I am a married 22 year old, with a one year old daughter. I have been attracted to women for quite some time, but never tried anything. I am a christian, but that has little to do with the matter. My husband doesn't seem to mind that I'm open to women, and has even mentioned threesomes with a woman if I want to. I've been called bi-curious, and know that I never really see myself with another man if anything happens to my husband. I'm confused about myself. Am I bisexual, or what? I have fantasies about myself with other women, and am turned on by other women. But I also am turned on by men too... I just don't see myself with any man besides my husband. Any advice is helpful, but please, no bashing. I know how cruel some so-called christians can be.
2006-07-03 22:49:16 · 8 answers · asked by Amanda H 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
before anyone says I should try a relationship with a girl or anything like that, I live in north Georgia... in a tiny town that has relatively no lesbians... none that I could be with anyway.
2006-07-03 23:02:22 · update #1
You've done the right thing, namely being honest about it with your husband.
If you enjoy intimacy with women as well as men, you're bi. Enjoy it.
2006-07-03 22:58:56 · answer #1 · answered by kx_wx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the idea of a threesome can be handled carefully but tread lightly there. It is like anything else once you have sex with someone you can't undo it. It would be best to find a person you do not see on a regular basis that you trust to be discrete, and if you do experiment with it. Afterward you need to make sure that your husband did not feel left out. Discussing the event before hand in an open and honest manner is the key find out how you both feel about anything that might come up during the act. Also find out any and all expectations you three may have about what will happen. I am saying like will he be allowed to touch the other person will he be able to have sex with the other person. What acts do you consider just between you and he and which acts need to be avoided. After the event the conversation needs to continue make sure he can honestly and consistently tell you every detail of how he was feeling throughout the whole experience. If there was any part of it he did not enjoy then he needs to be able to say that and you have to except it. Just as if there was something about him being with the other woman that you did not like then you need to discuss that and he needs to except that.
Good luck in making the right decision.
2006-07-04 02:50:12 · answer #2 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please hear me out before you accuse me of bashing...You say that you are attracted to women. I know of people who are attracted to children, animals and even inanimate objects. Whether or not you believe these attractions to be normal may bear some reflection as to whether or not your conscience is fully functional. Sure, our world is more modern and liberal in its thinking, but just because a thing turns you on doesn't make it the best overall choice for you, your marriage or your family. I have never known a married couple experimenting with threesomes that has survived. But don't just take my word for it--ask your parents...and your pastor.
2006-07-03 23:01:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know alot of couples that go for 3somes, sometimes it works, sometimes it backfires in your face......also consider that if you're trying to find out how you feel about making love to a woman would work if your husband is there.........you aren't totally free to do & say anything you want.......you'd constantly be aware of him, his feelings etc.......on the other hand, what if you or him got totally carried away with the other woman, someone could end up feeling left out, hurt, jealous........it can get really messy.....one of your replies lays out some good advice about talking before and after.........consider it good advice and go carefully with this decision, I've seen marriages break up over this as the woman discovers she'd prefer females exclusively.
2006-07-04 03:23:37 · answer #4 · answered by D~~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since your husband seems to be open minded to an idea of a threesome, are you wanting to try one. think what it could do to your relationship before you act on anything. try going to maybe a swingers club (look online for clubs in your area). not all swingers do full swaps. at the clubs are a good place to find single females and couples where just the females get together.
2006-07-10 15:20:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does sound like you might be Bi, BUT - ignoring possible sexuality, religon etc etc - you should remember you are in a commited relationship, it's great that you can be open with your Husband, however infidelity is still infidelity - the sex of the third party is irrelevant. 'Permission' has a habit of turning around later on and biting you in the Ar*e!
2006-07-04 04:35:23 · answer #6 · answered by susan69me69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first clearly consider the risks and rewards, then carefully decide what to do...cause even though your hubby seems okay with it (it's a common male fantasy), the very fear of losing you to a woman for good has to also be in his mind.
2006-07-03 23:06:26 · answer #7 · answered by sunshine25 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wish i was your husband lol
2006-07-03 23:58:59 · answer #8 · answered by pyro26jr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋