What do you think? And don't tell me to get over it or grow up.
My bf, his mom and myself are in the livingroom. Mom asks me a question, I start to answer, she then turns her head and starts a totally different conversation with my boy friend (her son) So I said
"Would you like to hear the answer to your question? " She then looks at me and says "Oh look shes trying to take control"
Whaaaaats up with that give me your thoughts
I'm 48yrs old she is 71 She works full time cleaning houses so she is not NOT WITH IT
2006-07-03 23:15:56 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Wow.... she hates you.
Sux.
Dont worry, shell be dead soon.
ehehehe.
2006-07-03 23:17:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LAUGH OUT LOUD. if she asks why, tell her she is a very good cartoon, to ask a question and not bother about a reply. Also tell her that nobody can control anybody. if this does not work, simply ignore her, considering her age just humour her. Try not to get livid. Always, when things does not go your way, visualise the incident as a very comic one, then you wont feel bad. There are so many other beautiful things in this world for you to enjoy that your bf's mom. So get on with life.
2006-07-04 06:27:24 · answer #2 · answered by jagjug 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is obviously insecure in her relationship with her son. Most likely he has been alot of help to her and she thinks you may interfere with her relationship with him. Yes she was rude but older people tend to be pretty blunt and blurt out what ever they are thinking at the moment. It is pretty great that she is keeping herself busy at that age. When she does this to you again butt in to the conversation by talking about what ever she changed the subject to then say by the way i forgot to answer you a minute ago then give her the answer whether she wants to hear it or not. Your boy friend may not have his mother around for too much longer so you need to try to help him cherish the time she has left on this earth.Be patient and try to accept her the way she is she will love you for that and so will your boyfriend. Good Luck.
2006-07-04 06:30:03 · answer #3 · answered by DD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have an idea (a little on the cruel side, but practical).
Just start saying "heart attack," around her all the time. When she asks you a question, and you know she's going to turn away, don't answer it. Just say, "heart attack." When she looks at you, "heart attack." When she's talking, interrupt her with it, "heart attack."
See, at her age, all you have to do is put the thought in her mind and pretty soon she'll just have one. And if she doesn't, at least you'll have made your feelings about her abundantly clear.
All the best.
2006-07-04 06:22:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is two females that both want control and they are just butting heads. This is what I am talking about how females play everyone. They a what to control men and there relationship. That is why guys are getting turned off from females. So get over it and grow up. lol
2006-07-04 06:21:22 · answer #5 · answered by houtexknights330 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is perhaps taking a day where your boyfriend is out of the house and you can sit down with his mom and perhaps speak to her about it. Ask her why she does it and let her know how it's affecting you. It's helpful to get along with someone so important in your boyfriend's life, also you might want to to ask your boyfriend to help you out, after all, it's not a one sided road and he knows his mother best after all.
I do hope this helps you somehow.
2006-07-04 08:42:41 · answer #6 · answered by swordsmanoflight21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men and their mothers!
She doesn't like the fact that you might possibly be more important to him than she is.
How did he react? Did he gloss over the incident, or was he willing to challenge her, and support you?
If he didn't give you back up, get out of dodge!
If he's also in his 40's and living with her, there's a reason for that! Trust me, you need to dump him!
2006-07-04 06:20:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how old they get mum's will always feel like you are stealing away their precious sons when you start going out with them.......i think its basic human nature (god knows why) just as long as your relationship with you boyfriend is great then just dont take into heart what she says
2006-07-04 06:58:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What was his response to his mother, if he defended you,ignore it , if he let it go in one ear & out the other he may not be the one for you. Maybe mom is in control or just not together in her head anymore?
2006-07-04 06:24:51 · answer #9 · answered by livlafluv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Unless she is senile, she is one rude witch. If she is still cleaning houses at 71 she will probably live a lot longer and is probably not senile.
2006-07-04 06:24:17 · answer #10 · answered by r0cky74 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats would hurt... i dunno,,, whats wrong with her cleaning houses? maybe she thinks you look down on her?? just food for thought... most mothers are weird with their sons wifes or gf's anyways.. you said the right thing anyways.. something i need to learn to do instead of saying nothing.. keep putting her in her place but in a nice way. It'snot fair she says things like that, your bf should tell her to back off
2006-07-04 06:26:53 · answer #11 · answered by springo88 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋