he treats me well, provides me comfortably and when he's with me he makes me feel like I'm the only woman for him. I only found out about the other woman after she came to me.
2006-07-03 22:31:52 · 38 answers · asked by dana d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
stupid
2006-07-03 22:33:30 · answer #1 · answered by Melissa D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As it is not stated, I'm not sure if you have a kid to think about, or are you just not sure what to do. Have you tried talking it over with your hubby? I'm sure he knows that you know of his relationship since the other woman came looking for you. Has he said anything about it? If you are still young and have a stable job, and not tied down with any children, then you should reconsider your current situation.
I've been through similar situations, except that my hubby does not treat me as well as yours. The only reason why I am still hanging on to my marriage is because i have a 4 yr old kid to think about. I have no wish for him to be brought up in an environment where he does not have a father, although his current presence does not make much of a difference.
2006-07-03 23:39:02 · answer #2 · answered by Bella dearie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is harsh to say, but yes, you're being stupid. Don't you think you deserve better? He should be doing all the stuff that you named that he's doing, and still not cheat! I have seen this with so many of my friends, and I don't understand why so many women tolerate this kind of behavior from their husband. It's not okay to cheat, there is no excuse for it, and it's just flat out wrong.
Do you think he is just going to stop doing it? If you're willing to put up with it, then why should he ever feel the need to stop? Find someone that is going to treat you with the respect you deserve.
2006-07-04 05:53:43 · answer #3 · answered by Naples_6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually contrary to popular belief you ARE doing the right thing! He is your husband! If you love him then let him do what he wants. Maybe take a look at yourself. Are you slobby? Overweight? Do you think any guy is going to be attracted and loyal to a girl that looks like shiz? Loose your flab, wear some makeup, dress sexy, and I guarantee he will dump this chick. Too many women nowadays forget the importance of looking sexy for their husbands. If they loose interest in you it's all your fault! But no, women always blame the man. Men are driven by feminity and sexyness, not cottage cheese and feminism. Women, listen up. Take a look at your European counterparts. Women here 30, 40, 50 years old still look HOT. Thin, miniskirts, feminine, you name it. Their husbands dont leave them. It's all your fault! Get him back! It's up to you.
2006-07-03 23:50:04 · answer #4 · answered by chessguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you're stupid or crazy you didnt know about it till just recently and you have to listen to yourslef would you be happy now knowing that theres another woman in his life? i wouldnt be hunny have some self respect and get out of that situation your man espacially your husband made a commitment to you and only you for the rest of his life and hes broken that you deserve much better than what hes giving you
2006-07-03 22:41:27 · answer #5 · answered by bobbo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not only stupid, but also big crazy! This man is using you and you think that you're benefitting from him eh!
Well, sweetie what you're doing now is you're trying to make yourself believe that it is not happening for real... well I gotta tell you IT IS FOR REAL! Don't fool yourself.... I say it would be best if you get out of it NOW!
If this man does not have enough respect for you to get a girlfriend while you are still married, he does not deserve to be married to you.
2006-07-03 22:58:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiving if you gave him a change up to 3 mths to dump the 3rd party. Stupid if you put up with him > 3 mths, crazy if more than 6 mths.
2006-07-03 22:41:09 · answer #7 · answered by melodyling 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your stupid for not standing up for yourself.Dont let him treat you this way.If you let him get away with this one,he'll do it again. Anyway,its his responsibility to treat and provide you comfortably. Dont let this be the reason for tolerating his cheating ways.
2006-07-03 22:38:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are both stupid and crazy..but if u are happy with the situation the way it is and you are OK with him sleeping with some one else then don't worry some ppl can live like that but personally i couldn't do it.
2006-07-03 22:35:39 · answer #9 · answered by BOO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're absolutely grazy but it's your life so if you're comfortable with it. What about AIDS? Does he only have one girlfriend and how can you be sure? This type of arrangement would definitely not work for me.
2006-07-03 22:35:01 · answer #10 · answered by SweetyPie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your husband. Ask him the real score. If he cannot leave his girlfriend, then you may leave. I do not think it will be fair for you to stay with a man who has a girlfriend on the side. :(
2006-07-03 22:34:18 · answer #11 · answered by Jo Ann 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋