Aging happens - do you adapt or hide?

Question

I live in a sr community age 62 to 92, hlp . . how do I cope with this? Kids don't come around too often. love art, music, reading,
but what do I do with the rest of my life in the 69 forever?

no transportation except for children
no bus
no lovely good-hearted enjoyable women
no men
yes to church gathering ideas

no transportation except for children
no bus
no lovely good-hearted enjoyable women
no men
yes to church gathering ideas

Answer 1

Age really is a state of mind--if you don't mind, it does not matter! Some of the chronologically oldest people I know have the youngest, most fun spirts! So, first thing to do is count your blessings! You are alive, have shelter, food and clothes, the blessing of health and a good mind! Yes, enjoy yourself, yet, remember that there are lots of people with needs and you have a lot to give. God has a plan for you!

Second thing to do is to get involved--to the full extent you are able--with something that brings you connections and adds value and purpose to others' lives-- and to yours! Check out volunteer opportunities in your local community. Schools, churches, hospitals, nursing facilities, community non-profit organizations, your local museum or arts center--these places and many others always need good, reliable volunteers. If you have a Retired Senior Volunteer Program RSVP) in your community or county, call them. Ask them about transportation. These folks are experts at connecting seniors to volunteer opportunities.

Call your local area agency on aging--there is one serving your county. Ask them about transportation, too. Also, these organizations need volunteers to help get quality information to your older friends and neighbors. Volunteers are needed to help seniors and their families get answers to the new Medicare Part D benefit and other topics like this. To find out the phone number of your area agency on aging, call toll-free 1-800-677-1116. Services that older people need--a friendly daily phone call, for example, can be done from the comfort of your own home. Maybe you and other friends where you live could organize or assist with such a service. This is just one idea...

If you don't want to volunteer outside of your senior community, you might try organizing an intergenerational program with kids at your senior community. Groups like 4-Hers and Scouts could come to your center and provide regular programs. Music, talks and demonstrations for example. Kids would get valuable experience in presenting their skills--and folks like you could share stories, music, crafts, genalogy projects and other things you know with these young people. Get a friend or two to help you with this and then talk with your senior community's admistrator about your idea. Consider calling your local County 4-H Extension office to engage them with this idea--or something similar. If you get a lukewarm reception, don't give up! Believe me, there is a need for young people to connect with older ones in our society. (These are going to be the future leaders and care-givers for the bunch of baby-boomers who are all going to be old and in need of care in a matter of years!)

Above all, keep a positive attitude and stay involved and connected--interested in others. Avoid the temptation to isolate yourself, because, isolation allows the seeds of depression to germinate. And depression kills more older people faster than diseases like heart disease or cancer.

Hope this helps somehow! Best wishes!

Answer 2

Another thought to check on, you say there are no buses? Call the town. Most towns have senior services with transportation. Either a shuttle or regular bus stop. They bring you to the local foodstore, town center, recreation center, etc. The people who take advantage of this are generally regulars. You will meet them, maybe make some friends. The way to stay young is to stay connected and active! The more friends, the more options! Enjoy!!!

Answer 3

Three ways to use your present moments, To enjoy your life , now!
Be in the present: When you want to be happier and more effective, focus on what is right now.Respond to what is important today.
Learn from the past:When you want to make the present better than the past.Look at what happened in the past. Learn something valuable from it.Do things differently today.
Help create the future:When you want to make the future better than the present.Imagine what a wonderful future would look like.Do something today to help it happen.
Realise your purpose:Explore ways to make your life and work more meaningful.
THE RESPONSIBILTY OF THE ELDERLY THEMSELVES

Basic to all human dignity is the willingness to accept responsibility for oneself and one's own behaviour and this is to be encouraged in the elderly. Difficult as their circumstances may be, they have no right to be selfish, complaining or critical. They may not make unreasonable demands upon their relations and friends, nor act as if the world should revolve around them. They too must continue to struggle against their sin and ask for daily grace to overcome it.

Old age can be an opportunity for making new friends, developing new interests, discovering fresh ways of service, spending more time in fellowship with God. It can be happy and winsome or empty and sad—depending largely on the faith and grace of the person involved. To the elderly God has given precious promises and they are called to depend on these and to demonstrate their truth for His glory.

"Even to your old age and grey hairs l am he, l am he who will sustain you. I hare made you and I will carry you; I will sustain you and I will rescue you" (Isaiah 46: 4).

"They will still bear fruit in old age, they will stay fresh and green, proclaiming, 'The Lord is upright; he is my Rock, and there is no wickedness in him' " (Psalm 92: 14, 15).

Answer 4

Don't wait on others to help you because they will never come around and only disappoint you. You need to get out there and do the things you love to do and enjoy yourself. You raised your kids and now it's your time to do what you want and to have a great time. There must be people in your community that have similiar interest and get together and go places. You have so much to give, become a mentor, volunteer at a hospital or daycare center. You have to much to give to say is this it.

Answer 5

Hi you are not alone; you have the entire web at your disposal. Remember when you were that age, your kids kept you busy, you were always running around too busy for many things. Just kick back and enjoy your friends. Reading can take you away into a place full of thoughts and intellectual places. Take action, dont give up. You have a lot to offer.

Answer 6

You're not chained to the floor, I hope. The retirement center in my community has a bus for the gad abouts. They go to the library or the library comes to them as necessary... they see plays, go to garden shows, the zoo, whatever the happening thing of the moment might be. For those who can't get out they have groups who come to speak and entertain, even clergy who come. And if whatever those who are in charge have arranged doesn't suit you then stir up a ruckus and make some phone calls and make some arrangements of your own, dang it! *wink*

Answer 7

Adapting has to be better and keep you younger in the long run than hiding from life! I may still be very young, but I hope that as I age I will try to look for things, activities, and the like to help keep me young.

Answer 8

It's up to you to self motivate to avoid pending depression! Figure out your likes, what's available and modes of having the two intersect! Good luck young lady!

Answer 9

If you can get around well... Why wait on your kids? kick your heels up ...Do what you like, you deserve it. Meet up at the a art gallery,lake,park, cook out . plan a trip together on a boat or island... If ya act like{ 69 } your gonna be treated { 69}.... Best wishes Thanks : ) ADAPT.......

Answer 10

just adapt. keep healthy and don't do things that you know would harm ur bod. stay active and look the way you want to look without having to go and get millions of dollars of plastic surg.