she is always butt in on my life and i am tired of it. and telling me i'm a bad mother to my kids. when the kids aren't even her sons. they are by my first husband.
2006-07-05 02:42:06 · 12 answers · asked by purpledog 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i live in the same house as her and i have told her to mind her own business and she says it is her business as long as we live here. by the way my husband and his mother own the house together.
2006-07-05 03:03:17 · update #1
That's it...i've had enough. I'm starting a club/gang called Women Against Mother-in-laws also known as W.A.M. mine is the devil in disguise...why are they like this? i bet you want to curse that lady out like you were a sailor!!!!! you don't want my advise someone will end up hurt or in jail.i got it pretty bad myself but you got it worse...you got to live with that b*tch!!!! now i'm all upset,thanks. just the thought of evil mother in laws makes me want to hit the bottle..............over her head!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!good luck, tell her off, give her something to really talk about cause as long as you're with her son YOU are the devil who ruined her son's life and you'll never do anything right in her eyes. Do what makes you feel better, life is too short for all the bullshyt!
2006-07-05 05:05:42 · answer #1 · answered by i.might.b.crazy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if she is bad-mouthing you to your own children, then you do not allow her to be around them ever again.
Second, if she continues to butt into your marriage to her son, then you must ask your husband to address the issue with his mother. Help him to understand how destructive outside influence can be to a marriage. If he will not say anything, then he has "mommy issues". See a counselor together.
You must protect your marriage. Do not reveal any information to your mother-in-law and make all visits very structured, perhaps even meeting at a neutral place such as restaurants, for a while. Get a babysitter for your children and don't take them with you two. Make sure your husband is getting enough attention from you and he won't feel tempted to whine to his mother. Not that he has, but most guys do. Keep your relationship private from other family members and encourage your husband to do the same. Good luck.
Having read your added comment, I will also say that you need to get out of that house. She can rent out the space if she chooses or she can move out and you two can buy out her share in the house. Either she goes or you and husband need to go. Give her the choice if you wish but one of the two things need to happen. You cannot have a marriage in today's world with a mother-in-law living under the same roof.
2006-07-05 03:00:43 · answer #2 · answered by CleverGal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ugh, I feel your pain. My mother in law is the same way (and she's right in the middle of a 9, count'em 9, day visit right now).
You definitely need your husband's support and present a united front. If he lets her walk all over him it's harder for you to take a stand. You both need to tell her to mind her own business, and you have to mean it. If she doesn't listen to you, cut her off. You can choose not to listen to her, don't take her phone calls, etc.
There is no easy way to do it....it'll always be awkward to tell her to butt out, but you have to do it. Good luck and I hope your husband is with you on this one.
Oh....I see you live in the same house. That is bad news because you are in her territory and she has more control that way. You and your husband and kids need to get out, if she doesn't want to leave. He should ask her to buy out his share and you guys take the money and put it into your own place.
2006-07-05 02:54:54 · answer #3 · answered by Lee 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk it out with your partner. it is up to him to deal with his mother. If he cant then I would question his loyalty to you. If you cant do that then lay down the rules that he is present when she visits and stipulate that you will tolerate her but that is far as it goes. there is really no need for your lives to entwine together unless sad for you you live with her then if so move out. No doubt your parter will still want contact with her so either make a decision not to be present or warn him that if you are and she begins to offend you are going to walk out of the situation after all you dont have to stay and be ridiculed.
2006-07-05 02:47:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell your husband that either you need to move into your own place or she needs to go if he doesnt go for it tell him he can stay and you will move but you cant handle living with her
my mother in law use to live 2 doors down from me and my husband i told my husband he had 2 weeks to get another pplace to live or else i was gone with out him
if he loves you he will find another place or he will get rid of her
2006-07-05 03:09:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say "mind your own business and I will mind mine".
2006-07-05 02:45:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
"I am sorry but this is really none of your business, if I need your advise I will ask, until then please don't involve yourself. Now would you like a nice cup of tea?"
2006-07-05 02:51:57 · answer #7 · answered by Badkitty 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her "mind your own damn business because if you don't your going to be sorry."
2006-07-05 02:49:41 · answer #8 · answered by Missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your husband to do it.
2006-07-05 02:49:50 · answer #9 · answered by wmp55 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't even give room to be right...Do whatz right to do with kids...
2006-07-05 03:20:22 · answer #10 · answered by benird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋