I've been in my first lesbian relationship for 7 months now, and I couldn't possibly be happier, but recently found out she is choosing to move 6 hours away from me, knowing I'll never move there... because I have a child close to here. But she wants to stay together, and how can a relationship work if both parties are choosing to live so far away from each other? As it is... when we are apart, I hate it, and subconciously not want anything to do with her while she's gone. I am pretty sure, I would react this way permanently... out of site out of mind... what should I do? HELP PLEASE! I want to stay with her, but not sure if its something I can handle.
2006-07-05 03:40:53 · 35 answers · asked by brighteyezinva 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You're little boy will be so proud of you when he finds out.
2006-07-05 03:45:12 · answer #1 · answered by dik 3 · 5⤊ 7⤋
The key question is, do you love each other? If you both mutually care deeply about each other, then there will be a compromise. I think it's a little strange though that she would be in a committed relationship, and then just want to up and leave, especially because you have a child, and she got into a relationship knowing that you have a child. If she accepted you having a child from the beginning, and stuck with you this long, then it's not fair for her to up and leave. Honestly I think you should point those factors out to her, and be blunt with her, and if she doesn't understand then give her an ultimatum, leave and we're through or work something out to move not so far away. I'm a lesbian so I can empathize with you, I hope everything works out with you two. Good luck sweetie
2006-07-05 03:48:47 · answer #2 · answered by graciefaith1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is an easy question, if you really love her and are happy - then there is no barricade , to put it easy - MOVE, job, apartment, money - those things are really not important
You have to know if its(she) worth it or not ! if she feels the same way like you she will be very supportive of this idea and help you where every she can!
Kids have no problem going in to a different school or what not that’s a myth, they might (might not) b'tch about moving but in the end it would be just fine (or better then fine)
BTW i would hope that she is not simply moving away because she found a better job that pays 5% more - because if so she is not worth the effort
remote relationships do NOT work, if she wants that tell her "you will always be my friend" but committing to long distance monogamy? hell no !! she should make up her mind
2006-07-05 03:49:10 · answer #3 · answered by siiixbox 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, tough. You have a lot of feelings to sort through. Obviously you've made up your mind you're not moving and she is definitely moving. What you both need to do is sit down and talk about whether you both want this relationship to continue and to work. Communication is always the best way to go. Talk to her, find out whats her stand with the relationship and you need to figure out yours as well. I'm sure you guys can either decide to go your seperate ways or come to an amicable compromise. Good luck.
2006-07-05 03:46:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't choose her over your child, and it sounds like that is what she is trying to make you do. She made her decision tell her you respect that she has made a decision to leave, and you have made a decision to stay. Their is no point in continuing a relationship if you will never see each other. Move on. Concentrate on raising you child and don't worry so much about dating. You have a kid that needs all of your attention.
2006-07-05 03:49:36 · answer #5 · answered by whatdoiknow 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ultimately you have to be true to yourself and who you are. Some people simply can not be in a relationship unless they are actually with that person. It isn't a bad thing, that is just who they are. Hopefully your partner knows you well enough to realize this is a truth about who you are. She is making this choice knowing this and can't be all that surprised that in the end she will lose you. Maybe once she moves she will realize what a mistake she has made.
2006-07-05 03:46:40 · answer #6 · answered by rkrell 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What reason has she given for moving so far away? Is she wanting to end the relationship?
Can the two of you arrange your schedules so that you can see each other on the weekends? It would be a drive, but if you love each other it would be worth it.
2006-07-05 03:45:07 · answer #7 · answered by Mama Pastafarian 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't matter who is with u a male/female,as long as ur happy but in ur it's like a realtionship w/male for u to find out if the realtionship will work out she should gave way bcoz u have a child if she loved u for who u are and what u are now she would understand u in ur situation.in short she should support u on whatever decision if she dont well it's not a true feeling.so it's time to let go.remember girl no matter who is with u as long as ur happy u wont be destract on whatever other people say bcoz u know ur self more than they do...
2006-07-05 03:59:52 · answer #8 · answered by zhanine2003 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what a tough decision for the both of you. What is the reason she's moving that far away, is it a better job, or something else. Would it be an option if you both moved to a place three hours away from your current town?
Good luck, and ignore the stupid answers from guys.
2006-07-05 03:46:23 · answer #9 · answered by Taneesha 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No you should not continue , first of all its wrong for two women to be together in a relationship its a Abomination to God. You know its wrong, but you have chosen this life style ,yes its a life style. Turn away from this life of lesbianism, ask God to forgive you, and live right for God.
2006-07-05 04:35:44 · answer #10 · answered by slo.yaroll 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is the reason she wants to move 6 hours away ?
That may be the answer to your qwestion.
Coz if her move is not nesessity but she still wants to do this ignoring the situation than you are not that important to her.
2006-07-05 03:54:36 · answer #11 · answered by Vig 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋