so i have this friend, hes a guy. we ttlk everyday online. we usually hang out in groups of ppl, usually were all like a group of 6. i have numerious times hung out with him alone. hes shy, and inoccent, the opposite of me. i told him bout a month a ago i liked him. well long story short, he didnt feel the same. well i told him i had gotten over him, altho i havent. hes reely good at picking up vibes so ive been ultra cafeful not to leave any subtile clues. i dont kno wat to do anymore. the worse part is i told all my friends im over him which im not and now 1 of my friends likes him. she was the one i was gonna tell i still liked him. heeeellllllppppp, oh and im 14
2006-07-03 22:01:31 · 10 answers · asked by mofo 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
u dont think he wood change his mind? oh gawd i sound so pathetic
2006-07-03 22:13:30 · update #1
Well if he is not interested in you then there is nothing you can do. So what if your friend likes him. You will find someone else who likes you back. Don't worry about that guy. Boys come and go espically at your age.
2006-07-03 22:05:58 · answer #1 · answered by jj02 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You've gotten some good advice, especially from millancad.
The only thing that I would add, just so you know. Is that it doesn't change when you get older. When you have feelings for someone of the opposite sex and you're not sure if they feel the same way about you, the best way is to talk with them about it.
When both feel the same way, it's wonderful, when they don't, it's hard. You just have to give it time. You are starting to learn about boy's and you are starting to learn about yourself. You will have to learn a lot about both before you know yourself enough and men enough to choose which man is the right one for you to marry. You are right at the beginning and you have a lot of time.
Most people encourage people at your age to not be too serious about one person and date a number of different boys on more of a friend basis. That way you can meet more boys and find out more about their differences and how you respond to those differences. Please don't rush into sex. Besides religious reasons and the risks involved, having sex with someone changes our feelings about them and makes this whole learning process harder. Find out as much as you can about yourself by getting into different fun and learning activities.
It also helps to be yourself so that others get to know the real you. I hope I haven't got too preachy. I wasn't planning to say so much. It's just that I started to think about what a wonderful girl you seem to be and I started to say things that I would have said to my daughter at your age.
2006-07-04 06:09:33 · answer #2 · answered by Smartassawhip 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 14, same age as me. I've got a great guy friend whom I really like as well. You are a braver girl than I to have told him.
If he is not into you, then he is not into you. It's difficult to deal with. You've lit a candle for him, but you can't hold it forever. The wax will drip onto your fingers and burn you. You don't know when he;s going to come to you, if he ever does, so for now, put that candle down. Don't blow it out, just leave it. Don't forget you like him, just leave the issue alone.
It's hard. I tried to not like a guy. I could only not like him for a month or so, it was too obvious to my brain that that wasn't what my heart really fely. Admit to yourself that you like him, but remind yourself that now is not the time. Think about other things, going out with your friends, reading and seeing movies. And maybe explain to him that for a while, you need your space. Just to let you soothe those burns. He can come back when your hand isn't still so hot.
As for your friend, tell her. Tell her what you're feeling. Since she is the one you were going to tell, I'm guessing she's your best and most trusted friend, right? Well then she will understand, and won't go out with him.
2006-07-04 05:13:33 · answer #3 · answered by millancad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're at a time in your life when things can be very confusing- especially with all the 'culture' hype. It's so so difficult to be still; to focus on the things that are really important. You're infatuated with this guy. The way to deal with this is to focus on something else while you GROW! Try school, or a hobby, or some volunteer work. Better still, attempt to discover why you exist.
2006-07-04 05:52:14 · answer #4 · answered by ChildofGrace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's great that you are bold enough to tell him.. and that he was brave enough to let you know he isn't feelin you in that way. Cuz that means you're both smart and honest people. But,,, he can't possibly be the only guy in your world? I remember crushes when I was 14... and it's hard to get past the fact that you can see every way that things would work out perfectly... Basically.. look around, get to know other guys... he probably isn't the first.. and he DEFINITLY won't be the last... Believe me...as soon as you start focusing on something other tha HIM... you might notice who is looking at you. God Luck.
2006-07-04 05:08:57 · answer #5 · answered by Brooklyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Little sister- he already told you, he's just not into you. Let him go, and focus your attention elsewhere; there are many other fish in the sea.
2006-07-04 05:08:07 · answer #6 · answered by funigyrl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just kick his *** a couple of times and then put on ur sexiest smile and spread ur u-no-what..and if he still is a dumbo ... kick his *** againg n ditch him on a grave
2006-07-04 06:24:45 · answer #7 · answered by vrborn2njoy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait ...... things'll change for the better
2006-07-04 07:33:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know
2006-07-04 05:17:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOB LOB LOB!
2006-07-05 02:50:44 · answer #10 · answered by ruby f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋