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2006-07-05 03:16:25 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
that is true, they say that because if you use your emotions you might be picking someone who is not right for you. Using your mind, lets you think about what you are doing and if that person is the correct one so that way, you dont end up getting hurt.
2006-07-05 03:39:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 2⤋
i completely disagree.how can u decide wid ur mind?wat will u accept and wat will u ignore?becoz in using mind,u will always compare the person wid ur past relationships.if ur love is not spiritual,if u r not evolved beyond ur mind u can never decide thru ur mind.wen in a relationship just enjoy ur feminity or masculinity which does not know the boundaries of mind.u will always have to accept sum +ve and sum -ve qualities of the person.that marriage is totally a formal marriage or a business deal if the mind is used there.if u r true at heart,if ur love is pure and spiritual,then u will meet the rite person in time.u will not have to search here and there.but if u use ur mind u will have to search lifetime to get the rite partner but u will not.becoz the human egos dont get satisfied wid the least.it needs more and more.
becoz the question of choice wid ur mind that u have asked arises only wen u r not ready to accept sum qualities of the partner.thats y u r chosing so that there wud b less marital problems in future.this means that marriage is taking place only to satisfy sum egos for which similarities must b the maximum so that u will b satisfied.but this is not the purpose of a marriage.wen the roots r weak,how can u xpect the fruits to b sweeter.if u know the true meaning of a mariage then the question of using mind doesnt arises.even this question xists just becoz couples r not satisfying each other.becoz egos r cuming 1st and love l8er.
grow deeper into ur heart,u will meet the rite person.
2006-07-05 04:00:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I made a conscience decision to let my heart choose the physical and emotional and allow my mind the practical.
I have (had) to be attracted physically and emotionally because those are priority for me. And I don't mean obviously attractive to the world, just to me. So, if I were attracted, then found out something that didn't fit practically, I was outta there! Didn't work, outta there! among other things. I think the trick is to cut ties as soon as you know there's something that just isn't well, practical for a decent life. I didn't want to change anyone to suit me, I just wanted to find the person who already was right for me and I for him. The other small things could be worked out. This worked extremely well for me. Hope it helps someone else.
So, I guess I don't agree, it has to be a joint effort of both mind and heart.
2006-07-05 05:15:56 · answer #3 · answered by N0_white_flag 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd have to say use both, because you always want a happy heart and a secure mind to be in a good relationship so use both to chose a mate
2006-07-05 03:42:13 · answer #4 · answered by sweetness 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I always agree with making EVERY decision based on the mind, not the heart or eyes for that manner. Raising kids, having good credit, and someone that understands what a 401K is and that you have to have one really helps.
2006-07-05 03:23:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
On a scientific approach Mind and Heart are same.
Even the great poet ,thinker Shakesphere had thought foolishly heart is connected with thoughts and ideas.
If you are mischievous heart may beat faster .
Mind is the thing decides everything.
Thinking Heart and Mind are separate things is totlly ignorance!
2006-07-05 03:40:19 · answer #6 · answered by Konfuzius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
Sexual attraction has a lot to do with first impressions and unconsious processes, including emotions, as well as our rational thoughts.
That said, if you want a long-term relationship how you think will have to be compatible with your partner.
There is a huge literature in psychology on interpersonal attraction if you want to read about this topic.
2006-07-06 05:28:49 · answer #7 · answered by Philosophical Fred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a balanced approach would be best,,,,,
actually when most ppl congratulate themselves
on choosing w their hearts they're not even doing that much--
most ppl use neither their hearts, which is
the center of empathy,nor their minds
they are doing it with some sort of cynical materialism,,,
who's the best looking and richest person i could get?
2006-07-05 12:47:38 · answer #8 · answered by enigma q 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say go where your heart leads you. When you get there, all important and final decisions should be made by the mind.
2006-07-05 03:30:32 · answer #9 · answered by truly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I followed my heart and got married. If I had used my mind, I wouldn't be married w/ 2 great kids.
2006-07-05 03:26:11 · answer #10 · answered by jk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I chose my mind, but I stay in love because of my heart
2006-07-05 03:45:14 · answer #11 · answered by Wild seed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋