Will he leave her for me? For the first time in seven years I have met someone I really love. Only thing is he is married. The woman he is married to is 11 years older than him She is 42 and he is 53 and I am 20 years old. I have only been dating him for since September 3, 2005 and from the day I started dating him he told me he needed just waiting for his daughter to turn 18 and to clear up finances before he leaves her. He bought a house with this woman but they have a girl who is 17 and a boy who is 20 togather. He is also trying to make me pregnant. I feel like 5 months is enough and I can not take it anymore. He is a really good guy and I love him but I don't know how much time I should give me. Please help me !
2006-07-03 22:26:56 · 67 answers · asked by Ginny C & Hobie D 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Whatever happened to marriage vows: for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do we part? I got news for you, sister, you're a homewrecker. And any guy who leaves his wife for his lover will be just as likely to leave his lover as well. If he's proving his unfaithfulness to his wife, then why should he stick with you?
My family was torn apart when my dad left my mom for another woman after 16 years of marriage. It shattered my brothers' lives. If you want to be responsible for contributing to that heartache and destruction in this man's family, I can't say I feel sorry for you.
2006-07-03 22:35:09 · answer #1 · answered by Pastor Chad from JesusFreak.com 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First of all.....if he is cheating on his wife, what makes you think he will not cheat on you? And in my experience once a cheater always a cheater. Trust me honey you don't want to go there! WALK AWAY WHILE YOU CAN. AND WHAT EVER YOU DO DON'T GET PG IT WILL ONLY MAKE THINGS WORSE. He is in mid life crisis!!! This is a big world and there is someone out there that will respect you, and himself much more than this guy!!! And you need to love yourself before you get into a relationship... if you loved yourself you wouldn't allow someone to lead you on like this. HE IS LIEUR!!!! Love is blind so.... Take those blinders off and run, run far away! And by the way if he does leave his wife.... do you really want to be a step mother to an 18 year old and 20? Kinda not good thing since your only 20??? Stop and think about??????? My sister did that and ended up 33 years old alone and childless.... funny thing she found a wonderful guy who is the same age as her and now havea happy family with 2 boys. You have a lifetime of happy memories or a life time of regrets. Your choice, so make it wisely. Good luck! And stop looking for a father figure in all the wrong places. Just trying to help!!! I am scared for you, not a good road you are traveling.
2006-07-15 20:27:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't wait anymore. He is not going to leave his wife. It's like the old saying "he wants his cake and to eat it too". He has his wife and family and loves that life, but he wanted a little spice on the side and he has you for that.
Under no circumstances should you be getting pregnant with this man (if you can even call him that!). he will not leave his wife even if you do and he probably will not support you or the child. Life will be very hard for you being so young and having a baby.
Please, please, leave him. He's only being so nice and telling you all you want to hear so that you will stay around. Don't do it. Value yourself more and just leave. No more time for him.
Don't see him, don't answer his calls, and don't have anymore sex with him. Don't listen to anymore of his excuses and reasonings and his declarations of love.
He's going to promise you the moon and tell you only a couple of more months, but it's never going to happen. Even if it did, would you trust him??? I sure wouldn't. If he is seeing you while he's married, what makes you think that he won't do the same thing to you?
You need and want someone to love only you. To be faithful to only you.
GET OUT NOW!
2006-07-05 07:30:27 · answer #3 · answered by 317bossyaussie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend, NOT in this age and time.......... A man telling you he'll leave his wife for you is totally way out of question....
Look for a guy who is closely your age and who'll appreciate you and know how much you are worth, you aren't even half his age, the question is can you cope? It's very OK to get down with more expirienced and matured men, but always remember karma, if this guy leaves his wife for you, he'll also leave you for someone else. Be wise now and get someone else, there's actually nothing wrong dating an older person, they understand better, but the problem is trying to make yourself an instrument in destroying another woman's home, you are a woman, what you wouldn't wish for yourself don't wish for someone else.
Be WISE love.
2006-07-03 23:10:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You and thousands of others! Chances are that you are not the first woman that he has cheated with, nor will you be the last. In addition, if it is your misfortune to end up with him what makes you think that he will not do the same to you? It may be helpful to seek counseling to figure out why you got involved with a married man in the first place. It seems that most of the time a man has a relationship outside of the marriage it is just for sex ....not because he has intentions of leaving his wife. From what I have seen in life the odds of him leaving are slim.
2006-07-04 02:37:12 · answer #5 · answered by frogsrfun 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You suck! With a 50 year -old- man? You are going to destroy his family, you are going to make him to leave his wife and kids? Your are 20, you have a life ahead of you/ You can get married, have kids. You don't have a future with him. He has lived his life, he got married, had kids. You know that you could be his daughter? And what about his wife? She is 42 years-old she can't move on with her life 'cause this man and kids are her life, and will be forever. And what do you mean by saying" I can't take it anymore"?You mean you have been waiting for 5 months for him to dump everything and come to you? You are a sick and bad person!O.K Let's say you get married to him. Then what?You will want some nightlife, but his is too old. Everyone will make fun of you and you can't take a 53 yer-old man who is in bed to sleep at 9 pm to go to a club at night! He doesn't have your stamina! You are in college and he is almost retired! Think about it! Sl*t !!!
2006-07-03 22:32:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anastasia A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're right....5 months is enough...Did you ever hear that expression, Why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free? You are young yet, sweetheart, there are alot of people in this world who will not treat you this way.
How can you say he is a nice guy.....he is cheating on his wife...lying to you (you are naive enough to believe him)...lord knows if you are the only side dish he has.
He told you what you needed to hear so he could get what he wanted. He got it...there is not reason to follow thru with leaving his wife and family.....move on hon.
2006-07-13 06:56:43 · answer #7 · answered by Wild seed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is trying to make you pregnant! Do you realise that you are not the only person he is sleeping with, he is also having sex with his wife. She is not to blame, YOU are the other woman. Its the oldest lie in the book, telling the thing on the side that they will leave their wives.. they wont. Why would he leave this woman who he has a life, a house and kids with for you? You already give him what he wants. a little nookie now and then. Grow up, open your eyes and for your sake do not have a child with a married man!
OMG i just read your other post - you are pregnant! what were you thinking...
2006-07-03 23:59:41 · answer #8 · answered by tay_jen1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you mean you let a guy shoot inside you for free and give you dreams and empty promises??
Serves you right for wrecking another person's husband.
I do feel bad telling you off but you should grow up and stop letting a man use your body and messing with your head.I believe you are beautifull.....there are other fish in the sea,don't take home a smelly leech.Make your parents proud.Never have children before marriage........it is not easy when a man is not commited to you.
2006-07-03 22:39:52 · answer #9 · answered by Firefly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, i am 22 years old and if i were you i would leave him, you have your whole life ahead of you, do you really want to have a child with this man who is so much older that you, i mean think of the child when it grows up and his or her dad is a pensioner and cant do the things that should be done with a dad. also if he has bought a house with this woman i don't think he will leave her he also has kids to her the same age as you, forget him and move on you will see light at the end of the tunnel soon. good luck.
2006-07-03 22:34:15 · answer #10 · answered by flanders 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋