Hey I guess my question is this. My husband is Puerto Rican and I am white. I find that usually when I get nasty looks or comments it's not from white folks but from Latin WOMEN. Why is there such a problem? I'm not saying all Latinas because two of my best friends are Boricua but like I said a majority of the sh*t I get is from Latin women? What's up with that?!?!?
2006-07-05 03:07:59 · 8 answers · asked by preciseonegirl28 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
OOoh I see I've hit a nerve with some folks out there. Because I'm taking Latin men from you?!?! Are you serious? And as far as why I care because I have to HEAR it that's why I care
2006-07-05 03:12:11 · update #1
Don't let it get to you, honey. My daughter is Mexican/white mix, and her boyfriend is Puerto Rican, and she gets the same thing. I don't know if it's jealousy or what. It's too bad because Latin people are beginning to be important in this country and these Latinas are just giving all Latina women a bad name. Next time, just tell them, "No me importa". That means what they think is not important to you.
2006-07-05 03:15:59 · answer #1 · answered by alis volat propriis 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Because a lot of times Latin women are more vocal and more expressive about their feelings. If something they see or hear bothers them, most likely they make sure they let you know. Some white women may see you with your husband and absolutely not approve, but they'll still smile and put on an act so as not to cause any conflict.
Ignore it. Don't let it bother you. That's the way it is and it makes no sense for you to be so bothered by it.
2006-07-05 10:14:10 · answer #2 · answered by Lunita del Sol 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm also white and I married a Mexican man, and I get the opposite. Often other white women give me funny looks or they look nervous or scared of me when they first find out. But they usually get over it pretty quick. Mexican and Latino people, on the other hand, react well to it. They think it's great. But that also has to do with my personality toward both. (Personally, I've been nicer to Latinas then white people in the past. As I learn to be nicer and more considerate to white people too, I'm seeing that they are now becoming less threatened by me, so that's something I'm working on)
I think the real reason is that many people are threatened by anyone who is different than they are. That's why so many people get uncomfortable around people of other races, and it can get bad. If you act different or uncomfortable around Latinas (or any other race) in general, they may see you as different, and they will be guarded toward you, (thus giving you crap). But if you get to know them and they get to know you, they should lighten up. Like anyone, if they see you as someone who understands them and can relate to them, they will loosen up and give you less crap.
The best thing you can do is not be defensive. (Even though it's hard not to). Put them before yourself and take interest in them. Try to put yourself in their place and see where they are coming from. You may or may not agree with them, but understand they have a right to their feelings too. Don't worry, if you sincerely try to understand and relate to them, they will come around and they will love you for it.
2006-07-05 10:59:07 · answer #3 · answered by Consuming Fire 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will admit I am not Latina - tho I am like you - white and married to a (legal, in case someone dares to ask) Mexican.... and yes, yikes, some of those looks, attitudes, and comments are very hurtful and rude - which hurts me, because I value the Hispanic culture of family very much and my husband is my life as our children are too -- I wish they'd understand I love and respect my husband (since they've told him "leave her and i'll make you happier" - that was a waitress at a Denny's one time!) and am not going anywhere. I am sorry it upsets them - but I didn't do it "TO THEM".
2006-07-05 10:15:14 · answer #4 · answered by KitKat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well some people don't really take it seriously and they think its strange to see a white girl with a Latin man some people think these kind of people don't mix. So its kind of like racism if you understand what i am saying.
2006-07-05 10:15:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't know about what your trying to get at but I do know that all woman in general hate each other. Your boyfriend is probably really hot and your just getting envied. I do know that hispanics stare alot, especially the not so educated ones. Parents never taught them manners so you may be just getting alot of that and misinterpreting it into dirty looks. Me and my daughter gets those all the time. Just be happy that you have something they envy you for and don't let it bother you on a negative level but be good with it on a postive level. k?
2006-07-05 10:12:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you care? We have been given mouth and eyes to say and look what we like.
2006-07-05 10:10:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its b/c ur taking our latin men from us
2006-07-05 10:09:20 · answer #8 · answered by angelghbtvs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋