I am married to a great man - but he kind of brought me out of my shell - I have been with women since I have been in high school - but I have had 2 failed marriages (both men) - now I am married but I have for the past year had an affiar with another woman behind his back. Any other time I would share with him. But, I dont like doing that any more. I love him - but I dont feel in love with him. I have broke off the relationship w/the other woman (too toung and she had drama issues) but I still long to be with a woman. Is this a phase - or what - I am confused. Men dont do it for me - never really have. I feel trapped but I dont want to hurt him. He hasnt done anything but be there for me. And yes I have talked to him about it. He thinks my hormones are messed up.. but my hormones are fine - per Dr. Sex with men is just sex - numb - I dont get anything from men - at all! I feel like I missing out on what I really need to be - any ideas... or is this just my head?
2006-07-05 06:22:31 · 11 answers · asked by Kat 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
From what you've written, I think you already know the answer to your question. You just don't want to face up to it, because of the hurt - and perceived stigma - caused by actually admitting that you are a Lesbian.
Your words:
I have been with women since I have been in high school
I still long to be with a woman
Men dont do it for me - never really have
Sex with men is just sex - numb
I dont get anything from men - at all
I feel like I missing out on what I really need to be
There's no easy answer to your predicament - you definitely need to talk this through with your husband. Cheating on him is not the answer. Yes, it might mean a divorce, but at least you won't be deceiving him or yourself.
Best Wishes
2006-07-05 07:04:31 · answer #1 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What part of this don't you understand? Two failed marriages and another on it's way to the toilet because you can't keep your head from between this chicka's legs.
Honey get a haircut, buy some flannel shirts and take a welding course and then give this man a divorce right now so he can find a woman who is in love with him cuz you're a les.
2006-07-05 14:44:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What any of us are can be thought of as being in "our head". More importantly you have answered your own question.
You like girls.
Its biology, not hormones, instinct.
You shouldn't appologise for it or be ashamed.
You should be gentle with him though. Tell him what you feel, it will hurt both of you but it isn't kind on either of you to prolong this as it sounds like something that isn't exactly a phase and isn't going to go away.
Make the break so you can both start again and look for happiness in someone who does do it for you next time.
I think you know that, reading between the lines.
It is only fair on both of you to be open and honest.
2006-07-05 15:13:24 · answer #3 · answered by Philippa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say anything about whether or not you have children, and I'm hoping that you do not. If you do, it's gonna make it much harder to do the right thing - which is being honest with the husband and probably ending up leaving him.
I feel for you. I'm a happily married straight woman, but always have compassion for anyone in a tough situation such as yours. I'm praying that everything will work out for the best.
2006-07-05 15:02:35 · answer #4 · answered by Booboobabies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you should really think if you are lesbian or bi. When you come to that conclusion take it from there. Talk with your husband. Some men are really understanding to these issues and some are willing to work with you on these issues. I know of plenty of bi women out there who are happily married with girlfriend on one side and husband on the other side and it works. It takes alot of open and honest communication from all parties. Check out the website friendsacrossamerica.com the site owner is a happily married bi female. Read her story. See if that helps you some.
2006-07-05 13:50:02 · answer #5 · answered by midnightdealer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK... honey, you are a lesbian and it is ok. There is nothing wrong with you other than the fact that you are cheating on your husband. Get out of the marriage and then enjoy the fruits of women.
2006-07-05 13:42:47 · answer #6 · answered by superchef 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please come out of this mess.
i think you have not seen a real man.
a man who can dicover your womanhood and bring it back to you.
if you feel OK, let me have that opportunity...
to give yourself back to you
any woman, if propely played [in india we call : handling woman is like handling a musical instrument] will never feel a need for another woman
i feel your hormones can be corrected with a maschimo man
do you agree?
if yes, pls call me/mail me
2006-07-05 13:35:04 · answer #7 · answered by pasug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you look like your avatar, you are lesbian.
(Actually you are, because only a lesbian can do an avatar like that, I'm not kidding, seriously).
2006-07-05 14:42:01 · answer #8 · answered by Genio Atrapado 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out now.
2006-07-05 13:32:59 · answer #9 · answered by b_your_angel_2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why you like fish so much. Don't you have one yourself that you can play & lick whenever you want?
2006-07-05 13:27:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋