Is there REALLY such a thing as being "bisexual" or is this some lame excuse for those people who refuse to admit they are gay or lesbian??
2006-07-05 06:08:26 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
This subject has come up against alot of debate lately! Yes, there are actually those of us out there who are quite capable of having intimate emotional and physical relationships with both sexes. We, mostly end up in permanent heterosexual married relationships, but not always. Just like any other person, we can be attracted to someone we may or may not end up falling in love with, and even have a sexual relationship with someone we do not love....
The difference is, that we are willing and open to find love in whatever package it comes in......and able to feel a sexual attraction to either regardless! Now, if I were to fall in love with a woman, I would be monogamous to her, same with a man......UNLESS....she desired to have a sexual fantasy or need fulfilled. Then, as long as we had an honest, trusting relationship, I would be open enough to explore her desires with her, This also applies to any man .....But , MOST people whether gay, str8, or Bi would not be open to that AT ALL. It depends on the individual and their level of trust, open-mindedness or ability to trust and be trusted. Now, with that said, I hope everyone understands it as plainly as it should be understood. Just because we are attracted to both sexes, does not mean we aren't capable of being faithful to the one we love.....but there just happen to be a few of us who would be willing to explore and share in other desires involving both sexes.
For more insight into this, please view my previous responses to others posts....specifically one titled "curious".
2006-07-05 06:50:14 · answer #1 · answered by FrEaKoNaLeAsH 3 · 6⤊ 1⤋
i don't think it's a lame excuse at all. i'm attracted to both sexes and it really has nothing to do with their genitals. it's mostly about personality. most of the ppl i am attracted to have a lot of the same personality traits. they're almost always laid back, open-minded, and honest.
there are times when i prefer a man's touch and others when i yearn for the feel of a woman. but i think everyone has their own preferences and i don't think it's really fair to try to force anyone into a label such as gay or straight. we should just all try to be true to ourselves and allow others to do the same.
2006-07-05 07:46:33 · answer #2 · answered by water_loves_fire 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Some people do temporarily identify as bisexual on the way to identifying as homosexual or heterosexual. This doesn't mean that all bisexuals are in a state of transition though. There are people who identify as bisexual for their whole life. Most bisexuals tend to prefer one gender to the other, but what makes them bisexual is that they cannot deny their feelings for either gender - no matter which one is dominant.
2006-07-05 09:13:26 · answer #3 · answered by nemesis 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I'm bi. I'd have no problem admitting that I'm lesbian, in fact it would make my life easier. Bisexuals have hate coming from both sides. The heterosexuals consider us gay, and the homosexuals think we're just out for sex.
2006-07-05 07:15:13 · answer #4 · answered by holidayspice 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I am bisexual. And in a monagmous relationship. With another bisexual. And we aren't hiding our "gay/lesbian" or "straight" sides - we are truly bisexual. Basically, in my case, I don't see gender as a big issue with who I will date (to me, that's just as important as if you are right-footed or left-footed - really minor detail). My parnter is attracted to both sexes as well, but varies from the homosexual to heterosexual extremes, according to the six-point Kinsey scale where a 6 refers to someone who is totally homosexual.
2006-07-05 17:04:35 · answer #5 · answered by michellesm 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL. Kinda sound like ya got hurt by a bisexual. Nope, some of us genuinely feel sexually attracted to both genders. Different bi's decide in different ways. Some go for one sex for awhile, then the other, some go for both, and some like to er "recieve" from one and and "both" with the other.
2006-07-10 13:38:51 · answer #6 · answered by Dell W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kinsey did a study that resulted in the Kinsey Scale. It basically points out that there is a line between totally gay and totally straight. I fall in the bi area on the line. I fall in love with people and not the gender.
2006-07-05 12:35:19 · answer #7 · answered by Daniel M 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
No its not a lame excuse. Some people really are attracted to both genders.
2006-07-05 07:00:20 · answer #8 · answered by midnightdealer 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I believe there are bi's. some people like having the best of both worlds. and being bi IS being gay or lesbian as well as being straight. too many people focus on either black or white when the gray area is SO much more fun.
2006-07-05 06:10:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, there are bisexuals just like there are straight, lesbian, and gay people. Bi people will always be bisexual no matter who they love or marry, they are still bi, being able to have romatic feelings for both men and women.
http://www.hrc.org/Template.cfm?Section=Coming_Out_as_Bi&Template=/ContentManagement/ContentDisplay.cfm&ContentID=32351
2006-07-05 09:21:57 · answer #10 · answered by MindStorm 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋