What do I do when my son is turning 18 and still has a yr of H.S. left. and I can not handle his behavior ?

Question

I have delt with and tried to be a parent to my son. But his continual abuse of my athority has brought me to a point in my life that I can no longer handle him any more. So what I want to know is what are my rights as a parent when he turns 18? and are there any services avalible to him? susan51 AZ

Answer 1

Once he turns 18 he is legally an adult, so treat him like one. If he has no respect for you or your authority as a parent then he needs to be on his own and learn that living at home for the most part is a piece of cake. It is sad that more and more kids are being less and less respectful of authority and their parents I do not know what is going on these days with these children. But they need to learn that once your parents, your mother in particular gives up on you there is little to no hope left for you. I wish you luck. If I were you I would tell him to shape up or ship out because I love you but I will not let you send me to an early grave. It is going to be hard but at one point in life you have to start to live your life for you. You are trying to give him the tools that he needs to be an upstanding man and he just refuses to learn so show him what it is like to be a man out and about on his own.

Answer 2

Once he turns 18 he is a legal adult. You no longer have any control. It will be time to treat him like an adult. He will be responsible for his decisions. Tell him if he doesn't want to live by your rules then all his stuff will be waiting by the door when he gets home. Some boys have to take the hard way to grow into men. You have done your best.

Answer 3

Kids think 18 is a magic number. They think they automatically become an adult at that age, when it is quite clear maturity isn't there for some. Especially in those rebellious enough to not accept authority. Put him on notice that he will finish school, he will not be given special priviledges, you will not furnish him with spending money, car insurance, whatever it takes, if he doesn't knuckle down and obey you. If he goes out on his own, you will not be there to bail him out of debt.

Answer 4

I am going through the same thing! Kick him out! I'm not kidding. I did that and 4 weeks later, he is back, being VERY nice and realizes not to mess with me anymore.

Now, this works fine IF he leaves on his own...in GA if he would have chosen NOT to leave when I packed his stuff...unless I wanted to have him arrested for abuse, i would have had to have him EVICTED!!! Can you believe that??? No wonder they grow up feeling like they don't have to respect us...THEY have the rights...WE do not.

Good Luck...I hope it works out better for you soon. It's so hard because in spite of it all...we love them

Answer 5

Where is the kids father???? Most boys need a strong man in their lives when they are in testostrone-laden years. He will walk all over you if you allow it....and you are allowing it. Do you have any brothers, cousins, (male that is) that he likes? Ask them to help you with the problem. If they can't get across that he needs to respect his mother, tell him to hit the road. You can see a social worker about other counseling choices. But teen boys will not respect a woman when they know they can get away with it.

Answer 6

talk to the local police. I've heard that they can send a patrol office over to explain to him what his rights change to when he is 18. They can also tell you what your rights and responsabilities are as a parent of a student. It varies from state to state.

good luck

I'm in Tempe. email me if you would like to vent sometime.

Answer 7

When 18, ask him to pay for his room or leave, it really works

Answer 8

tell him to pay rent