I have always known i was adopted. 3 years ago i met the man who I thought was my biological father. It didnt work out. I have been trying to trace my biological birth mother but have had no luck. I recently had another go and received a letter off a man who i knew my mother was with when she was pregnant with me. He was told i was his daughter. I am frightened to go down this road again as i was extreamly hurt. Also i dont want to get to know this man to find out he isnt not my dad. What is the best step next? Do i suggest a DNA test? I am worried about hwere this will lead but i know i will always be curious if i dont find out. I know from a letter from my biological mother (in my adoption papers) that this man looked after me and her when i was a baby. (i was adopted at 18 months)
What would you do?
2006-07-05 01:44:04 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
before you met him ask for DNA and compare with yours, then call him.
2006-07-05 01:50:51 · answer #1 · answered by bigonegrande 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry it must be tough for you emotionally and haven't experienced this myself but what I would say is that if you don't go for it you will regret it. What have you got to lose by asking for a DNA test? It will eat you up more if you don't find out either way. Just go for it and if you do then good luck!
2006-07-05 01:52:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, I never met my dad till I was 16....
I would get someone to go down with me to meet him for the first time, and will also suggest a DNA testing... Im sorry to say this but he may not be your dad but loves you alot because he was around you when you were younger.
I hope he's your dad for your sake...Good Luck
2006-07-05 02:03:25 · answer #3 · answered by sylvie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you, you must feel so mixed up i think that the only way that you can getthis sorted is a dna test that will give you an answer and narrow your search if it is not this man. I wish you all the luck in the world good luck and chin up x
2006-07-05 01:51:03 · answer #4 · answered by dizzymooo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well meet him u might look just like him and you ll know right their that he is ur father and if u dont look like him explain to him about the other man u thought was ur father and u dont wanna set yourself up for disaster, so let him know u wanna DNA test, he shouldn't be mad at u for that he was the one that left you all thees years he'll understand.... Good Luck!
2006-07-05 01:52:45 · answer #5 · answered by KelLzZz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it may be nice to get to know him as he did look after you when you were a baby and im sure he must have a special place for you in his heart - if hes not your father he may be able to help you find your father or warn you off , and support you . I wish i was as brave as you to have started the search - i was adopted and have never had the confidence to look -
good luck
2006-07-05 01:51:43 · answer #6 · answered by citychic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, i suggest yous hould have a DNA test... Or at least this is what i would do.
This is the best sollution for you -and him- to know whehter you are daughter and father.... I think you have to do this in order to avoid a possible hurt of yourself again...
2006-07-05 02:08:00 · answer #7 · answered by smaragda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI You don't really have to ask do you?. follow your heart. you need to know the truth. only a DNA will really put your mind at rest.hope you get the result you are hoping for and all the best in your future life. regards sammylee,
2006-07-05 01:55:00 · answer #8 · answered by sammylee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest a DNA test before you go through meeting and getting you emotions all involved again, so that way it would be easier on you.
2006-07-05 01:52:54 · answer #9 · answered by red_neck_biker_babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know it can be hard hunny but you have to find the brave side of you and you have to tell urself how bad do i want, need my biological father? ask urself that and if deep down in side of you something trigures is because you are destin to find your real father.DONT GIVE UP
2006-07-05 02:07:39 · answer #10 · answered by loca_baby_4u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know its hard tobelieve that u dont belong anywhere
but i do suggest u go for a DNA test cause if u dont then this will always hit u in ur concious that u didnt tried for it
so please try it as u have nothin to loose
2006-07-05 01:57:50 · answer #11 · answered by frost fire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋