Everytime, I have problems with my boyfriend. He doesn't want to listen to me, when I talk to him, he thinks I am complaining. But I am a person, I have to talk about my problems.
Is that the different between men and women?
2006-07-05 00:15:41 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No. This is a girl who is with the wrong guy. Leave him now... It will only get worse.
2006-07-05 00:19:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
no, that is the difference between you and him.
if your question, and its implied conclusion, is indicative of your level of deep thought, perhaps it may not be surprising that he tires of them.
on the other hand, he may be emotionally bankrupt or selfish, not a good listener, boyfriend, person, etc.
or, may be you just complain too much. some people just complain too much.
or, may be you guys just don't have an emotional connection/compatibility.
many possibilities, but, in the end, you two will have to reach an understanding because this problem will not go away on its own. that means sitting down, and having a heart-to-heart. if you guys are simply unable to do such a thing, you may seriously have to consider other possibilities. communication is paramount in a relationship.
2006-07-05 00:27:07 · answer #2 · answered by festivus_for_the_restovus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women want to talk about problems, as though that ever made a difference.
Men want to get past problems, as though ignoring them will make them disappear.
This is a fundamental difference, and one you will have to deal with, if you want to stay in a relationship with a man.
He may tolerate your incessant chatter about your problems with him, or he may not. But chattering at him about your problems will not change anything - not his behavior or your feelings about his behavior.
So the choice is up to you - either decide that your "problems" are no big deal, and you can put up with them, or decide that the "problems" ARE a big deal, and you can find someone else to hang out with.
There are no other choices, here.
2006-07-05 00:27:39 · answer #3 · answered by Grendle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.. its OK to talk about problem and OK for man to listen to that. May be it should not happen that you have only these things to talk about with him. Problems are for all so are the good things.. If you can talk about problem you should be able to talk about good things too.. in fact one should have more good things to talk about rather than singing the sad tune all the time..Huh.. Plz don't get amused on this comments.. Cheers
2006-07-05 00:24:16 · answer #4 · answered by m_cyberfriend 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without witnessing your exchange... I can't tell you who's ISSUE it is... YOURS or HIS or BOTH.
There is a few concepts which suggest it's YOUR issue.
If he takes it as complaining... that means that it's likely been PACKAGED as complaints.
There are differences between a woman and a man... for sure. But COMMUNICATIONS are KEY... so... I suggest you examine HOW you're packaging your communications. Be less accusatory. Be more productive, receptive.
Remember, the way you deliver a message or Idea is often times MORE IMPORTANT then the message itself.
2006-07-05 00:21:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he doesnt want to be in the relationship cuz he wont listen to anything u have to say. If I were u, Id leave him. Find someone that does want to listen to what u have to say, unless u complain alot. Noone wants to hear someone complain day in day out. And noone wants to hear belittling remarks about them, for example .... your fat, u shouldnt wear that. Best of luck
2006-07-05 00:50:13 · answer #6 · answered by billysgirls3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not listing is in both men and women, talking out problems makes it light. if your boyfriend does not list, how can he help sorry the problem. well i can say leave him, cos there are good side of him too. you will know when to walk if needed.
2006-07-05 00:47:47 · answer #7 · answered by nini g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there is. When I talk to my husband about things that are bothering me (not necessarily us), he thinks that he is supposed to fix it. In his case, he can't just let me let off some steam. So, when I just want to let off some steam, I talk to my best friend. She understands and what I say stays between us.
If the problems you want to talk to him about are not about the two of you, just tell him that you don't expect him to do anything other than listen and maybe nod in agreement. Let him know that you don't expect him to fix anything or even to suggest things unless he wants to.
2006-07-11 00:41:58 · answer #8 · answered by PATTY H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
c if its the same always then its the prob wid ur relationship u both do not fit together better to get out of it but if it is occasionaly then may be some probs running thru his daily life.....best thing is communicate when he cools down my mom's like that but doesnt mean she dont love me she do love me more than i do
2006-07-05 00:37:35 · answer #9 · answered by r a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Big difference they always claim they want to talk about it but its always when they are having issues.Women like to express themselves more then men do .
2006-07-05 00:19:54 · answer #10 · answered by chunkybaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For a start, talk about his problems. He will be more interested. your problems may follow, if he is in the mood. try it & best of luck.
2006-07-05 00:52:35 · answer #11 · answered by brucewillisg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋