My best friend's brother just pass away, he is so young only 26. My friend is so sad, she won't even talk to anybody right now. Even when I stop by her house, she won't even open the door, not pick up the phone. I am so worry about her right now. I want to help, but do not how. Please help me
2006-07-05 05:41:14 · 6 answers · asked by xzhou11377 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She is grieving now. For every person, the amount of time to be alone is different. Just leave her a message via her voicemail or by e-mail..saying "If you want to talk or do something, just let me know. I'm here." That is the best you can do at this point. Drop off a card at her house or mail one also. She seems like she is not ready to express her feelings to anyone right now. You seem like a really good friend..so I am sure she will return to talk to you once she is ready.
2006-07-05 10:16:55 · answer #1 · answered by Mav17 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Though she is your best friend try and avoid the temptation to rescue her, allow her time to heal. Grieving takes time. Each person handles death differently.
As her friend you cannot grieve or suffer for her (though you want to) you can't speed up or slow the process. Just make yourself available at all times and let her know this. It is a great comfort to her even though it may not seem that way to you. Send a sympathy card and just write in that she is in your heart and mind, and when she is ready you will be there for her day or night.
Or just to sit with her and she doesn't need to speak.
This was done for me by my friend when my 24 yr. old cousin was murdered.
Your a good friend and those are hard to find !!
2006-07-05 13:03:31 · answer #2 · answered by american_angel068 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A death of someone close to you is a tragic thing. After my best friend died, I didn't talk or eat for almost a week. This year around his anniversary, I fell apart again. There's nothing anyone can say to make your friend feel better. It takes time. Just make sure she knows you love her. You are a really caring friend, and she's lucky to have you right now.
2006-07-05 12:48:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So sad.You should understand that she has no wish to talk to anybody.But try to talk to her , say that life goes on and that she won't do anything if she sits at home and cries.Try to convince her to go together to shopping, Coffey or call a few friends in your house and surprise her, make a little quiet party, just talking about something happy so she won't think about her brother.
2006-07-05 12:49:43 · answer #4 · answered by ♥beautyfly♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well a death in the family and somebody really close will hurt her really bad.I think she will get over it by her own and she will go to you after she is better.
2006-07-05 12:56:36 · answer #5 · answered by victoriaa:) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
write a note or card to your friend, letting her know your thinking of her, and whenever she wants to talk, or go out, etc. that your there for her.
Don't force things, just be the best mate you can.
2006-07-05 12:49:48 · answer #6 · answered by mad_jakey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋