I did something very wrong on monday night - he is cross with me-and I feel really terrible- I dont want us to split up.
I live in the west midlands and he lives in reading- Would it be mad to drive down to day sorry tonight? or would it really show how sorry I am- I have a real urge to do it.
And my excuse is to hand deliver a letter I have written him.
Does this escapade sound like a good idea?
2006-07-05 03:35:43 · 51 answers · asked by charley_chunk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
by the way guys i didnt cheat on him- i just rang him when he was out with his mates and demanded to know where he was and who he was with ( i had a strange feeling his ex was there but they're only freinds)
2006-07-05 03:46:04 · update #1
You need to go see him in person, and let him know that you realize that you did something wrong.
When you apologize make sure it is something that you can be sure not to repeat, otherwise your apology is worthless.
When you see him, get him alone, and let him know how kind and wonderful he is and how happy you are to be with him.
Then he might forgive you.
Good luck.
2006-07-05 03:55:35 · answer #1 · answered by creskin 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
honestly it sounds like you are trying to clear your own conscionse from whatever you did. Neither here nor there I applaud what ever action you are taking to clear up a wrongdoing. The best part of a person is not that they never make mistakes, merely that they are able to identify it as a mistake and learn from it going forward. That is a trait that is much more acceptable and believable. What ever you need to do to balance the scales do it. If it works for both of you that is perfect. Learn from your mistakes and that will be worth building on as a solid foundation for a relationship. Good for you. Like Nike says, "Just do it." We lose so much time thinking about what to do and the time expended can never be recovered. Time like water is a precious commodity and can never be retrieved, saved, banked or reissued again. Use every minute to its fullest and avoid excessive contemplation. Often times it is the act itself that shows the intent or remorse. The vehicle it is delivered in becomes important only when romance or other intentions are involved. If you messed up, just go to him and say so. Odds are the longer you wait the less respect you will obtain from the action.
2006-07-05 03:47:18 · answer #2 · answered by andyman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends if he is still angry at you and how bad the thing you did wrong is!
if its a silly argument that just went to far or it was over something silly then I would say go for it.
But if its something like you have been unfaithfull or been seeing your ex behind his back or anything along those lines then I would speak to him on the phone before driving down to surprise him.
As long as you two still love each other then there is nothing you cant sort out.
Good luck
2006-07-05 03:46:13 · answer #3 · answered by matdevine21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a women i think it would be a wounderful thing but be careful sometimes we see things we don't want too see..
A friend of mine just did that she packed up all her stuff as her boyfriend asked her and then she surprized him to come back home and live.. whe she got there no one was home and they did not return untill 6am the next morning.
then he told her she could not stay, and his son yelled out a nother womens name????? As she walked back too her car and left, She relaized she made a mistake.
this is the man who has gotten her pregnet and 5 month she is, and yet he refuses her time after time. again. she is only 20yrs old and he is 29yrs old, he has been married has 3 kids but only one boy lives with him. and he has a girlfriend on the side but says it is his buyer for drugs and she gives him money..?? lol
2006-07-05 03:45:05 · answer #4 · answered by sillyatheart3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget the hand-delivered letter. You can say all the things you wrote instead and get a better response. The trip there sounds good. Confronting him inperson and spending the time and effort could show him you really mean what you say.
2006-07-05 03:40:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be there and say you are so sorry under the French dinner and candle light. And never forget French pancake for breakfast. Only one thing, you should find somebody to drive for you. You get excited and might be the big cause of traffic accident. Good luck.
2006-07-05 03:42:28 · answer #6 · answered by devid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no im sorry it sounds like desperation to me . dont know what you did but you should look at the reasons why you did it . Sort that out first or it will happen again. If youve really hurt this man just let your feelings be known then give him some space.
2006-07-05 03:40:13 · answer #7 · answered by Treat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think follow what ur heart tels u to do listen to it dont let this little thing stress u then u will be in more pain if i was u i would listen to my heart not my mind, i reackon u should go down there and talk to him and make him understand it was a mistake and get sumthin nice like a chocolate or sum flowers.
best of luck hope it goes well
2006-07-05 04:00:28 · answer #8 · answered by naz10_uk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you had a feeling his ex was there 9 times out 10 she was. Go with your first mind, men or straight dogs its up to you if you want the one with the tail.
2006-07-05 03:51:51 · answer #9 · answered by Ms. Good P. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't know what you did, but if my girlfriend hand delivered a letter to me, that would mean a lot.
But I don't know what you did! If someone cheated on me, then I really don't think I could go back...
2006-07-05 03:40:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should give it a shot. But don't use a letter for an excuse...Just tell him it is because you are truly sorry. It will mean more. I think it's kind of romantic as well! Good luck ! :)
2006-07-05 03:38:56 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋