2006-07-05 06:30:57 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous 3 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Other - Arts & Humanities
flight, fight or withdrawal
2006-07-05 06:32:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore it. Either you're oversensitive and you're mistaking things for hostility. Or the person you're talking with is truly a hostile bully. Either way confronting hostility with anger isn't going to solve it.
If it's someone you don't need to deal with, just avoid them.
Don't let them get any reaction out of you. Bullies give up when they can't get any reaction.
And if it seems like *everyone* is hostile towards you, maybe it's a reaction to your behavior or perception. Maybe you're unknowingly making people feel defensive. Or maybe your social skills need some work. If you can't figure out what the problem is, a good counselor can be a big help.
2006-07-05 13:35:51 · answer #2 · answered by Funchy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you can't take offense and show it. Then remain calm and open to what the person is saying. Find a point to agree with. Saying I see what your saying/feeling....I have felt/said/done that too...however I have found/discovered/seen. Acknowlege their point, but don't concede. Give them empathy and understanding to their point, but don't concede. Make your point in a calm and open manner. If you make the other person wrong agressivly it will only add to the hostility. If they are so hostile they are going to hurt someone I would move out of the way and not say anything negative. Always validate, but don't concede. See how that goes. Some people don't conversate and won't listen to logic or reason. At that point I would end conversation with agree to disagree and leave nicely.
2006-07-05 13:38:33 · answer #3 · answered by m0mmatcat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either way when there is hostility in any conversation it is best to walk away.
2006-07-05 13:36:11 · answer #4 · answered by Momma Gogo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Treat them like Gorillas - look down, not at their eyes. Don't run away. Do not make any sudden gestures. Insert a lot of pauses between their outbursts and your reply. Disperse their anger by making them reflect of what they are saying, as in "You said you were....."). If none of this works, then tell them you must continue this conversation later, after they have had some time to reflect on their actions/words and calm down.
2006-07-05 13:37:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make the hostile one laugh
2006-07-05 13:34:39 · answer #6 · answered by lifeinquestion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes hostility comes from low self esteem jealous misunderstanding or some one who is just plain rude; but taking the low road and doing what is right will never be wrong; it an old saying you never run down stairs and you never run down people.maybe its something in you they would like to be and haven,t reached that level yet.
2006-07-05 13:40:33 · answer #7 · answered by brownrabbit596 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when one humbles his/herself, the hostility would be brought down. U know when one is talking all crazy and the other is calm, sooner the other hostile one will feel stupid and immature then come down to the level of the humble one
2006-07-05 13:33:27 · answer #8 · answered by tebuny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yours or theirs'? I don't bother talking to people like that. They're a waste of time.
If you find yourself getting hostile it'll probably be talking to someone who you don't know, acted friendly, and is just looking to get a rise out of you.
2006-07-05 13:33:18 · answer #9 · answered by vanamont7 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
t depends on the type but ll tell u to try to walk away and each of the ppl can cool off and when u comeback u may have a decent conversatiion but remember things get heatd up walk away again
2006-07-05 13:33:40 · answer #10 · answered by aphla5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take slow steady deep breaths, and smile , it also helps to be a little dis connected with the rest of the group, like being in another place ( in your mind) this will only weaken whom ever you are debating with.
2006-07-05 13:34:49 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋