I assume because I am asking this question that I am not ready but when did you know you were ready to have a baby?
2006-07-05 05:26:38 · 31 answers · asked by Pink Princess 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
When you are able to take of yourself, and know that you are ready to devote the rest of your life to the children that you will bear. And to be able to provide a stable and happy life for everyone. Then you know that you are ready to take on the responsibilty of children.
2006-07-05 05:32:39 · answer #1 · answered by immortal_dreamzz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually you are never "ready." I mean of course a 25 yr old married woman with a stable job is ready in comparison to a 15 yr old high schooler, but if you wait until you're ready you'll never have kids. There is no perfect moment when you say "This is it...if I have a baby now all will go smoothly." What I mean is, there will always be something you want to do before you have kids, or no matter how much money you have you will always want more, so as long as you're responsible and financially ABLE to have a child and you know that you want kids then have them. There is never the "perfect" moment to have a baby, but once you have them you'll wonder how you ever lived with them.
2006-07-05 05:50:20 · answer #2 · answered by Giving/Seeking Advice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are asking, you are thinking about having a baby. I knew at 23 that I wanted to be a mom. I always had this theory about being 30 or 30k in the bank, well neither happened and I am a proud mother of a 10 and 12 year old with one on the way. Find that special someone but don't wait too long. I had more patients at 23 then at 34, so I will soon find out what it is like being an older mom compared to a younger mom.
2006-07-05 05:33:07 · answer #3 · answered by Andrea C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knew when I was in a secure relationship and I was done with my other life (clubbing and needing to go out and stuff). But to be honest...I really wasn't ready, I just thought I was. I don't think anyone is ever REALLY ready. No matter how well you educate yourself, nobody can understand and be ready for a real baby until it's there. Being in a healthy relationship w/ the father, being financially stable, and having a good support system will help you immensely when it hits you that "OMG I'm not ready!" ^_^
2006-07-05 05:36:39 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll never truly be ready. You can prepare the external things like buying a house or saving money but its a huge life change and an emotional roller coaster. Those external things only scratch the surface.
I say once you start questioning more and more often if your ready.... then thats a sign you are. Otherwise it would just be a fleeting thought and you would not be on here asking others.
Its just one of those things you hold your breath and jump into. I was not planning on having a baby for a few years but was surprised. It was really difficult through the pregnancy and first month, but now its absolutely wonderful! (I NEVER thought I would be saying that) lol
2006-07-05 05:36:04 · answer #5 · answered by Jen11979 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're ready when you have: 1. a stable marriage, 2. a house, 3. a reliable vehicle, 4. a stable income, 5. lots of money in savings and investments, 6. lived your life to the fullest and are ready to sacrifice your next 18 years. Yes, you can be emotionally ready to have a child without all of these things, but, you will most likely end up raising another messed up kid and living off the government. Kids are the future, don't f' it up.
2006-07-05 05:34:59 · answer #6 · answered by cutie22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 33 and just had my first child two weeks ago. For me, it was when I had established my business and been able to get some of the wanderlust out of my system. I love to travel and I knew it would be more difficult (if not impossible in some areas) with children. I am married to a man who has two children from a previous marriage whom we have part time but we still had our freedom to go do things we wanted to do. I don't regret having a baby later in life and I feel much more mentally, emotionally and financially able to provide for my child.
It's different for each person, so you'll probably know when you're ready. Good luck!
2006-07-05 05:33:08 · answer #7 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is different for everyone, but there are some basic to look at to see if you are ready.
You need to be able to answer yes to all of these questions.
1. Can you provide both financially and emotionally? Babies are expensive and require a lot of attention.
2. Are you ready to give up all of your free time?
3. Can you provide a stable home situation?
4. Do you have resources? Friends, family, ect.
5. Do you have patients and love to spare?
Hope this helps. If you can answer yes, then go for it.
2006-07-05 05:37:40 · answer #8 · answered by HI 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when your ready to devote all your time to your baby, stay up all night when they're sick or won't stop crying. Ready to spend a lot of money on diapers, clothes, baby stuff. And ready to give up going out and doing anything because your baby comes first. Also when your married and have a good home for your baby and your ready to be a mom.
2006-07-05 05:32:03 · answer #9 · answered by Babe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When everytime I see a baby I want to grab it from its Mommy and just cuddle for hours. When I see a baby and just ache. I always wanted kids, but I didn't realize how much until my first was fluttering in my tummy. I love babies, but I love all the stages and ages. They all have so many wonderful qualities and experiences. My heart can flutter as much when my 8 year old hugs me as when she smiled at me as an infant. There is just something about children that makes you love them like crazy. When I get baby on the brain, I know its that time again.
2006-07-05 05:43:34 · answer #10 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont know. When you are blessed with a child, as a women you will know. You will ask yourself these questions:
Am I ready to live my life for another unconditionally?
Am I ready to end this Independence I have master for a long time?
Do I really want to have relationship with this man for the rest of my life?
Emotional and spiritual am I ready for this change in my lifestyle...the shape and appearance of my body....and my faith in myself to become a vessel to nuture a new life?
If you answered yes to these question then your ready!!!!
Hint: just wait for it to happen and not force the fact. God will bless you when the time is right.
2006-07-05 05:42:05 · answer #11 · answered by ihavedrive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋