well, i have got to tell someone to get this off my chest. I am engaged and living with my bf of 3 yrs. we have some relationship problems. he is very jealous and constantly thinks I am cheating. I have never and never will. I want to marry him. he calls me all kinds ugly names and tells me to %$#@ off. he constantly tells me to leave or he is going to leave. all this is said when we argue. then when i tell him how hurtful this is to me he says, "i LET myself feel this way, I do it to myself, its in how I take things." Last night he came home after being out of town a week due to work. I had him 4 nice birthday gifts (his birthday is in 2 weeks but he had such a bad week that I was only thinking of him to make him feel better and thats why i gave them to him, also, he may actually be out of town on his bday and that is another reason why) well, he thinks I cheated and thats why i gave him the gifts. I have did nothing but sit home at home and go to work, also i have 2 sons. pleasehelp
2006-07-05 04:36:44 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
boy, this sounds like my first marriage. i was with someone that did this for 5 years. constantly telling me i was cheating on him when HE was the one cheating. That is your first sign to a cheater. Does he give you money to pay bills with? Is it as much as it used to be? That is your second sign in a cheater. Is he buying new clothes, new underwear, new shoes and not really needing them? That is your third sign to a cheater.
to my view point you must like this stress or you wouldnt have put up with it for so long. all this disfunctionality sucks. LEAVE HIM!
its not a question of what attracts you to a guy, its a question of how much of thier bull are you willing to put up with! and you dont deserve this abuse. YES, HE IS MENTALY ABUSING YOU! dont put up with another minute of this bad behavior. 5 years was way too long, let alone your 3. this man needs mental help and you need a better man.
i wish you luck.
2006-07-05 04:46:30 · answer #1 · answered by ziggunerin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want your sons to live in an environment where they continually witnesses verbal abuse and degrading behavior towards women? If you stay you will be teaching them that it is okay for him to treat you this way, it's not. Please for your sons sake don't create legal ties with this man by marring him, things will only get worse once your married and you become "his", start making plans to leave him, and get out while he is away on one of his business trips.
2006-07-05 11:47:16 · answer #2 · answered by corel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you obviously know there is a problem if you wanting approval on him. you need to ask yourself do i want this for the rest of my life ,a man that treats me this way,verbally abusing me and possibly cheating on me too. if it were me id kick his as$ to the curb cause i deserve better. whats love got to do with it ?
2006-07-05 11:49:41 · answer #3 · answered by Ms Scarlet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
VIOLENCE will be next. Believe me. I've got A-H friends who think they're superior to women, call them obscene names, and smack them around, he's so stupid he doesn't think she tells anyone.
I think "Fishguts" is right on target
2006-07-05 12:19:22 · answer #4 · answered by gifted 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are NUTS for staying with him!
he Doesn't love you...
get out while you can
2006-07-05 11:42:06 · answer #5 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE IS CHEATING ON YOU.
2006-07-05 11:42:29 · answer #6 · answered by Fishgutts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋