why are most in -laws so nasty to the( wives) in the family?

Question

They are nice b/4 u got married to their brothers but immediately u becomes the "mrs" they start showin u that u are an outsider in the family.

Answer 1

jealous of the love that their brother is getting and giving to someone other than themselves

Answer 2

You'll be an outsider (in the larger family) for about thirty years. That's just how it is. I lucked out, my in-laws turned out to be fantastic!!
Try (just once!) to sit down and have a deep conversation with them about... anything! Ask their advice, "agree" with them emphatically, say "I can tell you've always been so spiritual"... all that crap. See if it softens them some.
It's interesting to note your own mentality as a parent.... in my mind I already approve of the boy my daughter will choose (20 years before she meets him) :) But I know in my bones one son would marry his first love (he might very well "marry down") but the other son might not get married at all (just a feeling, he's a momma's boy) and I'll just have to accept the sweet young thing he brings home at 40 and bless the union (even though she and I might just have plumbing in common).
Hope that helps!

Answer 3

You are an outsider who has just become an insider. Give the inlaws some slack. They are still trying to figure out how you fit into the picture. Do all you can to make them comfortable and happy with the choice their brother has made in bringing you into the family. Let them know how happy you are to be there. Don't expect and you won't be disappointed. "Give and it shall be given unto you, pressed down and shaken together". I hope you could take the "high" way with your inlaws, it will pay future dividends that will knock your socks off.

Answer 4

Because they see you as a threat. My father-in-law didn't like me because I was different to the way he managed his family. On holiday they got up at 6, Igot up at 8. I like experimenting and love cooking things like beef wellington, they only eat "plain food" . I expect my husband to treat me with respect, they believe a women is a second class citizen. They're all thin and weigh themselves every morning, I'm a bit overweight. That's a big sin! And of course, their son is happily married which they take as a rejection of their values.

Answer 5

My inlaws have hated me since before we got married. They try to act all fake towards me now that we have a child (I guess they think if I think they like me I'll be more likely to bring their nephew/grandson around more often)

But back to the question, i think inlaws don't like daughter-in-laws because it's "taking their babies away"
I know my husband is a mamma's boy, and on more than one occasion since I've had my son she's said to me, "Remember you'll always be the first woman in his life." What the hell is that supposed to mean? Is she trying to tell me something? Also it sucks if your husband's family has more money than yours. A lot of times they'll think that their son have married "down". (I get that feeling from my in laws as well) Anyway, you get the picture.

Answer 6

Sometimes the adjustment is difficult for them...the best thing you can do is just be yourself and overlook these initial insecurities...work together to create harmony in the family...and if things do not improve discuss the best way forward with your husband...I wish you much happiness in your married life together!

Answer 7

Someone at school is called Indiana Jones, she just gets called Diana though most of the time....

Answer 8

They are giving up someone they spent time and care raising to someone inferior, in their eyes anyway. I czan expect the same treatment from my mother in law!

Answer 9

they are like that because you took something from them, their baby boy, you are now part of the family and they dont have to be nice anymore.you already won the guys heart.

Answer 10

Where do you live? I've never seen in-laws treat their daughters badly.