I have been talking to this guy for 2 months and we've been dating for 2 days. Now, he's very charming, smart, athletic. the only flaw is that he is 19 and the age isn't very popular with my dad. Since it isn't popular with my dad, it isn't popular with my mom. Nor is it with my sister and it won't be with my brothers. I really like him a lot a lot. I'm not going to break up with him, but my family feels like I'm defying my father and that it is the devil trying to break up the family...
2006-07-03 20:14:41 · 6 answers · asked by NachoGirlfriend_16 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have been talking to this guy for 2 months and we've been dating for 2 days. Now, he's very charming, smart, athletic. the only flaw is that he is 19 and the age isn't very popular with my dad. Since it isn't popular with my dad, it isn't popular with my mom. Nor is it with my sister and it won't be with my brothers. I really like him a lot a lot. I'm not going to break up with him, but my family feels like I'm defying my father and that it is the devil trying to break up the family...
just added and for bckgrd
i'll be out the house in 9 months {i am a senior} and i don't plan staying where i am. but where i plan to go isn't far from where he is originally from.
also, it isn't like they disagree w/ me talking to him {of course daddy still does}, but they just don't like us going together.
still a no no?
2006-07-03 20:36:46 · update #1
19 and 16 is a ratio that always brings down Dad's wrath. The way I dealt with it was by telling my daughters that 16 is a crucial age. The decisions you make now will affect you the rest of your life. It's not like 12 years old or even 15 years old. At 16 you're probably a sophomore in high school and that's a difficult spot for all teens but particularly for girls.
Talk to your friend and explain to him that you like your relationship but your parents are very uncomfortable with it, tell him that he needs to step up and make himself transparent and accessible to your parents.
Look, if you are in Love (Which I think is possible but doubtful) and this is THE guy then he'll still be THE guy when you're done with school, which hopefully will be when you're 20 or so (I'm thinking Collge or Tech School at the very least) which will put him at 23 or so. Nothing wrong with being patient.
2006-07-03 20:33:03 · answer #1 · answered by Dahs 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is how I see the problem: You would rather continue on in a fleeting relationship with a 19 year old kid than to listen to those around you who know and love you the most. In other words, you would rather have this 19 year old kid break up your family because YOU, a 16 year old, not even grown yet, little girl don't want to stop seeing him. If that isn't defiance then I wish someone would define it for me. Obey your parents and wait until you are grown and on your own to do your own thing!
2006-07-03 20:27:08 · answer #2 · answered by Ann's Husband 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that dating a 19 year old when you are 16 is not the best idea. Most boys that age are after one thing. Your dad is just trying to protect you from getting hurt. Thats what your parents are for.
~Now think of this from another prespective: If you were 19 would you be interested in dating a 16? Be honest with yourself.
2006-07-03 20:20:41 · answer #3 · answered by jj02 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 16 and at that age. Asked your self this, are you defying your father and mother? You know what is right and good, it up to you to choose.
2006-07-03 20:20:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you go for it girl! I am with you all the way. I don't think it's bad at all!!.....remember: age ain't nothing but a number!
2006-07-03 20:27:34 · answer #5 · answered by onlyxone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you are 18, you have the right to make that decision. until then, obey father.
2006-07-03 20:19:59 · answer #6 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋