Before my husband was deployed I could orgasim quickly and repeatedly during sex. While he was gone I relyed on a vibrator to satisfy my needs. Now it is almost impossible for me to orgasim during sex and when I do it takes for ever. Even self masturbation has become difficult without a vibrator. How can I correct this depedency on a vibrator so that we can get back into our sexual groove?
2006-07-05 03:23:23 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Brandi C,Ph.t- gave u some good tips. But U need more than that.
But subhash tells u think of some one else and it's not a sin(?) But as for me once you're married to a person, then you're dedicated to him, physically and MENTALLY. So during sex play (whether in- his presence or not) thinking of some one is CHEATING on him. I never do that. Ok. let us get in to business. In your case, you need more sexual foreplay (Cunnilingus and Fellatio- ie. oral sex) and it will help you, the K-Y jelly will help for lubrication only and dry soon as the temp. high in the genital area and also 4 some people it work as a Anti-spermicidal. So u kn use pure coconut oil 4 lubrication. but more of all u need a luv talk, b naked( both of U), manipulate the genitals and all ovr the body. get aroused 4 some more time then get engage in sxl activities, u need 2 b on top of him. My strong and sincere advise 2 u is get rid out of the vibrator- if u don't stop it now, then u will b addicted 2 dat and 4 evr u will not satisfied wit ur husband- bcos of the sizes of real n fake and u will end up in c-ing a Dr. r a psychiatrist. Y u need all these? All ways think of ur husband and get fantasized. Actually speaking vibrator is not necessary for a women. little pinky is enof to satisfy u. all u need is hava mirror in front of you in da bed room and look, think of him, stimulate ur Gland Penis( yes, women have gland penis too -only few women knos dat), G-spot. and around ur genital areas, breast nipples. Gradually u will improve and it is good 4 the long run. Nothing kn compensate the real. Best of luck
2006-07-05 04:55:15 · answer #1 · answered by Dr 4 evry 1 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Try using the vibrater, with your husband watching, masturbation really turns a guy on. Also, K-Y silk, not sticky like the other lubes, will ehance your climax as well as giving your husband a little something to, if you have problems staying wet. I use my vibrater with my boyfriend watching and it gets me off quickly, and really turns him on, so after I've got mine, it time to have sex, and we both win, so to speak
2006-07-05 03:41:24 · answer #2 · answered by Brandi C.Ph.T. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing says that you can't use the vibrator as well as have sex.
Try it with foreplay (your husband will love it) then get down to business.
2006-07-05 03:42:22 · answer #3 · answered by Dadams 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is common thing, hence in such condition when your husband is out and you desperate use vibrator, think of him and use it. if even his thoughts are not helping you, think about some one else who you think is more charming and person of your choice and then see the difference.
Thinking of some one else is not a sin.
2006-07-05 03:30:42 · answer #4 · answered by Subhash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have Sexual surrounding, have a love play before sex, then have him arise your sexual sensation by manipulating your clitoris. if necessary.
2006-07-05 04:19:38 · answer #5 · answered by drsuria_cbe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put the vib.in your a$$ when he is in your kitten an WOW
2006-07-05 03:59:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dunno, i've never used a vibrator.
2006-07-05 03:25:52 · answer #7 · answered by snicker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋