Solitude: Is it natural to enjoy it more than being around others?

Answer 1

It can be. Introverts find energy and peace in solitude, while being with people draws their energy. Extroverts are the opposite.

Answer 2

It depends. I am a part-time poet and writer, so I must have solitude and quiet time. In all honesty, I prefer the company of men over women. My sister has some friends I hang out with from time to time and I know some girls from work. A man simply develops a routine and works around you. Since I cannot be distracted by excessive needs for attention or melodramatic displays of any sort, a man doesn't bother me when I am working. Also, they take more of an interest in reading because they often have trouble communicating and like reading what you think instead. They are more comfortable with reading a book about a difficult topic than discussing it. Since I am very accepting and compassionate, they can open up with me.

I don't mind large crowds when I am out, but I cannot stand dozens of children. I like one or two but not a whole daycare.

Answer 3

I believe that some people are comfortable enough with themselves and have enough interests that they can pursue alone that they are more comfortable in a solitary state of being.
When I was younger, in my 20-30's I really felt that I needed to be with someone most of the time and found that I was easily bored when alone. As I got older and found more interests, developed new hobbies,habits, and learned to enjoy being with myself, I have found that many times I prefer solitude to constant activity and company. As a matter of fact I have gotten to a place where I can be down right agitated when one of my kids calls or shows up unannounced and intrudes on my plans for a day to myself.
So, yes it can be natural to prefer solitude to being around others as long as it's self imposed because you enjoy it and not a result of a psychological problem like "social anxiety disorder".

Answer 4

I suppose it's natural because I've been like that all of my life. Most of the time I prefer to be alone. Even if I'm with someone who's similar and shares the same interests it's not as enjoyable as doing things by myself. I have a tendency to go into bouts of deep introspection and I don't want anyone to interrupt my thoughts. Even friends and family members seem annoying just because I don't feel a desire to be around them unless there's a good reason for them to be there. For me it's stressful to have to worry about my relationships with others and any obligations I may form that will make it difficult to do the things I want later on. Some people are just born with a strong inclination for emotional and mental independence. Most other people can't relate and that's why they think there's something wrong with the person. Only because people in general a very social and the only sense of who they are is based on others reactions towards them.

Answer 5

It isn't a matter of it being natural or not.

If you enjoy the company of people then it is because you have a lot in common with those people. If you enjoy solitude, then that is simply a reflection of the fact that you feel a disconnect between yourself and the other people you come into contact with.

If I enjoy, say, riding my bike for certain reasons and in a certain way, and if I have a very articulate and pronounced enjoyment of that activity, then I will enjoy it most if I find someone who enjoys it the same way to do it with. If I can't find someone like that though, then I will enjoy it most by myself.

If, for instance, you ride a bike and you like to really push yourself to the limit and ride long distances in different conditions, and you even get a kind of pleasure out of headwinds, uphill stretches, etc. etc. etc., but you go riding with someone else who complains in a head wind or on an uphill, and doesn't want to ride that far or that hard, then your energy and drive and vigor will contrast so violently with their softness and laziness that you will begin to wish they weren't even there.

So if you enjoy solitude, then it reflects that you are not finding commonality, intimacy of spirit and desire in your relationships, etc. etc.

Answer 6

YES! ABSOLUTLY
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Everyone needs their privacy with peace, calmness and uninterupted solitude.
You will always enjoy the company of your friends and family but it can leave you with stress, even though you enjoy the company and all thr fray.

To be at your best emotionally and phisicly, it is imperitive to have alone time for a few days or even a couple of weeks.

It depends on just how hectic your lifestyle is.

Very good idea. That is what all the movie stars do, as well as regular people who are surrounded by loud noises and a hectic schedule.

Even if your lifestyle is not that hectic, we still need to take care of ourselves and be alone to just take in the peacfulness of it all.

Some require more down time than others. Some can tolerate more stress than others. We can't ALL be alike.

Find your space and embrace it!

Answer 7

Canada provides the US with more imports than any country. but 99.99% of Americans never get the answer to that question right. They will endlessly debate about it but they are consistantly wrong.

Source: CIA World Factbook
Imports - partners: Canada 17%, China 13.8%, Mexico 10.3%, Japan 8.7%, Germany 5.2% (2004)

Alternate source Wikipedia "Canada has a close relationship with the United States, sharing the world's longest undefended border, co-operating on some military campaigns and exercises, and being each other's largest trading partners"

Answer 8

It's good to be with yourself, to love yourself, and to do what you really want. Sometimes you need that more than other times. A stronger sense of self will lead to better relationships and that is ultimately important to being healthy. Perhaps peple have been selfish with you or using you? Make sure you stand up for yourself without viewing others as enemies. And forgive them.

Answer 9

It's OK! Everybody should spend some time alone thinking! It gives you the opportunity to reflect on situations/experiences you've been through and get prepared for your next steps in life!
But sometimes it can become a habit, so don't let it happen!

Answer 10

I hate being in social groups, I hate family functions, and I hate that it seems to bother my wife and sister-in-law so much. But you know what...It bothers them and not me, I'm happy with who I am and how I feel about having friends, so I say solitude is fine