I chose to pass the driving test in another city. For that I would have to live with my mother for 3 weeks. Last time I went home to see my mum, my husband went on a dating site. When I asked him about it, he said he was just curious.
What should I do? What would you people do?
He is in his 40's, would this be midlife crisis? (we are newly married and we did meet on that same dating site)
2006-07-05 01:06:56 · 21 answers · asked by clarskies 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I can't check if he has been on that site again because he's much more cautious now. Anyway, I agree with you that spying is a waste of time.
He answers my questions with questions and finds excuses. I know he is not seeing anyone else at the moment and he promised he won't go looking at girls on sites but his curiosity is worrying me... he asks all sorts of questions about women.
2006-07-05 22:40:58 · update #1
I'll not. Anyway, you MUST talk seriously with your husband. As a man, I can tell you that your husband's curiosity is DANGEROUS. there is something that he is looking for, there is a necessity that needs to be fulfilled, there is something that "troubles" with sexual/sentimental life.
Go for it, talk to him, and WORK with it.
2006-07-05 01:34:15 · answer #1 · answered by dioshy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Jealousy is a waste of emotion. If he is going to cheat, he will do it regardless. You won't keep him by monitoring him. Try making him happy... Maybe you should find out what he wants out your relationship by asking. Spying on him will only make you feel worse. Work on the marriage. Sounds like he has insecurities if he is still looking. Try to help him with that.
You have to give him some benefit of the doubt. Maybe he had some old habits. He did marry you. That stands for something! He was just looking, right? He didn't put a profile up?
2006-07-05 08:13:46 · answer #2 · answered by achurin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband will really want to cheet you is not necessary you will leave from home for 1 day or for 3 weeks.
If he really cares of you he will not do it, doesn't matter how long you are not at home.
What can be very interesting to know is : did he returned in the site for dating after you have seen it or not? Can he live without it? Or is he still very curious? You can try to check the history of his internet account. And if he did it, yes, can be dangerous to let him alone for 3 weeks.
2006-07-05 08:23:12 · answer #3 · answered by daisy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i heard some ppl just get addicted to the buzz they get when they've got a new message from someone on a dating site, even if they're not actually looking to date anyone. It's like when you hear the message beep on your mobile and you think hmmm, i wonder who this could be? it can easily be harmless. maybe introduce him to myspace where it's pretty much the same as a dating site without the emphasis on dating. and as for leaving him alone? either decide you are going to trust him or you're not, if you're not going to trust him then talk to him about it. it's not fair on either one of you if you just behave like everything's normal but still carry around all this suspicion. good luck at any rate!
2006-07-05 08:17:05 · answer #4 · answered by fatso 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then why would you need to take driving test in another city? why cant you do it where you live?
a relationship is about trust, and if you go to your mom's then
come back and he is on the site again, I would leave him no matter what his excuse, one time its curiosity 2 or 3 times is just plain stupidy.!!!
tell his name and what he looks like and inform us. here.
since he is married now, he shouldnt need to be curious anymore. but give him the benefit of one more doubt. and if he screws up then go back to your mom's.
tell him this before you leave, so he knows you mean business, and that you dont like him doing this.
turn off computer or take computer with you. if you like.
2006-07-05 08:15:11 · answer #5 · answered by cats3inhouse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I wouldn't leave him alone....he apparently can't be trusted. Why would you want to pass the driving test in another city? Could you not pass it where you are? Anyway, sounds like he's got cheater potential.......good luck!
2006-07-05 08:11:24 · answer #6 · answered by honey_bear_21_1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never been married but from what I was tolded marriage is based on trust and if you can't trust your husband who can you trust, Sit down and talk to your husband and tell him how you feel because if they don't know they will continue to do, Have faith and stay strong.
2006-07-05 08:10:30 · answer #7 · answered by Neek-Neek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he better knock that **** off, you do know how to drive now and you can drive alot faster than he can run. Curiousity killed the cat just like a car can kill a cheater and if he don't believe you, just ask that one woman than ran over her cheating hubby.
2006-07-05 08:12:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's wrong what he did. I don't buy it, his saying he was just curious. Three weeks is a short time to be apart, and he should spend that time missing you, calling you on the phone, keeping busy with other things.
2006-07-05 08:13:34 · answer #9 · answered by phantom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he was lonely and just wanted to chat, i think there no need to get alarmed .As for leaving him alone why should that be a problem your married and you should trust him enough to do so
2006-07-05 08:13:25 · answer #10 · answered by chunkybaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋