My fiance cheated on me and was apparantly in love with someone else. Unfortunately, I have to know him for the rest of my life because we have a daughter together. How long do you think its gonna take to get over this, especially being in this situation. I wanna know when I'm not gonna feel sad all day, everyday, anymore.
2006-07-05 05:11:30 · 17 answers · asked by Lindsey H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Nobody can really say. It will just happen. One day you will wake up and this situation wont be the first thing on your mind. Its a process that has stages (denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance). How long it takes to go through one stage to reach the next is not something you can determine. Just know there is a ray of hope. I'm in the same boat right now.
2006-07-05 05:18:16 · answer #1 · answered by JustMe 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-08 03:11:45 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think in every situation is different. A friend once told me that it will take 1/3 the time that you were together to get over him. I think that is cute and in some ways true, but relationships are different for everyone.
The fact that you have a daughter together will probaly mean longer because she will be a constant reminder of him, but you just have to remember that although you are not together now ... look at what you got out of the relationship a wonderful daughter... and Im sure many a lifes lessons.
You will be sad for a long time and each day will be one step towards accepting it.... you will always remember the person that you were once in love with but eventually it will turn into good memories of the times you spent together, rather than pain.... and just think for some reason you are not meant to be together right now. You have meeting the person you are made for to look forward to when you are ready!
2006-07-05 05:27:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can put a healing time on a broken heart. Only when YOU yourself have decided 'enough is enough'. When you wake up one day and realize it's YOUR life, he's just in it. Be strong and remember you did nothing wrong. If you are blaming yourself or any of this, then I'm sorry, my friend you are not ready to move on.
Distractions will only help you for so long until you decide for your self and your daughter's future to be happy. My husband once asked me 'If you had a choice to live for the rest of your life happy or sad, which would you choose?' It usually helps me to get over my issues more quickly.
Good Luck!!
2006-07-05 05:47:39 · answer #4 · answered by jade11378 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes a long time especially if you really love him. Eventually you will. I was there. My girl whom I loved very much dumped me for my best friend 28 years ago. I was devastated and lost interest in everything in life.
Life was hell. I lived like a hermit for the next 2 years. I did not socialise and kept to myself most of my time until I met a lovely girl who later became my wife. Initially I found it difficult to start a relationship. I told her about my past and she was so understanding and slowly and eventually we started a relationship and tied the knot.
Know what? I was glad that the first relationship did not work out. I am now married to the most wonderful woman any man can ask for. I am happily married for 24 years now.
So, look on the bright side. One day, you will meet a man who will love and care for you. Like the saying goes, it is better to be loved than to love.
Good luck and best wishes. Time will heal all wounds.
2006-07-05 05:34:01 · answer #5 · answered by Lost Sheep 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For a start, occupy your time and making new friends again. Go out and date all over again. Life is too short to be bitter. But dont get commited yet.
As for your question, there is no time frame. You should let yourself feeling sad 1st, allowing yourself to admit that it is over and you guys are not meant to be together. It is hard but once you admit your sad feelings and surrender to the fact, then you will feel okay and ready. Once you feel nothing and your feeling tells you that they are together now there is nothing you can do about it then the 'settled' feelings will take place. You will know that the dark clouds over you have passed.
2006-07-05 05:54:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very hard to determine how long it will take. It all depend on how long you have being together and how much do you love him. Sweetie all you have to do it take one day at time and when the time it right, then the pain will go away. It all depend on what kind of person you are. I know a girl that it happen too and she is still thinking about her love of her life.That happen 5yrs ago. Now she can't trust any man. She can't open her heart to love again, because the pain it still their.
2006-07-05 06:57:03 · answer #7 · answered by clayton n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun it has been two years for me and the hurt is still there.....but time heals all wounds.....like any other loss it takes time.....time....time....just know that you are worthy of being loved.....and things just didn't work out for you....but you have to communicate for the sake of your daughter.....she is what is important for the both of you.....when she smiles at you.....just know that things are going to be ok.......the love of a child is a wonderful thing....and someday someone will come along when you least expect it and you will look back......wondering why you spent so much time being sad over your fiance.......
2006-07-05 06:41:29 · answer #8 · answered by sleftout 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's going to take a while. If you can try not to see or talk to him. is there a nuetral place you can drop off your daughter and he can pick her up? That will make things a bit easier for you. Just don't jump into a relationship yet. you don't want anyone else getting hurt right now. Good luck I hope it works out for you. A broken heart is hard to fix.
2006-07-05 05:28:56 · answer #9 · answered by jess_brenda_04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about your relationship. It was based on lies. Did you know he was cheating? Why did you have a child before the marrige? Did he really love you? Take time to be honest with yourself. Then move on. Life is too short to be sad. Your child needs a happy mom.
2006-07-05 05:27:41 · answer #10 · answered by GLORIA S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋