Okay, well first off, I had this friend for about a year or so. About a year ago, I told her that I didn't want to be friends anymore. She made me depressed, and would treat me really badly. So after we ended our friendship, I got closer to this other girl, and now she is my girlfriend. About 2 months ago, I started talking to my old friend again, and my girlfriend is really upset about it because she thinks that the girl will hurt me again. I hate to admit it, but she is right. I am already starting to get more depressed. I am hurting my girlfriend by hanging out with her, but if I stopped, I would hurt my friend again. I know that it isn't very healthy for me to be hanging around her. So do I continue to be friends with her? Do I just really distance myself? Do I tell her that I don't want to be friends again? I know this is kind of imature or whatever, but it's my situation. What should I do?
2006-07-05 03:22:28 · 5 answers · asked by Veronica 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think your girlfriend is right, and you know it too. You know she will hurt you again, why set yourself up for more hurt. Why did you go back to talking to her is another question? Obviously the new girlfriend is a friend to you and I wouldn't want to hurt the new girlfriend.
I would tell her that you thought you two needed some space. After some time you tried being friends with her again and you find that it just doesn't really work for you. You are sorry if that hurts her, but you just don't see a lasting friendship here.
You have to think of your mental health and if you get depressed when you are with her, that isn't healthy at all. Do yourself a favor and don't continue with that friendship or you may lose the other girlfriend who truly cares about you.
2006-07-05 03:34:41 · answer #1 · answered by allyp51 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u really think its necessary to talk to someone who depressed u and hurt u so bad then its up to u but u cant hurt her too by telling her u dont want her as a friend anymore that way she wont forgive u so i suggest u have a talk with her and have a talk with ur girlfriend too assuring her that she wont lose u and that u r never going to dump her.
i think u should spend more time with ur girlfriend so she will feel secured if ur other friend gets jealous well its her own cup of tea cos she's the one who mistreated u thats why u got a girlfriend.
good luck.
2006-07-05 10:56:02 · answer #2 · answered by pOOhPhAT 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, leave her alone cause you already have a good friend who is being the friend you want. If you are being depressed by your ex friend then that really isnt healthy.
2006-07-05 10:34:40 · answer #3 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's depressing you and hurting you again, you don't want her in your life. I'd just distance myself from her and move on.
2006-07-05 10:29:49 · answer #4 · answered by ericalsmith2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u think she is goin 2 hurt u agin i would tell her that i don`t want 2 be friends
2006-07-05 10:27:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋