I know what people are going to say..... I have said it. But do you think that you can still make a past relationship still work? To give some background on the question.....I am getting divoriced and I am not rushing into another relationship. What I am trying to do is to figure out if it would be a good idea to start talking to an ex again while I go through this. I am only 21 and I am in the Army. My wife cheated on me while I was/am deployed to Iraq. Just trying to get some other opinions....thanks for your advice.
2006-07-05 06:00:46 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
well I think that you should try it and see becuase if you didnt then you will always wonder what if?
try it you in the army you should be soldier enough to tell her how you truly really feel
okay?
just try it I havent got a reason to tell you something that isnt true
2006-07-05 06:13:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you can make a past relationship work. But only of the other person wants to try to make it work also. I know a couple who has children and the husband is in the army. They have made it just fine. Being in the army is a hard thing. especially if the person does not get to see the spouse for a long time. That makes the husband/ wife have feelings, is this going to work? But if you try hard enough then the relationship should work.
2006-07-05 06:07:58 · answer #2 · answered by Mariah W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what you should do but because you're only 21 you won't. You should not get into a relationship with anyone right now. Take the time to regroup. You're going through a divorce, you've just got back from a place that must have been a nightmare, and the person that should have had your back cheated on you. Take some time to just breathe and enjoy being free. Thanks for going to Iraq and now do something good for you
2006-07-05 06:08:08 · answer #3 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need someone to talk to during this rough time, and if it is an ex girlfriend you need to do that with, so be it. I got divorced too (this yr became final) and you need people to talk to. I never really felt like I rushed into relationships, but when you talk to someone about this stuff, you gain a certain closeness and you are longing for right now...
If the past relationship ends up working out while you are gaining a closeness again, that's great... just make sure it is for the right reasons.
Just know your boundaries and you will be ok...
2006-07-05 06:07:04 · answer #4 · answered by xxxcariooo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the relationship you had with her prior to the break up. It has to be difficult being over there and going through a divorce. I feel for you. I think that if your ex girlfriend and you were good friends than I would encourage you to talk with her. Especially since you are not wanting to rush into another relationship. You need someone one for emotional comfort. If she's the one you think could be what you need then yes, talk with her. Good luck to you and thank you for fighting for all of us!!!! God bless you.
2006-07-05 06:09:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every relationship has it's good & bad points. Of course, now that you're going through one of the most devestating things a person in a relationship can go through, you're looking for something to comfort you. You and your ex broke up for a reason, right? Maybe you should just comfort yourself with a blanket and a good movie.
2006-07-05 06:31:03 · answer #6 · answered by kebbs32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not? The meaning of ex-is that you are no longer associated with them. If you are to open up that chapter in your life again, please don't refer to them as your ex, but rather as a past relationship.
Since dating them, you have become more mature, more traveled, and maybe the reasoning for your break up was the lack of maturity or experiences. Just be considerate and don't put the baggage from your marriage on the wagon with your past relationship. Don't go in looking for the same signs from your wife, or unload on her. I pray that you two become a great team.
2006-07-05 06:06:59 · answer #7 · answered by gravelgertiesgems 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a difficult question. My advice is that if you don't have children, move on. But, if you think you want to save the relationship, you should work through the issues with a marriage counselor. I highly recommend the article at the link below.
2006-07-05 06:14:23 · answer #8 · answered by Otis F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, it's not a good idea. you are vulnerable and on the rebound. without realizing it you will put false hope on your past relationship that in reality, you know won't work. i suggest staying away from her. ex'es are ex'es for a reason. if you need a shoulder to cry on find someone else. give yourself time to grieve before doing anything like what you suggest. it may seem like an innocent thought, oh just an ex helping me out but it won't end that way. trust me.
2006-07-05 06:07:22 · answer #9 · answered by origchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im quiet a bit younger then you, but in my opinion, i would say you should start to talk to her again and see if you can't work things out. I've seen the same thing happen before to some friends of mine, so i know what it's like. I hope things can work out for you.
2006-07-05 06:04:42 · answer #10 · answered by Riley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kinda sounds like you want to use the ex for a rebound cause she is already familiar to you and you have a past with her,probably better than finding a stranger if a rebound relationship is inevitable.Good luck God bless:O) Thanx so much for defending our country!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-05 09:24:53 · answer #11 · answered by melissa_froggies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋