Ok there's this one girl i have fallen in love with. I've known her for about a year and we've gotten very close. we have been there for each other plenty of times. I have helped her with every relationship problem she has encountered and through the times we've been together i have developed feelings for her. in fact, i fell in love with her the first they i met her. But lately i have been helping her in her current relationship and all is well. Its just that it hurts so much just to help her with her relationship. There is just so many thing i wanna tell her. should i say something or just lay back and hope these feelings go away?
2006-07-03 21:58:57 · 18 answers · asked by Aljohn T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I am actually in the same boat myself.
The fact is, she knows how you feel about her and she does not have the same feeling for you. You need to decide if you want to continue with the friendship or not.
If the answer is YES - be there for her and don't do ANYTHING to sabotage her relationship with the other guy. She will appreciate you for that,
If the answer is NO - break it to her in a non-threatening way that you are having a hard time being just a friend with her since she is involved with somebody else. Tell her that you have grown to love her and want more of a relationship than just a friend but you do not want to interfere with her current relationship so you feel that you need to step way back so it doesn't hurt so much.
Either way, she will know how good a friend you are and, possible, she will seek you out if things fail with her current bf.
Good luck!
(BTW, I have chosen to remain best friends with my friend even though it does pain me at times. I want to be there if she falls and show her that I am there for her.)
2006-07-03 22:06:50 · answer #1 · answered by mgctouch 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sure you could tell her but if she is seeing you as a really good friend you could put that relationship in danger.
Its hard because if you move on and find another girl you will need to stop seeing this girl first as you cannot simply stop loving someone. (and you feelings will not just go away)
If you feel that the relationship you have with this girl could stand up to knowing how much you care for her then tell her but also dont think this will get you anywhere as she may have excatly the same feelings for her fella!
2006-07-03 22:10:02 · answer #2 · answered by bugmonsta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relationship problem she has encountered and through the times we've been together i have developed feelings for her. in fact, i fell in love with her the first they i met her. But lately i have been helping her in her current relationship and all is well. Its just that it hurts so much just to help her with her relationship
2006-07-03 22:03:38 · answer #3 · answered by siddu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you tell her how you feel. What have you got to loose? If she feels something similar for you then you only gain. If she doesn't understand and doesn't feel the same, at least you'll know that you've told her how you feel. Think of it like this: If you never get the chance to tell her again, how would you feel? Like my mom always said: 'Don't go anywhere without telling someone you love how you feel, you might just never get the chance to do so.' Hope all works out!!!!!!
2006-07-03 22:08:42 · answer #4 · answered by beau_bitchy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to distance yourself from this girl...if you can...
I once went out with a girl...when we finished we were still friends, but couldnt bear to listen to her talking about the other people in her life.....this is fairly similar to what you are going thro...
has this girl shown any love interest in you....if not then that should tell you something...
get an activity that will take you away from her (as much as this hurts...and as much as you dont want it..!!)..this way you might find somebody that you can love/like form the start..
Michael
2006-07-03 22:04:15 · answer #5 · answered by michael h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's an awful situation.. Well, i guess you are really very kind to help her in her relationship despite the fact you love her... But then... you still have to consider your feelings and i guess it should be recognized... Wait for the right time to tell your feelings to her... just tell it to her... if she didn't recognize your feelings for her then let it go... You can still be her best buddy and find someone who will love you... you deserve a lot for being patient and kind... goodluck! ♥♥♥
2006-07-03 22:06:17 · answer #6 · answered by kellie_nice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a gentlemen and just wait. Trust me if you are a good friend to her she will have to see you sooner or later.
Us female have a tendency to miss what right in our face.
Stay friends with her and see her. You really care about her and these other cats are just fly by nighters. When you get your chance step in and let her know. You will know when.
Just be patient. And be ready.
2006-07-03 22:07:24 · answer #7 · answered by Erica T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her - "I am in love with you and am not going to help you with these other guys anymore. I want you to myself."
It may sound risky to you - but why are you helping her with other people? What is keeping you from telling you how YOU feel?
2006-07-03 22:04:45 · answer #8 · answered by beach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u real feel for the gal .tell her coz love never goes away.the long u wait the haird it will become to tell her .so do whats right .be a man tell har .good like
2006-07-03 22:06:59 · answer #9 · answered by IDEON 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love her, you should be happy for her happiness. But if you want something more, tell her about your feelings, about your dreams, about your plans...that she is the owner of everything you got: mind, body, soul...
2006-07-03 22:02:28 · answer #10 · answered by ota marmota 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋