well. the problem is I know this guy for like a month now. the first time I sow him I felt in love with him. he wants to marry me but my parents need time to know the guy more. even do I need to know him more. so my parents ask him to wait like a month or two to get ready fo the wedding then we can get marrid. he said no.
I feld so bad becouse I love this guy but I just cant get it why he dosent wanna wait. two month or whatever time will take. he said he loves me but if he do he have to do whatever it takes . for me. my parents didint ask him from enything hard. he said we need to go to the court first to marrifd then we can do the wedding letter. I said ok. but I just dont get it why hes want evrything to be fast. and my father didint agree he said. in 15 days I need more time I cant just give u my dougther in 15 days. also he dosent have peapers for the USA. means he eligal in here. my mom said he dosent love u he wants green card. if thats right there a lot of americans.
2006-07-05 03:38:22 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
and olso. hes trying to make me hates my parents. becouse they know I love him and they dont want me to marry him right now. I told him that I help my parents with rent and other think. he said no u soudint ur parent are useing u. and they just want u to be down like them. I dont know whats wrong with is guy. I kno whes mom devorced his father. when he was 8 and he grow up in problem s all life . he hats hef father. but he love his mother.enything she said to him. he say okay. I dont know. by th eway Iam 20 and he is 33. but I love him. I dont know what to do . I know my parents love me they just want me to be happy . I am tired talking to him. he was telling me to move out of my parents house and live in my own thet we can marrid the way we want. dont know what to. AN d if he say something he change the next day. I dont know. what to do. please enybady who can tell me or advice me please. thank u to everybady.
2006-07-05 03:38:47 · update #1
RUN. Obviously he really doesn't care about you if he's not willing to respect you and your family's wishes on waiting. You've only known this guy a month, that's way too soon to marry him!! Slow down, date for a year or two, then you can get married. Sorry to say sister, but it sounds like this guy is just trying to marry you for citizenship. DON'T DO IT!!!!
2006-07-05 03:41:26 · answer #1 · answered by ericalsmith2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"well. the problem is I know this guy for like a month now. the first time I sow him I felt in love with him."
Sounds more like lust than love to me. To marry a guy after only one month statistically speaking is a very bad decision.
"and olso. hes trying to make me hates my parents."
Parents are forever. They love you more than you will ever know.
Your not going to like my answer but here it is...
Do not marry this man!!! Reguardless of what he may say, you are being betrayed. He sounds like he is preying on someone who is having a rough time at the moment in order to take advantage of you!!! I don't believe he loves you or he would respect you and your family more. And I don't believe you love him either. You are only lusting for him. I believe he is bad news and you should move on. Be careful, marrige is a very serious thing. Do you really want to get divorsed at your age if it doesn't work out?!!! I'm sure you will find someone better and move on. You sound like a nice and intelligent person.
Good Luck!
2006-07-05 10:59:38 · answer #2 · answered by Ben R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is using you for citizenship and don't believe what he says about your parents he knows that your parents are on to him you should take things slow you have only known him for a month sorry to tell you this but he sounds like a little boy he needs to grow up and get his act together DON'T LET HIM MANIPULATE YOU this cannot be love at all, you need to run when the time is right you will find real love.Good Luck!!!
2006-07-05 10:52:43 · answer #3 · answered by Choclate Star 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all there is no way you should marry anyone that you have only known for a month. A month is not enough time to truly know anyone. Sounds like he is just looking for someone to get him legalized to live in this country. You are setting yourself up for trouble. Also, if he is already trying to cause you problems with your parents let him walk. If someone truly loves you they would not pressure you to marry and would not be trying to come between your family. Walk away-- NO RUN!! This is definitely a messed up situation.
2006-07-05 10:45:33 · answer #4 · answered by goteam48 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to reevalute your relationship with this guy. If someone can't wait for you and wants to turn you against your family, you should be very cautious. If he really loves you then he will wait. Besides, it is very important to be friends first. You should be able to talk to him about anything, and he should respect your point of view as well as his,even if he doesn't agree.
He has another motive for getting married, it is because he wants to become a citizen. Is that the reason you want to marry him? This decision is about spending the rest of your life with someone. I would really listen to your mom. She really seems to have your best interest at heart and wants to see you happy.
Blessings,
2006-07-05 10:45:45 · answer #5 · answered by Glynis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ding a ling ling! Alarm bells are ringing!!!!
And if this relationship does take off in a month, two........do wait to marry him. He could just want in America and YOU are his passport.
Listen to the alarm bells ringing, listen enough you'll hear them because I can see them in your writing
I am so sorry to be so blunt, but he is not what he says he is. If he was, he wouldn't even ask what he is
I send my prayers and love and hopefully you will still be free and single this time next year by listening and being cautious NOW!
2006-07-05 10:42:59 · answer #6 · answered by WW 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately your parents are right. This guy is using you and isn't in love with you. If he loved you he would support your choices and respect the life you have. He would wait years if needed to marry you and not try to destroy your relationship with your parents. Please, I know this is hard, but don't marry this guy. I think you need a year to get to know each other more and if he loves you he would respect that choice.
2006-07-05 11:00:17 · answer #7 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, this isn't love.. it's control.
You take the time you need for this and remember, your parents raised you... they may have some wisdom above the man you claim to love.
If he truly loves you, he will wait.
He's rushing you for a reason, and I don't think it's a good one.
Love takes time... Listen to your family... they can see things clearer than you as they are not the ones blinded by love.
Best wishes
2006-07-05 10:42:56 · answer #8 · answered by swilkes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey marriage is not easy trust me it takes a lot of work and commitment and communication and you should really think long and hard before you say i do you don't want to end up divorced in a month after you get married
2006-07-05 10:45:11 · answer #9 · answered by christie d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aS A well wisher, i seem to decipher from your things that he is using you to get to america (NO OFFENCES, DONT MIND IF I M RONG) but, it definitely seems that way..
your parents have been with u throughout ur life, and now matter how much even if they hate u,wont do anything wrong for u....
but this guy is an alien so dont trust him... consult your parents
CONSULT YOUR PARENTS!!!!!1
2006-07-05 10:44:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋