How do I Spice up a Sexual relationship if the other person is not open to new ideas?

Question

My wife and I Always do the same thing every other night. She sometimes does not enjoy it. So How do I spice things up If she does not want to do other things (Anal, Oral, Ect)

Answer 1

I would calmly (do not turn it into an arguement) Bring it up and tell her honey I really want to try new things....Anal will probably be abit too much so don't expect that at all or atleast soon. Oral you can work on. Do you do it on her....? If so then she should return the favor....If not. then you should and if she doesn't let you just tell her to close her eyes and just let you...she'll really enjoy it....Man Where are her friends they need to be the one to tell her what she should and how she should do these things....Do you guys have a married couple as friends...maybe you can talk to him and he can talk to his wife who can then tell your wife about it....Maybe she can bring up the sex subject to her and tell her what her and her husband do and maybe that will make your wife think about it or want to try it ...Good Luck

Answer 2

Your married? and you say your wife wont do all these things, why did you marry?? She doesn't even give oral? Did she have a bad experience, is this possibly why she refuses?? I'm feel sorry for you :-( I keep my hubby happy in that department and think ALL women should. Have you gone down on her? Does she enjoy it? Maybe try some different positions (theres many) use your imagination, or maybe some role playing. Let her take the lead, see what turns her on. Honestly don't be here asking this questions and getting all these corney answers from the other hounds on here, sit with her. Talk to her, express your feelings about wanting to spice up your sex. Geesh! your married! no reason to hold back DO IT ALL..

Answer 3

How do u know that she doesn't want 2 do these things u ask of her? If she has actually told u that she doesn't want to "explore new territory" than u have a problem.If she is an open-minded woman she will realize that u being a man and knowing how other men react when their woman does not want 2 fulfill their needs (mainly the things u want) than she would take a 2ND thought. But if your wife is the type of woman that just doesn't give in than your really just out of luck and you'll just have 2 accept that.

Hope this helps!=)

Answer 4

Try doing things in a new lite... You don't always have to have the same sex in the same bedroom. Try to do things in different parts of the house just to get her to loosen up about sex more. Come home from work before her and set up something very romantic, example... rose petals on the bed or in a bath tub with lots and lots of candles. You will be amazed at how much someone will open up when the opportunity presents itself to be subtly different from the norm. You might want new sexual experiences and she might just need some romance to steer her interests in a new direction.

Answer 5

How long have you been married? Was she sexually exciting before? how long ago did this start, or was she always this way? do you make her feel sexy and loved? bring her flowers? take her to dinner? do you have kids? does she work all day plus take care of the kids? maybe she's tired? is she overweight or taking medication? these can lead to a diminished sex drive? I'd go to a sex consular or better yet, take charge; take a shower together and wash each other, have her lay down and tell her to just relax and enjoy...you do the work and let her relax; also, buy some sex toys(although, after 1 I know, you probably won't be able to compete with it!)

Answer 6

Buy a SMALL and non-invasive sex toy to try on her. Tell her it is not for her but for you to try on her. The smaller the toy the better to get her into it. This will, over time, lead to more interesting things. You should also get her drunk one night and ask for a slightly different position. You need to work slowly though because too fast of a change will scare her and you will be taking 2 steps backward.

Answer 7

Have you thought about role playing?

What is unsatisfying about the sex? You don't have to do oral, anal, bestial to liven things up, but you need to know what she wants, which means she needs to know what she wants.

Sit down and have a frank discussion (away from the bedroom) and express your concerns are to her reluctant to get involved with the sex.

Does it hurt for her to have sex? Does she find the whole thing disgusting and she's doing it for you? (Crap! I hate that excuse. Turns me into a rutting goat!).

You have got to find out. Studies have shown that a vigorous, loving sex life is a key to a long and happy marriage.

Answer 8

acourse oral things, but try adding fruits and ice to the mix. buy a dildo and while ur down there use it, even if shes not into that type of thing, she'll feel so good she wont care! try doin it in different places. take a bath then go buck wild in the tub, on top of the sink, u get it! while shes cooking sneak up behind her and start kissing on her neck and rubbing her leg and butt then do her on the counter and once she comes and u do to, walk away. she'll be like damn , whats gotten into to him, but i like it!

Answer 9

Talk to her. She is you wife..tell her..

Sometimes i feel like you do not enjoy our sex life. I would like to be open and try new things, positions...etc..I am afraid our sex life is becoming routine to both of us, and if you have any suggestions on what we can do to make it better, let me know. And i will do it.. You are my wife and i want to make you happy and orgasm in every way imaginable.

Answer 10

Try skipping a night a week. Then when that starts to get boring...skip two. Work it up until you are sleeping with each other zero times a week. When she brings it up that you're withholding sex from her, tell her she's boring. That should turn things around.