And you found out the person they are with is married, would you contact that person's spouse so that they would know as well? I've found out my wife has been cheating and found out the info of the person she is cheating with. This guy has a 1 month old baby at home and his wife has no idea. Would it be a good idea to contact her and let her know?
2006-07-05 04:36:47 · 18 answers · asked by izombix 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes I've confronted my wife and sent her on her way.
2006-07-05 04:47:17 · update #1
Sure, why not. In fact, I'd invite them over as a couple to have dinner, but I'd probably hire a security company to hide in your bedroom just in case fireworks break out. Have a blast!
2006-07-05 04:43:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 15⤊ 2⤋
I don't know if it would be a good idea but I think the other person needs to know only if you are sure that is who your wife is cheating with. That woman deserves to know what is going on even though I'm sure it is going to devastate her. This man that is cheating with your wife needs to have everybody know exactly what he is like! Somebody that has a 1 month old child at home and a wife doesn't deserve the family he has and hopefully his wife will see that too and kick him to the curb! Once a cheater always a cheater! Good luck with your situation too. If it was me I wouldn't let your wife come back either other than to get her belongings and leave. I've been cheated on when I was 1 month pregnant by my baby's father and then again after she was born I let him back in our lives and he did it again when she was 4 months old with my best friend who was married with her own child. And sorry to say they are still together off and on and she was dumb enough to have a baby with him too after she knew what they were doing to me. He is doing the same to her but it isn't with me! If a person gets a taste of cheating once they will keep doing it no matter how much they tell you it will never happen again. Both you and the other guy's wife deserve better than that!
2006-07-05 04:51:05 · answer #2 · answered by ~Amanda~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could do that, but you dont really know the circumstances at that persons end. Not that I'm saying what they did was right. He's married and he should not be cheating on his wife, but their are other factors right now. Do you really want to be spiteful and destroy someone elses home? You're angry right now and you want to get back at him for destroying your life, what if he didn't know she was married? Remeber your wife is a grown woman and knows right from wrong. She could have said no at anytime during their affair, it was up to her to turn away.
Then again, it is your choice.
2006-07-05 04:58:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, call the woman and tell her but perhaps wait until the guy's wife is over any possible post-partum depression. Hold off a month or two if you can.
However, she does deserve to know. Not telling her is like participating in the lie, now that you know about it.
2006-07-05 04:49:53 · answer #4 · answered by CleverGal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you for letting her go! Still, I would not think it's wise to play Judge Judy and tell the cheater's wife about her not so faithful husband. It's not your place, but maybe find someone that might know her and confide in them. A friend would have more rights to exposing the truth than you, a stranger. Because she might not believe you...
2006-07-05 06:42:04 · answer #5 · answered by jade11378 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends on what you plan on saying and doing.
Have you confronted your wife first?
Also the woman may not believe you at first when you try to tell her. It could lead to a lot of drama for you. I would confront your wife first and let her know that you know what's going on.
2006-07-05 04:41:05 · answer #6 · answered by halocraze86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, let her know. Don't let him get away destroying your life. Destroy his too. His wife needs to know she has a cheat for a husband. Why keep her in the dark? With the info, it is up to her to decide what to do with him.
2006-07-05 05:13:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to tell her?
It depends were you want this to go...Do you want to tell her to get revenge on your wife? cause if thats the case then "no" or do you want to tell her as "just for your information" I mean it is obvious this guy is scum, as he does this when he just had a new baby, he should be at home helping his wife and enjoying the happiness of a new child but, thats not your question.
If you do tell her, what is it that your hoping would happen?
This is kind of a tough call. I understand you would want to know, but does she? and is this really your business to tell her.
Let me tell you abit of a story, I had an affair on my husband (ex) I could have very easily gotten away with it, but I confessed to him as one I did want to end the relationship and two because i was guilt ridden by it. I left with the children (teenagers). about two weeks after I left I recieved a call from the man that i had the affair with. He informed me that he and his wife had split up also, but the reason he was calling was because his wife had contacted my husband. I couldn't believe it! but, to make a long story short instead of this being a healing thing for them, it made them nuts, litterally! She hounded me! she called me all hours of the day and night at home and on my cell, had conversations with my kids, met my kids through my ex! it was a nightmare. I could have handled her hounding me, but my kids! and my ex made threats about him to my kids, told my kids all about him, informed my kids about the times we were together. It was horrible for them. So just a word of caution, think before you act. What is it your going to gain from this, what are you hoping for from this?
2006-07-05 05:10:13 · answer #8 · answered by maxine553 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how could u be so sure u dont love your wife anymore if u have kids u better think about a little more and telling someone that u dont know that thier spouse is cheating wont help u or them they mite not belive u anyway
2006-07-05 04:55:31 · answer #9 · answered by canibus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think you should say anything at all. You should protect yourself and leave the other couple alone. With a one month old baby she doesn't need to know about it, she has enough to deal with as it is. Her husband may have learned his lesson. But I think it's his decision when and if he tells her. You never know, he may never do it again and a family could have been shattered if you'd spilled the beans.
2006-07-05 06:43:43 · answer #10 · answered by brown_iyed_grrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell her. If someone knew that your wife was doing it, wouldnt you want them to tell you. I would definitely want to know if my wife was cheating so I could move on. There is no reason his wife should get mad at you. You would be doing her a favor, but she may not believe you, but that is her choice.
2006-07-05 04:49:36 · answer #11 · answered by thehockeyking2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋