Do I have a right to be jelous??

Question

Hello.My bf has this friend who hes known before meeting me,and Ive never understood it because its like a pen pal sort of friendship,they met online,have never met in person or have even talked on the phone she only writes letters and sends us birthday cards and I recently had a baby & shes even sent babyclothes.My husband gave her our home phone # months ago so we could get to meet & talk 2 her at least on the phone but she never did. But yesterday she sent him an e-mail (which he read out loud)that she had called the house & it went to the answering machine.Our answering machine doesnt have either our voices on it,its automatd yet she says (my bf is briitsh) that she got a recording with an englishmans voice on it and this is where my question comes in that the voice was 'sexy' Was this an inapropiate comment & how can that b if my bf's voice isnt on the recording? Another thing is she plans to visit England & she's going to stay at his mums.It annoys me but i keep quiet about it

Answer 1

you have every right to be jealouse...but if you trust your husband, then dont thinkt oo much of it, you have him not her. This all sounds very fishy! i mean the way she is getting close. If i was you, id tell my man to keep his distance, and i would too....

Answer 2

I think where i would have got ten jealous is if she send him a brithday card, but instead she sent both of you a card, i noticed the "us".She probaly had the wrong number if she got a sexy male voice?But staying with his parents?Thats just crqazy, i would be mad about it cuz she never even met him before!You need to talk to him and tell him that this is upsetting you!Tell him if was in your shoes how would he have felt, just talk to him dont fight it will only make matters worse.

Answer 3

u can be jealous if you want but i dont think u can do anythign about it. if u and ur husband had a baby, im sure ur husband likes u more than the on-line girl.
i have many guy-friends and i joke around and tell them they have hot sexy underwear or whatever but they know im kidding.
their girlfriends get mad at me but ive become friends with them and they dont mind me as long as they (teh guy friend and his girl friend) are still in love
maybe u should become friends wit hher too.
surely she must be a nice person if ur husband likes her

Answer 4

you say that this is your BOYFRIEND BUT then you say you had a baby and your HUSBAND gave her your number, is he your boyfriend or husband?? is he the father of your baby??
she could have called wrong number, and left a wrong message, even if she messed up 1 number it would not be yours.
so if she got wrong number and it wasnt your answering machine how do you know what she said and how she said it, if it isnt on your answering machine????
if your BOYFRIENDS? OR HUSBAND'S voice isnt on answering machine then she got wrong number obviously.
YOUR BOYFRIEND'S OR HUSBAND'S MOM IS LETTING HER STAY WITH HER WHEN HER SON HAS YOU AND HER GRANDCHILD.??? WHY WOULD HIS MOM DO THIS??

THERE IS LOTS OF CONTRIDICTIONS IN YOUR STORY HERE.
please explain!!!! BOYFRIEND OR HUSBAND ? AND WHAT SHE SAID AND HOW SHE SAID IT, IF IT WASNT YOUR ANSWERING MACHINE?? WHY WOULD HIS MOM HAVE A COMPLETE STRANGER IN HER HOUSE, DOESNT SHE KNOW ITS NOT SAFE.
TELL MOM SHE DONT KNOW IF THIS PERSON IS REALLY WHO SHE SAYS SHE IS, ITS NOT SAFE DOING THIS!!! TELL HIS MOM.
NO YOU NEED TO SAY SOMETHING !!!!!!

Answer 5

sometimes good friends joke around like that... and usually if a guy feels more of a friend to a girl then he feels romantic feelings for her, then sexual relationships are out of the question... if your man really loves you then you have nothing to worry about.. even if she does come, and trys something, if he really loves you he will send her away and come home to you

Answer 6

If I was in your position then I would also be jealous. Why don't you tell your husband that you're jealous and seem uneasy about her. I would, if he thinks you're being daft then see what she's like when she turns up, you might get to like her. If not, tell your husband that you don't like her, if he loves you then he should respect your decision to send her packing from his mums! Good luck!

Answer 7

Ur keeping up with all this amuses me.........u didn't feel any jealousy when u married Ur bf?.......u never ever gave a thought about it b4 n now Ur jealous?.......if i were at Ur place i would have definetly been jelous.

Answer 8

Just wait and watch. there may be nothing of the sort you are thinking. Mostly not, then why worry now ?

Answer 9

Would you please clarify if this man is your "husband"or your "boyfriend". Since you have used both in your question and one would not know how to go about the answer. Thank you

Answer 10

Keep your eyes open and be very careful. You have every right to be concerned.