, I would definitely see a marriage counselor. A marriage counselor will help you to rule out the fact that her lack of sex drive is a mental issue. If it is, an MC would help you both figure out what it is. I've counseled couples that have had sex issues (or lack thereof) and about half the time, it has something to do with what's happening in the marriage. In other words, either one or both spouses has issues with the other spouse. Secondly, see a sex therapist whether the Marriage Counselor deterimines the problem is in her (or your) head or not. The two of you would have to re-learn how to be intimate with one another. This has lasted for 10 years. Whether this is a marriage issue or not, that's a lot of "sexless years" to unravel Last, I'd have a talk with her about it. I know you probably hear this all the time, but you have to give it a shot. Let her know that you appreciate the fact that she still thinks you're sexy but she's not showing it (actions speak louder than words). Ask her if it's you. Chances are she'll probably evade all of these questions, tell you you are sexy and say it's not you. Then bring up the fact that you'd like to see a marriage counselor and a sex therapist. Initially she'll reject it because having to see an MC or a ST to a lot of people is admitting failure, or some sort of defect. But let her know that the two of you cant' get through this alone...I mean for heaven's sake, you've been married 10 years and you can count the times you've had sex. That's NOT normal and do NOT let her or anyone else tell you it is. Now don't push her about it, but be persistent. If she continuously rejects this notion, she may not WANT to fix the problem and if that's the case, it may be time to think about ending the marriage. I HATE to say that because divorce is totally the last resort but if one or both spouses don't want to fix the marriage, then it's obvious there's no love in the relationship. As far as cheating is concerned, it's possible. In my line of work, there are two explanations for a woman (or a man) that has a really low sex drive: 1) Hormone inbalance (in which case she'll have to see a doctor; a hormone inbalance could possibly be it. If an mc doesn't help and a sex therapist doesn't help but she WANTS to fix this, there may be a problem with her hormones) or 2) An affair. Not to say there aren't other reasons but those usually account for abou 95% of the cases I work. Good luck Good luck.

Answer 3

I'm not sure what the deal is with your wife, but whether or not counseling or therapy works, depends entirely on how you approach it. If you are forced into it and you don't want to be there, no way is it going to help you.

If you go to therapy and speak the truth and allow a trained individual to offer you ways to help yourself, then you will find success. Especially with marriage counseling. The object of a therapist or councilor is to allow them to help you see what you can't see on your own. Sometimes we are too close to our own issues to see the picture clearly.

More severe mental illness should require better educated, more savvy individuals at the helm. I would hope that a psychiatrist would know when someone is trying to manipulate them, however; I go back to what I said in the beginning, if you don't want help, it is very hard to help you.

Answer 4

You're wrong about people with bipolar disorder being good at manipulating psychiatrists, psychologist, counselors and other therapists. People with this disorder are not any better than anybody else at manipulating anybody. Psychopaths and sociopaths are slightly more successful, but they don't consult therapists in the first place, convinced, as they are that they are perfectly ok.

I am a counseling psychologist and we are very well trained in diagnosing and treating pathological behavior.

I'm not going to comment on your wife's matter. I don't know the circumstance of it.

Answer 5

Very few are any good. Some act like a good listener but give you little sound advise. Others are looking to fit you into a textbook solution and look annoyed when you do not fit the mold. You leave these sessions feeling as though you have wasted your money.

Answer 6

As much as I trust anyone. You have to be on your toes. There is good and bad in all walks of life.

You make a good point about people convincing therapists they are ok. I think a good therapist should know better. No matter how good you are - you can't pretend 24/7. You have to let your guard down at some point. Seems to me they should be aware of this.

As far as trusting them.... DON"T TRUST anyone you don't know.
Get to know Jesus. You can trust Him. He won't let you down.

Answer 7

I'm sure many are out to do good. I'm sure there are many people who would be dead, divorced or dealing with severe emotional problems without them. Perhaps it's just paranoia on my part, but I don't trust anyone who's main source of income comes from something being wrong with me, physically, mentally or otherwise.

Answer 8

I don't trust shrinks longer than I can throw them, but psychologists have a way of pushing you forward onto your real problem, and it often is something completely different than you thought. Maybe you blame your partner for something, but the real cause lies in your behaviour. They are good to have, but don't let them do the thinking for you, it's your life after all. They have one of their own.

Answer 9

I always look at what they have to say and then evaluate their answers according to my situation. Not everyone will have the correct solution but everyone offers an answer. You can take it or let it slip out your ears as if you never heard it. You be the judge.

Answer 10

i really dont only because the one i had last time just kept saying "how do u feel about the or what do u think"and it was about my problem that was my therapists i never had shrink i dont think i did have a counselor they are ok i guess