Men (with wife & children)....need your honest answers?

Question

i am 22, he is 29. we have a 2 and a half year old boy and a 4 month old little girl. we are both happy with our lives and eachother. after my daughter was born he said eventually he wanted another. Then a few weeks later, i'm guessing the stress of a newborn he said he was done having kids and this was it, just 2. So i go on the pill. i had to stop taking it for other health reasons but anyways, he knows i'm not on it anymore. we don't use condoms or anything to prevent pregnancy.i told him he has to pull out from now on. (yeah , i know this isn't birth control)
my question is, does he really not want anymore kids or is he being lazy or does he want another and just don't want to say it?....knowing we can get pregnant i would think he would atleast pull out.what's your honest opinion please?

i've been on ALL types of birth control...they mess with my body way too much... does anybody REALLY know what's in that? think about it, it prevents pregnancy.....all kinds of side effects from b.c.

maybe i should repeat myself for those who have a hard time seeing or reading...i asked MEN ONLY...and so you know...the pill effects everybody differently, and it is no good for me, and yes i have been on 3 different types.also been on depo...another bad drug!

Answer 1

He's probably as confused as you are. Maybe he doesn't know when he's getting ready to "finish"? Maybe he doesn't want another kid, but is too lazy to prevent it. I think you should make sure he understands that not pulling out will increase the chances of having another child. Do you want another child? If not, make it fun for him... let him pull out and "finish" on you in certain appealing places.

Perhaps suggest that a vasectomy could help with not having another child. I had one, and it was the best idea.

Answer 2

I have 3 kids and i am 24,, I did not pull out 4 the first 2...I just thought it felt to good... The third child was a mistake but a good mistake.now I trymy best to where condoms all the time if i dont have one i dont get caught up in the moment..I'll jack off before i make another mistake again... I'm telling u what you may think one more child wont be that much, but the third is very hard.....My advice would be dont give it up to him if he doesnt want to were a condom that means he doesnt respect you!!!

Answer 3

I've been on the pill for 12 years and there is nothing wrong with them. They're going to mess with your hormones a little in the beginning, but your body gets used to it. Anyway, who cares if he doesn't want any more kids. You should be happy with two kids. The world is over populated enough and kids are not cheap or easy to take care of. And it sounds like your hands are full with two little ones right now. But with the methods you're using right now, you're going to end up pregnant again anyway.

Answer 4

I believed that he just turned 30 few days ago,at this age,some men are struggle spiritually,they might struggle at work,they might worry about their physical situations,they are worry that their health is going downhill ( actually 30 is a young age nowadays).Lots of men if they are responsible person,they have some ideas that Am I earn good money to make my kids live on a higher standard ? What if our kids go to university and he has to plan the PLANS for the kids' future.All kinds of pressure make guys stop to have more children,he's not lazy,just confusing,leave him alone for a short period but you have to show him you care of him and support him. But don't wait too long,otherwise,will turn to a habit which is difficult to be adjusted.Regarding the pull out,to pull out at that moment is really "something " unacceptable and uncontrollable,I suggest that you must see your family doctor or counselor.
Life is simple but we make it difficult,don't think too much,enjoy your happy marriage,this is not something granted,enjoy and treasure it. Good Luck.

Answer 5

If he really doesnt want anymore children, he should have a vasectomy. (his responsibility). If you continue having sex without birth control you WILL get pregnant, seminal fluids are discharged from the penis during intercourse and before ejaculation, these fluids contain sperm and will most definitely get you pregnant. On a personal note my wife and stopped at 2 children, and have never regretted it.

Answer 6

He doesn't want any more kids and he doesn't want to pull out either. You're going to have to use some kind of birth control.

Answer 7

He is anxious with you now with 2 kids. A third kid will kill the relationship. You must be responsible about this, if you care about him and your kids' father at all. You must say "I know you don't want kids, we MUST find a reliable method of birth control. Otherwise, its going to ruin us, and I don't want that. I don't want to lose you."

Very often young mothers overlook their husbands and see them only as child care providers. Make sure your husband knows that you still care about him, and that you want to take positive steps to keep him around. He'll respond well to this.

Lastly, if you're not adverse to oral sex, initiate oral with him, and YOU be in charge of the condom. That's right: YOU be in charge of the c?ck, YOU be in charge of the condom - then f?ck his brains out.

Answer 8

give you're self a brake for a couple of years and you mite find that the sound of another kid will rest ok on his ears

to many kids to soon justs makes everyone stressed

so just wait and the time will come.

Answer 9

if he's not pulling out he either wants more children or he expects you to get an abortion if the time comes.

tell him to get a vasectomy if he doesn't want any more kids. it doesn't hurt that much. I did it for my wife. He should do it for you.

Answer 10

well if he really doesn't want anymore kids why doesn't he get neutered,, i did after my second was born but i was lucky one of each,,. and i'd like to have more but who can afford them now days . as for pulling out ,, well hell i like to do that anyway,,,lol