To be hurt by someone you have trusted a lot or
to be trusted by someone you have hurt a lot ?
2006-07-03 23:11:30 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Please do explain
2006-07-03 23:13:22 · update #1
Sometimes our own mistakes seem much bigger to us than they do to others who are affected by them. I think that it is often easier to forgive others than it is to forgive one's self.
I know from experience that I have truly wished for a friend to hurt me in return after I violated his trust. Not only would that pain be less - I felt it might relieve the pain and guilt I feel over what I did.
Knowing what I do now, I would much rather be the one to forgive than the one forgiven. No matter how much a friend may hurt you there is comfort in knowing that you've done nothing wrong. On the other hand, it is extremely difficult to comfort yourself after betraying a friend, no matter how forgiving that friend may be.
For me, it is much easier to cope with undeserved betrayal than undeserved kindness.
2006-07-08 18:45:08 · answer #1 · answered by ijuhyg 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
This is 2 different kinds of hurt. You're comparing apples and oranges. When someone you trust hurts you, it's got anger mixed in there somewhere and betrayal. When you are trusted by someone you've hurt, you didn't deserve that trust therefore it's more a guilt thing that after all you've done to hurt them, they still trust you. That's love, baby.
2006-07-04 06:14:57 · answer #2 · answered by axiomgeo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be trusted by someone you have hurted alot would be more painful. You would feel so guilty for what you have done and amazed at the power to forgive that the other person has, that has enabled them to trust you.
You would feel so humbled, so small in front of them and each time they look at you with those trusting eyes, the thought of what you did to them will keep on becoming more and more unbearable.
2006-07-04 06:45:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say both equally.--but with both there are different feelings involved but the same amount depending on what was done in either circumstance. But say that the same exact "hurt" was done in both examples.
Being hurt by someone you trusted a lot brings feelings of betrayal, feeling like a fool, humiliation, anger. But being trusted by someone you have hurt brings feelings of guilt, suspicion, feeling unworthy, sadness. Both can result in a lower self esteem. If they both can potentially result in the same overall effect, possible depression and low self esteem, than they are both equally as bad.
2006-07-04 06:28:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It hurts more when you are trusted by someone you have hurt a lot.why?When you are hurt by someone you trusted it gives you pleasure in pain.A feeling of deprival or neglect causes aloofness or lonliness,a feeling of melancholy which gives you a kind of pleasure.like when your excercise hard for the first time,the very nextday your body aches but it gives pleasure or like the pleasure we find in getting terrified while watching a horror movie.But when you are trusted by someone you have hurt,it gives you a feeling of guilt and this pain of guilt is like the pain of cancer or an ulcer which comes from inside the body and has no pleasure just pure pain.you just crave to go back to the moment you hurt that person and make up for your missdoing but you cannot.You have lost that moment and you cannot bring it back.These feelings hurt you the most.[sorry for the long explanation]
2006-07-04 12:19:46 · answer #5 · answered by bhgat9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be hurt by someone I have trusted a lot. To instill trust is something sacred and to be mad a fool because of that is very infuriating not to mention hurtful. To be trusted by someone you have hurt a lot is to be forgiven and how can forgiveness hurt, it would be a persons pride that would shame, and hurt them.
2006-07-04 18:08:58 · answer #6 · answered by harveyboxcar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
done both and To be hurt by someone you have trusted a lot hurts the most
2006-07-04 06:15:11 · answer #7 · answered by Melissa D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be hurt by someone you have trusted a lot.
We as humans cannot read others' minds,a nd thus we can't predict what they are going to do next. Likewise, we also can't prevent someone from doing something without knowing what is in their brain.
But if we see that we are being trusted by someone that we have hurt a lot, we atleast know that is our fault. Thus, we can at least change ourselves and prevent ourselves from hurting that person anymore.
2006-07-04 11:20:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely to be hurt by someone you have trusted alot. How could you trust the person to trust you if you've hurt them?
2006-07-04 06:14:10 · answer #9 · answered by judekatt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be hurt by someone you have trusted a lot
2006-07-04 06:13:01 · answer #10 · answered by nastaany1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋