EVERYTHING WAS AS CLOSE TO PERFECT AS COULD BE UNTIL HE GOT ADDICTED TO METH... WHEN HE IS HIGH HE IS SO DIFFERENT..WHEN HE ISN,T HE IS THE MAN I LOOK OUT THE WINDOW WAITING 4 TO COME HOME FROM WORK...HIGH, I DREAD HIS CAR PULLING UP... I KNOW HE WILL NEVER STOP SO HOW DO I WALK AWAY AND NOT LOSE MY MIND HEART AND SOUL???
2006-07-03 22:33:31 · 48 answers · asked by gruvygirl_123 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
OMG! I just went through the exact same thing 7 months ago. Walking away is the hardest thing to do, but you have to. It is only a matter of time before he steals from you and becomes violent. He will start to hallucinate and suffer from meth psychosis. His paranoia will control his life and he will see you as the enemy. Be careful! His violence could turn to you and you could end up in the hospital like I did. You need to find help from a professional to work through all of this. But keep in mind you are worth so much more, and walking away now, doesn't have to mean the end forever. Let him know that you love him and if he gets help and is clean, you would love to try to work things out. Also offer to assist him however you need to in order for him to get the help he needs. But he has to want help, or it's all just a waste of time. If you need anymore advice or help I'd be happy to assist you. brightooeyes
2006-07-17 07:20:18 · answer #1 · answered by Dani California 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all, how do you "know" that he will never stop? This person is STILL the same person that you love. It's Meth that you should be mad at. It can take over your life. A LOT of good and even great people have made poor choices. One poor choice can lead you to where he is now...... I wish the world would understand that this is an addiction and it is so easily accessed. It's EVERYWHERE...
And what does society do???? They throw them in jail. They walk away. I think that this is just the EASY way out.
If you care for him at all you will be there for him. I would think that he needs you now more than ever.
Please talk to him. Try your hardest to understand his habit/addiction. Find a treatment for him. Suggest other "family" hobbies. Try everything you can.
And if he still refuses your care and help..... then you can say you at least tried. Then and only then can you feel good about your "GOODBYE".
Good luck....
2006-07-16 02:05:56 · answer #2 · answered by vhawn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does his family know about his addiction to meth? If so you can and his family should get together and do an "intervention" kinda thing. If that doesn't work then move on with your life. I know you said you love him but sometimes it takes losing everything he has before he will wake up and realize that he has a big problem. I went through this with my mom, except it wasn't meth it was pills. She passed away May 28 2006 due to an overdose. She did lose everything, including her life. If you need any more advice go to a meth addiction website. They usually have people you can call or e-mail for answers.
2006-07-19 03:57:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way to leave without it hurting. Just leave, it will hurt more the longer you stay. My Sister in law has been a meth addict for 32 years, in that 32 years she has drained the family both emotionally and financially. She will die before she changes. Just keep in mind the man you love doesn't exist anymore, a drug addict is in his place.
Go to counseling to help cope, but do leave him. You will find other happiness later on. You will never be happy with him now that he is an addict. You will be ok, just make a clean break. Good luck!
2006-07-11 08:36:53 · answer #4 · answered by jodi M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have already lost your heart and soul to this guy by loving him so much, what you will loose by staying is your mind, money, future of a family and maybe your life.
People who are addicted to drugs first and far most care about the drugs and how to get them. I have seen too many people loose everything, and I mean everything, because they have stayed to long with a drug addicted partner.
Do yourself a favor and get out of that situation before you loose everything and then still end up out of the relationship. You will heal over time from this guy, and the sooner you get out the sooner the healing process begins
2006-07-18 03:34:47 · answer #5 · answered by Joy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, drugs grab ahold of people and don't let go. He has to want to stop, and then if he can it'll be extremely dificult. But he won't stop for you or anyone else. It's not that he doesn't love you, I'm sure he does. You just have to cut your losses and walk away. It will feel like you're losing your heart and soul. There is no way around it. You can't continue to feel this way. Good luck.
2006-07-11 21:48:11 · answer #6 · answered by julielove327 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is time for you to say good-bye to this addict and move on with your very own precious life darling and I am so sorry you have to go through this. Meth is horrible. Saying goodbye is not going to be easy for you, but look at it this way.What is more important in your life right now is you and your safety. Get out of it, because I have seen people on Meth flip out. Their brains are sucked dry like a prune because the Meth is made with Anhydrous ammonia that just sucks every bit of moisture in his brain and leaves him for dead. GET OUT NOW!!
2006-07-17 07:03:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just pack your bags while he is at work. Before he comes home open the door, walk out, get in the car and drive off. DON'T LOOK BACK! You don't need to be around anyone doing that stuff because eventually they become violent. You don't want to put yourself in that position.
Good luck to you. There are plenty of other guys out there that don't get high on that crap!
2006-07-17 17:55:24 · answer #8 · answered by buzzbait0u812 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have my sympathy and in all honesty I can only suggest the following for you to do. When you read a book you move from chapter to chapter. You just have to realize that life is a series of chapters; as in a book. This chapter in your life has reached it's end and you have to move on to the next chapter. We never forget what happens in previous chapters; memories are always with us; but the events in the chapter we are living in take center stage. Stop beating your head on the wall in the here and now as meth is a killer and the fallout can be dangerous to you. You have no choice but to move on, painful as it may be. My best wishes to you.
2006-07-19 03:59:56 · answer #9 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through this recently with a guy who became evil when he drank alcohol. You've just got to turn around and walk away. Time will heal things, but you cannot stay put with someone who's completely altered by a chemical they can't put down. It costs too much emotionally, physically, and mentally to deal with. You don't have to lose your mind, heart and soul. They will hurt, but you carry them with you and hold them close until they heal. Time will ease your wound. Spend more time with your good friends that you've known for years. Humans are herd animals, and your heart will feel lighter knowing they care. Good luck to you.
2006-07-18 08:15:03 · answer #10 · answered by gilgamesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋