My mother-in-law recently visited us and insisted that her dog stay with her in my daughters bedroom where she was sleeping. We said the dog can stay in our air-conditioned garage with our 2 dogs. She said her dog wouldn't be comfortable in there and her dog was "her child", so she left our house to stay with her neice who has animals in the house and didn't bother to visit or call the rest of her trip. We just built our house and take great pride in it after saving money and living in the garage portion for 7 years. The last time she brought her dog we had to spray for fleas twice to get rid of them and our children were miserable with flea bites. Now she doesn't seem to what to return our calls and is totally ignoring my husband and our two girls who really misses their grandma. Yesterday she sent a cruel joke to my email about people who don't allow dogs in their house won't make it to heaven. Am I just being hard to deal with or is she? I am always nice to her.
2006-07-05 03:34:10 · 8 answers · asked by WELLILLBE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Obviously your mother-in-law has no respect for you or her son, otherwise she would have respected your wishes. The house is yours and you should always make the rules and stick to them. She should have made arrangements prior to her visit, or at least consulted with you about the dog. Unfortunately her stubbornness is being taken out on her grandchildren who have done nothing wrong. (You have done nothing wrong either) It's ashame that some people can hold a grudge against something so trivial. Life is way too short to spend even one day not speaking. Your mother-in-law is acting like a child, she needs to grow up and realize she is only hurting her grandchildren in this silly disagreement and come to terms with the fact that you have rules that she has to obey when she visits. It is clear that she has embarrassed and humiliated herself and is now too ashamed to speak to you.
2006-07-05 03:51:56 · answer #1 · answered by ambulancechic2003 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
She is being unreasonable. That said, it may help you to remember that she is alone now, her kids have grown and gone. Her dog probably is "her kid".
Her ignoring your family and her grandchildren is as great a loss to her as it is to your children. Hopefully, she'll get past this.
You might consider another option the next time she proposes a visit. Perhaps you could offer to have the dog go to a groomer as a "treat" for her. That way the dog would be clean and flea free for the visit. If the dog isn't destructive and the infestation is the only issue, this might be a constructive compromise.
Good luck.
2006-07-05 03:43:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is tough to be a daughter- in law!! lol. She is not being nice. This is your home and she should respect it! Good for you! You have to put your foot down. Now, you just need to drop it. Let her make her jokes. Just act like it does not bother you. She is your husbands mom and the grandma of your children. There is nothing you can do if she wants to be stubborn, just keep in touch with her as you always do and ignore her remarks or laugh them off. I know it is hard, but hopefully she will give up on trying to remind you of her visit and the two of you will be able to move past this. Let her know it was great to see her and that you can't wait until her next visit. Let your girls call her. Keep your chin up!!
2006-07-05 03:45:47 · answer #3 · answered by candispassion.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
Your mother in law is totally out of line. To put her dog over her grandchildren is nuts and maybe she is. For some people when they hit their senior years, they feel they have the right to behave poorly just because they can. Stick to your guns and when things die down, try visiting grandma at her home. But stay in a hotel
Good luck
2006-07-05 03:40:55 · answer #4 · answered by Ms. Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say, what a relief! Let her and her flea-infested dog go stay with anybody but you. So she's mad; she'll get glad again. You could respond to her e-mail that mean mothers in law don't get to heaven, either, however it would probably be best if you just....Let it go.....
P.S. An A/C garage? You must be rich, or related to the Bakers!
2006-07-05 03:43:23 · answer #5 · answered by pamspraises 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she's being unreasonable. She should have asked if it was all right to bring her dog, and if not, she should have made other arrangements ahead of time like putting the dog in the kennel.
Hopefully she'll get over her snit fit soon. But if she does, I still wouldn't let her dog stay in the house.
2006-07-05 03:42:37 · answer #6 · answered by Mama Pastafarian 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as your dogs aren't allowed in the house, you were in the right. If you just brought up the fleas again, she may have taken offense. Perhaps she's embarassed and covering it with her behavior.
2006-07-05 03:43:29 · answer #7 · answered by loshea65 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO YOUR MOTHER IN LAW IS TOTALLY OUT OF LINE! YOU HAD EVERY RIGHT BECAUSE THAT IS YOUR HOUSE
2006-07-05 04:11:59 · answer #8 · answered by confused 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋