My husband slashed my ties and busted windows what to do?

Question

would it be wrong to call the law. I love him alot but he has issuses. Should i just leave him alone?

Answer 1

Ok, ok .......how do I say this....um...ARE YOU INSANE ??!?!? Of COURSE it would not be wrong to call the law! However, recognize that you better be calling the law out of fear for yourself. It's probably community property (the tires and windows) so they are not going to cart him away for that. Methinks, perhaps, that you need to be more concerned with what he will do to you when the violence escalates.

And it will escalate. It will. Repeat after me, "The violence WILL escalate and it will be directed at me."

You cannot love someone who does these things. Your psyche is confusing love with familiar...confusing love with fear of being alone. He does not love you - no one in their right mind commits such property violence because of love. They do it because of control. He wants to control you and when he can't through this kind of intimidation, he will begin to hurt you.

You have GOT to get out. Get away from him and begin to try to think straight. This kind of escape takes precious careful planning. You will need to hoard as much money as you can (because when you leave, he will cancel all the credit cards) - you need to get all the papers necessary - marriage license, birth certificates, social security cards, etc. You will need to pack a wide range of clothes. You need to call the local abused women's shelter and enlist their help and advice. And then, when he is away, you have got to leave.

Everyone deserves to be treated better than this - YOU deserve to be treated better than this.

Answer 2

Is this the first time he has done this? If so then maybe something has changed in his life and he is having hard time to deal with it. I understand that you love him, and you want to stay but at the same time your scared and want to leave. Since you are married then you should at least try to get him help. Tell him that you love him very much but you are scared of his behavior. Let him know that he should go to counseling or anger management class. Tell him gently. He may actually feel bad for beating up your car. Even though he may not tell you or show you. If he has said sorry then that may actually be a cry for help. Men usually don't tell you or show their true 'soft' feelings. Just tell him very nice and as gentle as you can that he needs help. Do not threaten him that if he doesn't get help then you are leaving, because then he just may start using you as a punching bag or worse. If things don't change or get worse then you need to get out of the house. If you do end up leaving make sure that you are staying with friends or relatives. Leave when he is not there and won't be there for awhile. Leave a loving note letting him know that his violence is what drove you away and if he truly loved you and wanted you back that he needs to get into counseling and take anger management classes. Upon completion then you guys get back together and take it slow. You will need to be there for him more now than you ever have been. Encourage him and congratulate him if he does seek out help.
Good luck, be careful, and stay safe.

Answer 3

Calling the police is the bet thing to do. However, they will probably not be able to arrest him without proven facts that he has done it. Were there witnesses? If so you need to get them to tell what happened.
Once arrested for domestic abuse, a man usually only has to spend a night or one day in the jail. Enough time for you to get into a women's shelter.
ican tell by the way you are asking the question that you realize you are in danger and that the relationship will not work however, you are not yet ready to leave. If you were you would be gone by now.
I suggest, going to a women's shelter without him knowing if possible, talking with a counselor there, and joining a support group so that you can become stronger and eventually leave him.
He will not want you to go to the center for he will realize he is losing control of you and that is exactly what he doesn't want. You need to be careful in doing it and make sure he doesn't find out.

Answer 4

First thing you do is CALL THE POLICE, THEN GET A LAWYER . Then get over this " I still love him crap and wake up to the real world ! This is called tough love here lady. Do you know how many women are in the grave yard because of this kind of stuff? The next thing he might slash is you face or your throat. If you have kids do not put them Thur this. If he tells you I will kill myself if you do this or that tell OK just make sure you have your will ready. If he will do that to your car is will do it to you or your kids.. This is a power trip for him, do not let him have power over you , unless you want to live in fear.

Answer 5

Your husband has an anger problem.
He doesn't know how to control, or express, anger.
If you are not the cause of his anger, there is not much you can do.
When he is in a quiet mood, talk together calmly and respectfully about this matter.
Or
Get him to professional counselling.
Or
Tell him your out of his life for 2 months and you'll both see what the score is after that.

Answer 6

your husband needs help, but the most important thing just now is to be safe, take care of yourself. He needs a mental health exam and you would be wise to get counseling to see if staying or going is the right thing to do now. If there is a history of this kind of behavior, I would certainly call the police and get a restraining order.

Answer 7

If he already did that to a car. Then he not going to care doing it to you. You need to get rid of him, before you are his punching bag. Call the cops and press charges. If you are scare of him, have a EPO out against him. Just don't sit there and let him run the henhouse.

Answer 8

You need to sign a restraining order on him before something worse happens. For god sakes go to a friends or families home that he cannot find you at for a cooling off period.

Answer 9

NO you shouldn't just leave him alone. Do you still live with him? If not, get a restraining order ASAP.
Then file for divorce. If he's getting this angry you should be worried about your safety.

Answer 10

get away from him he's a psyco. Some issues are only fixable through medication, and alot of those type of angry nasty people with issues also refuse to take any medication for their obvious problem. Get away before he hurts you, or kills you. I know what you're going through.