My boyfriend and I had unprotected intercouse and now I am feeling extremly down and tired all the time and I constantly feel warmer then my usual body temperature!
I don't know what to do, I'm scared that I'm not ready for this and if I tell my boyfriend this he'll break up with me!
2006-07-03 22:12:27 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Don't stress yourself out over it - you don't even know if you are pregnant. Take a home pregnancy test. You can get them just about anywhere - WalMart, drug stores, etc. They are pretty accurate, so you don't need to get an expensive one; the cheapest ones work just fine. And if it turns out that you are pregnant, and he breaks up with you over it, then he is a loser and you are better off without him. He is responsible for his own actions so if it is true and he walks out on you, then he was not the right one for you in the first place. You are very young and a baby would be a big responsibility. I am wishing the best possible outcome for you.
2006-07-03 22:26:46 · answer #1 · answered by Jeannie 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I would say that the first thing you need to do is to talk to your parents because you will need their support. Second, take your mom or have her with you to buy a pregnancy test or to go a doctor. You might not be pregnant, it could be stress, hormones, maybe the food you're eating. If you are pregnant, you have several choices. I don't know your religious background, but some people might consider abortion. It is a huge responsibility and the consequences are physical, mental, and emotional. If you make this decision, you need to think long and hard, it's irreversible and will impact you for along time. If you choose to carry the baby full term, you can either choose to raise it or put the child up for adoption. If you have to make this decision, think about what is best for both you and the child. As for the boyfriend, he has a right too know. If he tries to shrug off his part, you need to get adults involved. He needs to face up to his actions and share the consequences. I know you're young and in love and don't want to hear this, but you're only 16. He will not be your last boyfriend. If you do decide to have sex again, you need to either get on the pill or start using condoms, you might want to consider both, actually. Because condoms do break and it is still remotely possible to get pregnant even on the pill.
2006-07-03 22:24:45 · answer #2 · answered by PinkBrain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that you feel his feelings are more important than yours. Pregnant or not, you should never try to hide anything from someone you say you love. If he breaks up with you because of something the both of you did together , would you really want to be with someone that brushed you off when he should be supportive of you and the baby?
You should be scared, you've taken the chance to end your fun days as of being a teenager because you decided to play with out thinking about the consequences. Don't forget that your parents will want you to be up front with them and if you all sit down and think about everything that this might do to you, you might do the right thing and put the babies feelings first instead of worrying that some boy is going to dump you for having his child. You need to get a pregnancy test and find out before you even start worrying. What ever you do, it's important for you to be straight on with both sets of parents. I wish you luck and I know deep down you can control your lust and start thinking of what will happen if you are tied down with babies at your age. You'll miss out on so much of what you should be learning and doing. Sex used to be a gift of love that two people have and save for when they are married. Now days it's jump in the hay and play. I wish you the best in what ever you do and you can succeed in anything if YOU do your best at it. :)
2006-07-03 22:24:17 · answer #3 · answered by Tainted_Halo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off take an at home test. If it's positive make a doctors appointment.
If it's positive you'll have to tell your boyfriend, and if he breaks up with you then he doesn't really love you anyway. I know it'll be hard to handle, but with strength and time you'll get through it.
If you are pregnant, you'll need to tell your parents, or at least the one you feel most comfortable telling first. You'll need help getting through everything. They might be mad at first, but they will get over it.
If you are NOT pregnant, then I think you seriously need to think about what you're doing. If you are willing to have sex, then you must know and understand the possible consequences and be willing to accept them as well. Things like pregnancy and STD's are real, and they can happen to anyone.
Good luck
2006-07-04 03:48:39 · answer #4 · answered by Jacob's Mommy (Plus One) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you do anything, take the pregnancy test. Until you know for sure, there is no point in making yourself sick about it. If its positive, then tell your mother first, the guy second. If you want, do adoption. It better than carrying guilt all your life over abortion. And alot of women that have abortions find later in life that the abortion messed them up internally and they can no longer have children. I was preggy at 17. My guy (later husband) and Mom supported me. For us, it was easier because I only had 4 months of highschool left before I graduated. My eldest is now 8 and I'd not trade her for anything, but those first few years were hard. But for future reference, don't have sex with a guy that isn't good enough to marry you. Adult choices result in adult consequences..
2006-07-03 22:19:06 · answer #5 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to own up missy, sorry to say.
Number one - if you ARE pregnant, you shouldn't be worrying about whether or not your boyfriend will break up with you - you now have a child in you, that YOU are now responsible for.
Take a test. If it's positive, tell your parents (yeah, it sucks - but we all know why you're in this position). Go from there.
2006-07-03 22:18:07 · answer #6 · answered by rsantos19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get an EPT (error proof test) pregnancy test to give yourself a definite result.
Next time use protection - if he doesn't want to - he's not the one for you... especially if you think he'll break up with you - if he's not willing to go through with the consequences then he shouldn't be setting up the opportunity.
2006-07-03 22:16:52 · answer #7 · answered by Marilynne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if you're dumb enough to have unprotected sex, you deserve the consequences. If he'll break up with you because you're pregnant, then let him go, because he's not worth being with. You really shouldn't be with any guy who would talk you into unprotected sex anyway. If you are pregnant, please don't abort the baby. If you're not mature enough to raise it yourself, then simply put it up for adoption. Abortion is murder, plain and simple. From now on, ALWAYS have protected sex. I hope this helps you.
2006-07-03 22:26:38 · answer #8 · answered by zaradulce02 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See girl before you do have sex you have to think of the negative side that is pregnancy. Now if you know your pregnant is too late to regret. Before you and your boyfriend have sex or be together as one you should know and confess that he is responsible for wat he did to you. If you get abortion you are killing one's life and is sinful. Think carefully and the baby in your womb is a human and has a life. Think his/she is sooooooo cute and the baby is so innocent.. clean without sins
2006-07-03 22:23:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wher u live? thers always help for this
thers lyk this thing in a place that whud help underage pregnant women. i dont know the number or anything but try to check online, n somtimes on here is no help at all
2006-07-03 22:27:49 · answer #10 · answered by Val 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋